I was with my boyfriend for 3 years. My ex boyfriend told me he hasn't been in

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   kat11223posted 14 years ago

   I was with my boyfriend for 3 years.  My ex boyfriend told me he hasn't been in love with me for...
   
   a year and has been trying to force hismelf to but it won't work.  He says he doesn't even like me and had been faking "loving" me this whole year.  He doesn't want to be friends and says the only way he could ever be happy is to never see me again.  He says nothing I could ever do would ever bring him back in love with me, and he is angry he didn't break up a long time ago.  He said he wouldn't even love me if I changed into who i used to be.  He said he will forget about me and push past every urge to miss me because I will never hear or see him again. He says we aren't into the same things

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   Jo Henryposted 14 years ago

   I am very sorry that this person said that to you.  But since he has basically wasted your time and has decided to say very hurtful things to you.   It was possibly done to make you upset and you can't go into his apartment/house and break all his good stuff.  (That is illegal and he could sue you)  I purpose if he left  stuff at your house/apartment and pictures of him you either burn or  bury them. 
   
   Remember that he is actually a coward, because if he saw a problem and chose to ignore it and "force" himself to continue a relationship with you. that he knew wouldn't work.  He didn't respect or value you as a person. 
   
   
   My most important time is to fill your time, with productive, positive activities.  Make yourself not miss him either, (caution this might mean you will lose mutual friends).  Also don't let him back into your life, in case he fails at his attempts of not missing you.  The probability of him hurting you is very high.   Don't think about him, be very selfish and think about your happiness and well being first.

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   dashingscorpioposted 14 years ago

   Am I missing something? There doesn't seem to be a question.
   If someone does not want to be with you then let them go.
   
   Ultimately we want to be with people who love and adore us for who we are. There are over 6 billion people on the planet.
   The odds are in your favor there is someone who will love and appreciate you.
   
   An "ex" is an "ex" for a good reason.
   Life is too short to be wasting time trying to catch birds flying away from you.

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   MickSposted 14 years ago

   Well, that's your recent life story, what's the question?

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   kat11223posted 14 years ago

   my question is, do i stil have a chance of being with him in the future.

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   lunaraven13posted 14 years ago

   Kat1223 my question is, is he could cause you this much pain and doesn't love you, why would you want him back? You have believe you deserve better than that.

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   faiza tajposted 14 years ago

   yes i am agree what dashingscorpio said.

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   create a pageposted 14 years ago

   I think you should move on.  If he can hurt you in the way he did then release him.  I agree with dashingscorpio.  I know there are other men who will appreciate you so he is not worth pining over.

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