Should a man have more than one girlfriend or boyfriend at one time?

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   Phoebe Pikeposted 12 years ago

   Should a man be allowed to be in more than one relationship? For example, dating a woman who he intends to marry but sleeping with a man.

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      janesixposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      allowed to? by whom?

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      Hollie Thomasposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Depends on whether the couple in question have agreed they want a monogamous relationship. Some couples are completely comfortable with an open relationship.

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      Mikel G Robertsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I believe God loves diversity, even when humanity doesn't.
      
      I also believe God joins people, marries people, with the bond of love. As long as people are in 'love', they are joined/bonded by God.
      
      Dishonesty however God doesn't like so much... or maybe it is just me that dislikes dishonesty...
      
      I guess to me relationships that are hurtful aren't good relationships. Cheating, having someone 'on the side' to me is hurtful and dishonest, therefore to be avoided.
      
      If you're ashamed to do it in the light of day, you probably shouldn't be doing it. Or as Jesus said, "Do unto others...". So I guess a good rule of thumb is if you don't want it done to you , you shouldn't do it to them.

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      Sneha Sunnyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I don't think they should. Be loyal to one person only.

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         Phoebe Pikeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         And why do you believe that?

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      AEvansposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Nope. Nor should a woman have more then one man for that matter. Or another woman if she is in a relationship.

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   Cagsilposted 12 years ago

   On average, the average male cannot handle one woman(or relationship) at one time. To attempt to do so by compounding their already flawed make up, would be stupidity in motion.
   
   So, in other words- No!

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   jcmayer777posted 12 years ago

   If all parties are aware of it, more power to him.

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      couturepopcafeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I'm not sure all parties need be aware of it.  As long as the individuals are protecting themselves by not engaging in sex, thereby becoming blinded, there is no problem.  People should always date more than one at a time until they find the right one.
      
      Of course, I'm assuming non-perverted mentality all around.  Anyone who is aware of behavior will spot  indiscretion.

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   Dale Mazurekposted 12 years ago

   For me that is an absolute no.  I couldnt imagine being with anyone other then my wife.  Every ounce of love and care I have is for her and no one else.

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   Paul Wingertposted 12 years ago

   I'm in the dating world eight now and I compaire dating to oral surgery. I can only date one women at a time, so I guess I would make a sorry womanizer.

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   Diane Insideposted 12 years ago

   id say the man is a little screwed up if hes planning on marrying one woman but finds it okay to be sleeping with a man. screwed up if u ask me.
   
   If the woman doesnt know about it someone should tell her, then its her decision to stay with him or go. If she stays then I think maybe shes screwed up as well. lol
   
   as far as "allowed", goes, he is allowed if she allows it.

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   prettydarkhorseposted 12 years ago

   no

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      Tulips-smithposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      seems to like this guy wants to have his cake and eat it too.  Personally I think it depends on the man weather they can see more than one person at a time, however as my wise sister pointed out to me men are indecisive anyway so may be this guy just does not know what he wants.

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         couturepopcafeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         I think he wants to eat more than his cake.

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   psycheskinnerposted 12 years ago

   If it is by mutual agreement, sure.  If it is cheating, no.

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   Greek Oneposted 12 years ago

   I think the most a single person should be seeing at any one time is 37.
   
   38 is just too greedy and doesnt leave time to do the laundry...
   
   36 is OK I guess, but you still might be a little bit horny around midnight.
   
   (note, if two of 36 people are twins, then that just counts as 1 person, since the whole point is having a variety of partners)

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      prettydarkhorseposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      jesus christ
      
      ________________
      
      NO NO NO NO
      
      MINE MINE MINE MINE

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    ftclickposted 12 years ago

    should a man?  No. 
    A celebrity man? possibly
    Already in a monogamous intimate relationship?  No
    A college-aged man 18 to mid-20's? I say, yes
    
    still it depends. I am basing this on typical relationships with men & women

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    skyfireposted 12 years ago

    If you're thinking about more than one then i guess there is plenty of time in your hands.

