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does sex on a first date make a girl cheap

  1. bruce_king profile image53
    bruce_kingposted 8 years ago

    does sex on a first date make a girl cheap

  2. Rangerwife profile image55
    Rangerwifeposted 8 years ago

    If a female had sex on the first date, I wouldn't put her down by calling her cheap. I think there's something deeper there, such as self confidence issues or pain in her past caused by her family or by other men.  Strong, beautiful women with self confidence don't need sex on the first date.  If she has a healthy life, she's probably going to wait and test out the relationship first.  I think it's "cheap" of a man to ask if a woman is "cheap" for sleeping with him on a first date.

  3. Parentinghelp profile image36
    Parentinghelpposted 8 years ago

    No it doesn't but it might send the wrong idea to the guy what kind of relationship they are pursuing. "Absence (of sex) make the heart fonder". Like Ann Bolyen, refusing sexual favour from King Henry made him head over heels for her.This is the triumph card, don't "show hand" easily.

  4. mintinfo profile image76
    mintinfoposted 8 years ago

    Sex on the first date implies that it wasn't a date at all but rather the fulfillment of a yearning. Mostly on the woman's part because a player will always steal home base if there are no visible obstructions. You can only feel cheap if you want to and possibly expect to have a serious relationship with that person after.

  5. stricktlydating profile image83
    stricktlydatingposted 8 years ago

    It really depends on both person's intentions. I personally wouldn't like to sleep with someone on a first date. I hardly know him yet, however I also know women who have and have ended up 'happily ever after' even though they did sleep with him on the first date (or not even a first date - the first time they met!).

  6. pokey29 profile image57
    pokey29posted 8 years ago

    If the feeling is right why not, and that doesn't make her cheap, just says that she knows what she wants. Its call passion. And does it really have to be a date, what if you meet someone in the elevator and sparks fly.

  7. ianbrad55 profile image57
    ianbrad55posted 8 years ago

    Sex on a first date is up to the two individuals on the date, however like other have said it does give the wrong impression. I also think if you are trying to build a relationship with a person and you have sex on the first date you are starting off on the wrong foot. A relationship shouldn't be based on sex because it will never last long term, a relationship should begin with building friendship, communication, and definitely trust in order to achieve not only a great relationship but great sex.

  8. profile image0
    reeltaulkposted 8 years ago

    if you have sex with her you are cheap as well!   If you express cheap behavior----then there you go...... 

    btw just read mintinfo comment.....didn't think of that you hit the nail right on the head.  Sometimes it just really is all about you!  You can't always call it like you see it, unless it is indeed...... Consistent

    Vonda G. Nelson

  9. dabeaner profile image56
    dabeanerposted 8 years ago

    Why is sex on the first date "getting off on the wrong foot"?  That is a artifact of the stupid religions most of you, even if not wacko believers, are still under the influence of.

  10. kess profile image61
    kessposted 8 years ago

    Our opinions matters little. Truth tell the whole story and it's already is saying that illicit sex makes a woman cheap and a man stupid.

    Should they heed the voice of truth, they both will not seek after such.
    But if they ignore truth, then they both are on a downward spiral.

    It bothers me when most readily and openly affirm the obvious wrongs.

    For I know that the good in each of us desires to be faithful to their unspotted spouse.

  11. DatingDragons profile image51
    DatingDragonsposted 8 years ago

    there are first dates and there are first dates.  let me explain.

    if you slept together after just going on one date with little beforehand, the relationship may be looked at at being just physically based.

    if however you have been friends for years and finally decide that you are an item, i think sleeping together is just a rapid progression in the relationship.

  12. Vicky Webb profile image57
    Vicky Webbposted 8 years ago

    depends on the persons involved and situation, but personally I believe if a woman has sex because she wants to and not because she feel she has to, to keep a man , then she's not cheap , she know her own mind, but unfortunatly many woman have sex because they feel obliged to, and that is wrong, but it still doesn't make you cheap , it makes you a case of low self esteem.

  13. Dynicky profile image59
    Dynickyposted 7 years ago

    My answer is NO.  There are plenty of long term relationships that have lasted for years, even ended with marriage where two people decided to have sex on the first date.

    I don't think its a gender thing.  Its just a choice and depends on how both parties are feeling that night.

    I feel that what is meant to be will be regardless of whether you sleep with the person early or not.

    If its not the guy for you, it is what it is no matter what you do

    If it is the guy for you, he is going to think an angel just fell from the sky no matter what