Here's one for you. So my husband up and told me he has had contact with his ex-girlfriend. She...
is coming to our area and he is going to have a meeting with her. I told him I didn't want him to go and he was defensive saying that he never did anything with her and what is the big deal. I still don't want him to go. Am I unreasonable?
Unless you are prepared to push the issue, you are going to have to trust him. I'm not sure that you are being unreasonable; but, trusting each other to behave in specific situations is part of marriage.
I would let him go and let him know that while you have misgivings, you trust and love him. If it is a one-time meeting, you're got nothing more to worry about.
Hoping for the best for you!
I don't think you're bing un-reasonable. I think he is. I would not want my partner organising to meet up with his ex-girlfriend and expect me to be okay about it, and I'm not even married. I mean after he has his meeting with her, what's going to happen after that? Is he then going to receive regular calls from her? Requests to help her out with this or that around the home? Re-newing his relationship with her can only lead to trouble and heart-break. I would inisist he respects your feelings and not go. If he thinks it's no big deal, then it shouldn't be a problem for him to cancel his date with her. A married man shouldn't have meetings with an ex-girlfriend especially meeting up alone (I gather he didn't invite you). Stand your ground, if his actions are hurting you.
U arnt UNREASONABLE at all....u hv rights to stop him....and..wots gonna happen aftr dat meeting? Their picture w'll start...can u drop me der?...can u pick me up?....m alone at home can u join me?....hv dinner wit me...it ll go on & on....Bla Bla Bla....
No you are not being unreasonable. If the shoe was on the other foot,he wouldn't want to wear it. He is a married man,the past is the past. Leave it there. She is just wanting to cause trouble. Been there done that,seen it first hand. Shes a trouble maker. Trying to relive her past with him.One meeting will lead to two and so on. Then the minute you and him have problems. She will be his first call. Tell him to get rid of the peter pan analogy and just be a man and grow up. I agree stand your ground. Are just show up where he is. Good luck.
Having been married 25 years, I would let my husband go. He knows I do not mess around and will not accept it from him. He was friends with all of his girlfriends also and would probably like to catch up. On the other hand, my husband would not go without me. He would drag me along. Trust is something that we each have to decide on for ourselves. If he is going to cheat on you, he will. At least, he told you about it.
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