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21, Boy or Man?

  1. bellawritter23 profile image78
    bellawritter23posted 7 years ago

    21, Boy or Man?

    Can a woman over 25 date a 21 year old? Is he still a boy?

  2. telltale profile image76
    telltaleposted 7 years ago

    A 21 y.o. male can be considered a Man and whether he behaves like one is another thing altogether.  As for the dating part?  It all boils down to individuality and the mental aspect of whether there is a distinct emotional attachment between the 2.  Don't think there is a difference of dating an 'older' woman when both are in their twenties, and definitely not noticeable in most cases, except maybe that women mature faster in most cases too in the mental aspect.  But, that's only my opinion.. smile

  3. lunaraven13 profile image57
    lunaraven13posted 7 years ago

    My boyfriend and I started dating when he was 22 and I was 25. Little did I know he would still be so loveably annoying ten years later, lol.

    It so depends on the individual. If you are comfortable and enjoy each other, I say why not? It is not age that makes a male a man, that is for sure.

  4. BobbiRant profile image59
    BobbiRantposted 7 years ago

    Depends on the maturity level.  I know 40 year old men who are immature.

  5. awoodog profile image57
    awoodogposted 7 years ago

    I don't see a problem with it, the maturity level I think is more important. It's funny we look at a small age gap of lets say 27 to 21, but dont think much of a 43 to 35 age gap. If two people are happy with eachother then the age is just a number. However dropping below 18 I think would be a NO NO. Love is blind, and should not be based on conditions such as age. Be happy, and enjoy life.

  6. shape_shifter profile image60
    shape_shifterposted 7 years ago

    I say, "Why not?" It totally depends on the guy. At 19, I had a son on the way, had lived on my own off and on since 14, and already had the ethics not to miss a day of work for love or Jesus. I was still what I would call a party animal, but so was my wife, hell, I played in a metal/ punk rock band and played a lot of shows. One thing I was, however, was a man. To the contrary, and I mean no disrespect to those who fit this mold, there are an increasing number of guys nowadays who, even at 20, 21, 22, seem to be interested only in texting little high school girls and playing video games... They have absolutely no work ethic and scrape by working part time at fast food joints taking orders from ambitious 16 year old assistant managers. I'm not sure what caused the big social difference in a few short years, but I'd guess it has something to do with being raised by politically correct affeminate dads who are more in touch with their feelings than their roots. A strong male role model usually breeds a strong male child who will become a "man" at a much younger age. As far as you being older... What difference will that make in 15 or 20 years? If he's the real deal, then that's the real question... Good luck, if you have doubts, there must be a reason... Maybe the question should be, "Is he worth the time invested waiting for him to ripen...?"

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