how do i get him back?

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   mili23posted 14 years ago

   how do i get him back?
   
   me and my fiancee was in a relationship for 8 years and out of nowhere he says he needs to figure things out that his love hasnt changed but he needs time to put his life together wtf so i said i will not be put on hold to go and sort things out but that i was gone i picked up and left moved out and changed my number i miss him terribly but i was good to him and i know i couldnt have loved him any better i have not called him and i kept my distance but this is killing me

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   Simone Smithposted 14 years ago

   My guess is this is the hardest part.  Try to focus on simple things- on improving your own life and taking care of yourself.  With time, things will become more clear.  For now, you just need to ride things out.
   My heart goes out to you, and I wish you all the best!

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   stricktlydatingposted 14 years ago

   It's only natural that you'll feel a great deal of emotional pain since your relationship was serious, you were together eight years and engaged.  But you seem to know that you loved him as much as you could and didn't do any wrong by him, so when he wanted time out of the relationship for whatever reason he had,  you granted his wishes somewhat by moving out and changing your number.  It seems like you've done the right thing, and he hasn't made an effort to try to come back to you having sorted out his issues and try his best to make it up to you.  So as much as it hurts when something special ends it sounds like, at least at this stage, that he's not worth going back to.  I think he's broken your heart and that's why it's so hard for you, really only time can heal this.

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   Drew niteposted 14 years ago

   I am sooo sorry that that happened to you. I have to tell you, I believe that you did the right thing. It hurts, and it is understandable that it would hurt. I mean, that is eight years of your life.
   
   My best advice to you know is to treat yourself: get a pedicure, a manicure, get your hair done, get a beautiful dress and remember that you are beautiful and a wonderful person who deserves someone as great as you.
   
   Cry no more, and try to love again. Do new things. Meet new people. Just begin to enjoy life again.

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   EltMrxposted 14 years ago

   Don't worry about meeting anyone new. Give yourself some time. It kind of sounds like you're being selfish. To me it seems like he is not happy with his life and is trying to make it better. If you want to be with him then give him some time and support him. Until then focus on yourself for awhile.

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