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    Disturbiaposted 12 years ago

    I don't see why he can't have as many relationships as he wants just as long as EVERYBODY AGREES and he's not sneaking around behind anybody's back.

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    PurvisBobbi44posted 12 years ago

    I would kick him to the curb----I do not share!!!!

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    Wilfionposted 12 years ago

    There has to be love and trust in a relationship, and I can't see how there could be, in an open relationship.  Especially if the couple had children.  This would be a terrible example to set for them.

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    psycheskinnerposted 12 years ago

    I know people in open relationships that seem perfectly happy. I don't think that the fact other people can't imagine it should limit their freedom of choice

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       Tulips-smithposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       I think a lot of what goes on in a relationship depends on the couple, if they are happy being in there open relationship why not, as long as there are no lies, game playing involved and the honestly and respect between both partys is there why not just go for it.
       
       I have heard from some people that being in an open relationship keeps there relationship more alive,  weather that is true or not who know!!

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    ubanichijiokeposted 12 years ago

    NO!
    NO!!
    NO!!!

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    freecampingaussieposted 12 years ago

    No way . I would not want to be with a man if he had been with another man ever .
    That is not fair to her at all , imagine the diseases you could pass on as well.
    If a man wants to be with another man he shouldn't be engaged to a woman & wreck her life.

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    Gordon Hamiltonposted 12 years ago

    No way!!! But why are you being so sexist? Should a woman who has a good, loving man who adores her be allowed to drop her knickers wherever requested in her social circles???
    
    Believe me, that happens...

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    psycheskinnerposted 12 years ago

    If she wants to and it is an open or polyamorous relationship, sure.  There are some very ancient polydandrous (multi-husband) cultures out there and they are very peaceful societies.

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    magodisposted 12 years ago

    If that person need and able, let it happen. But morally there will be certain contradictions. And also for a few more reasons, I suggest to keep one for life and that's all as per the culture of Asian countries.

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    motherinthemakingposted 12 years ago

    life is to short to spend it specualting about things. In my experience if you are questioning something, anything in any area of your life you have already got your answer. Everyone has the right to be happy and that means both parties

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       Disturbiaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       I agree, by the time one asks, one already knows their own answer, but sometimes we just want some validation, or maybe just another opinion.

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    How To Hubposted 12 years ago

    If I found out my man had been inside a man he would never be back in my bed NEVER ......Not even after all the tests & dozens of showers ...

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    psycheskinnerposted 12 years ago

    But another gal would be somehow better?

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       How To Hubposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       A bit  yes as it is natural for a male and female , wouldn't be as much as a shock , still wouldn't be happy about it tho and want tests done .

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          MelissaBarrettposted 12 years agoin reply to this

          You do realize that a man and a women can also have anal sex right?  It's not just two men that do it. 
          
          Glad you married a virgin though.

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    How To Hubposted 12 years ago

    I do realise that of course  , however the forum is about a guy being unfaithful with a man not another female . My husband had been married before .
    
    
    CDC fact sheet explains the risks of anal sex. First, "the lining of the rectum is thin and may allow the [HIV] virus to enter the body." Second, "condoms are more likely to break during anal sex than during vaginal sex." These risks don't just apply to HIV. According to the new survey report, the risk of transmission of other sexually transmitted diseases is likewise "higher for anal than for oral sex,"

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       Phoebe Pikeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       More natural? Look at the animals. Animals don't care about the gender as long as they are satisfied. It was even normal just a few centuries ago until it became a social taboo. In fact, Sparta used to encourage men to sleep with each other because they knew they would fight harder for a lover than for a friend.

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    ajayshah2005posted 12 years ago

    No!i think he is confused.

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    ajayshah2005posted 12 years ago

    No!i think he is confused.

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    ajayshah2005posted 12 years ago

    No!i think he is confused.

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    Joy56posted 12 years ago

    One man is surely enough, and too much some times, .....  I presume two women is too much for any man also.  Especially if the women spends as much money as i do, .... ha ha

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