Ive been with my bf for almost 3 years. I need to know when its time to give u

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   _ineed2Bprttyagn_posted 15 years ago

   Ive been with my bf  for almost 3 years.  I need to know when its time to give up.
   
   Ive loved him from day 1, but i cant help but feel like he's holding me back. i have dreams of becoming a lawyer. i moved across the country with him 2 have a new expierence, go to school and start our lives. but ive done nothing but. ive lost my license to drive, i owe banks and court fines (dnt ask, long story) and ive lost contact with all my friends basically. Im taking a step forward by moving back closer to home, but im afraid hes just gonna hold me back more. I love him, I really do. But maybe what i thought was true love, but maybe ive grown out of him...
   Help plz. Rly need advice

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   scrambleposted 15 years ago

   If its been that long and you're having these thoughts then I think it really is time to move on.

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   wychicposted 15 years ago

   I know it sounds really cliche and corny, but you're the only one that's going to know when it's time to move on, and when it's time you'll definitely know it. I had dozens of people tell me this when I was with my ex-husband and I never believed any of them, until the day that everything just clicked and I really WAS ready and I knew it. By waiting for that realization I probably saved myself a lot of pain, heartache, and double-guessing, and ended up being able to walk away without shedding a single tear or feeling anything other than relief.

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   rajivnandyposted 15 years ago

   well .....u say u love him  but ask yourself does he love you the same way u do ...because if not then i say that he's not your man . Otherwise if he truly loves u then he will stand by your side whenever you are in jeopardy. Time is now ...test your bf's loyalty and faithfulness and if he doesnt do good then i say its time to say goodbye .Your friends will always be your true well wishers and stand by you whenever needed so please get in touch with your friends.Remember you are the creator of your own destiny.

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   M.s Fowlerposted 15 years ago

   It sounds like he's using you but only you can tell. You may want to move on and continue your life and keep in touch with friends because it will take time but you will get over him!

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   stricktlydatingposted 15 years ago

   It does sound like you've outgrown him, or you're realising that your relationship is holding you back from achieving your dreams, and has put you into a 'rut'.   Seems like you've done a lot for love in this relationship but you're realising it's not the way you want to live, and you want other things in life.  I think you should follow your dreams...

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   gramaryeposted 15 years ago

   Sound like you are ready to move on to me... Live your own life!

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   jasper420posted 15 years ago

   sounds like you and boyfreind need to have a talk dose he know your dreams take my adivice if you want to chase your dreams and achieve them that needs to come first for you and for him dont let any one stop you from having a fucture

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   padmendraposted 15 years ago

   I think you are ditching yourself. In this way no one is sure when to leave but if the feeling of this kind has percieved in your mind, you should waste no time in taking decision. But make it sure that you will not turn back if you give up and leave him.  The roots of your friendship were so weak that only after 03 years, you starting feeling of deserting him. Whatever happened to you was not because of your bf but it was due to negligence.Dont be confused , if you are confused, life will give you nothing but repenting on the mistakes you have done.

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    NorthEast Timberposted 13 years ago

    To me you just sound like an immature little girl who wants to be free and is blaming all  her bad choices on someone else. 
    
    If your dreaming of becoming a lawyer I guess that will probably be beneficial, but I hope first you work on your spelling, capitalization and punctuation.  I would never hire anyone to defend me who is so careless with not only their own life but with their representation of themselves, such as you've done.
    
    Sorry girl, not pleasant to hear, I'm sure, but if you didn't want honesty don't ask for advice.

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