People who have "let themselvesbgo"

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  1. joleenruffin profile image60
    joleenruffinposted 8 years ago

    People who have "let themselvesbgo"

    Do you think that people who no longer take an interest in their appearance--man or woman--should expect their spouse to still be physically attracted to them?

  2. lilibees profile image61
    lilibeesposted 8 years ago

    In some ways yes and in some ways no. Yes becuase if your spouse is truely in live with you then no matter what you look like should not make a difference. Then yeah maybe I guess because you are in love with the person you met at first!

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    AMBASSADOR BUTLERposted 8 years ago

    No. The solution for this issue is for the spouse to be love peace free from within their own being and just be a light to their spouse because we are all the same in our being as human beings on the earth. Human beings do not know this so you see the automatic results of sowing this unrevealed knowledge of themselves about themselves of who they are to the core of their being. You need to be patient with your spouse and be LOVE PEACE FREE. This is the only way to live the fullest life on the earth for human beings. Just be it. It works every time and no failure rate for being LOVE PEACE FREE. Thank you.

  4. Rosie2010 profile image73
    Rosie2010posted 8 years ago

    If you love your spouse, you'd love him/her no matter what.  But for health purposes, we should all take care of our bodies.  When I was married, both my husband and I gained weight because my husband had this wonderful idea of learning how to cook gourmet foods.. and he became so good at it.  Everything he cooked was just so delicious.. the whole family got fat.  Sad, he passed away, back to my cooking.  I am now into healthy foods and my two kids are too.  We should really take good care of our body because when we look good, we feel good.  And if we are healthy, we feel happy.  And happy people live longer than unhappy ones.  So be healthy!

  5. onegoodwoman profile image74
    onegoodwomanposted 8 years ago

    I respect myself enought to take care of myself for me, and those I wish to be around.  If I did not, I would invoke,

    "the better or worse" vow that my husband took,  I took it too, and overlook most of his faults.  There are some that I complain about, but still live with!

    Everything we deal with, is not about our spouse, sometimes it is about us.

  6. SteveoMc profile image74
    SteveoMcposted 8 years ago

    You can't prevent some things, I like to work on the rest.  My wife is the most beautiful person I know, if she grew a green horn in the middle of her forehead, and gained 100 pounds, she would still be that same beauty to me.

  7. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

    Surprisingly I think a lot of people "let themselves go" because their partner is already neglecting them! They feel like "what's the use."
    Others look at finding a mate as something on their “things to do list”. Once they have found someone to “settle down” with they RELAX. I've heard women in particular exclaim, "Whew, I'm so glad to be out of that dating scene. Once you're married you don't have to worry so much about how you look or act." There is an old saying that goes

    Many of them STOP doing all of things that attracted their mate into their life and yet they expect this person to maintain the same amount of love and attraction towards them.
    (Oddly enough if the relationship/marriage came to an end they’d be back in the gym!)

    We’d all do better to remember (the same thing it took to get your baby is the same thing it’s going to take to keep them)
    “When We Change, Our Circumstances Change!”

  8. dgicre profile image78
    dgicreposted 8 years ago

    Many times we would see a women that had let herself go only to see her start looking good. Soon thereafter we would find out she was divorced.

    Now I realize every day we are not always up to our best, sometimes we just like to relax and unwind, but the person we are hurting the most by not making a reasonable attempt at  staying in shape is us. Maybe not today or tomorrow but the effects are cumulative.

    Ten or fifteen years down the road when our bodies are faced with health problems which could have been avoided, it will be time to pay the piper. Bottom line, make healthy choices today for a better tomorrow.

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    fashionjewelry10posted 8 years ago

    If you love someone attraction is emanate. Acceptance of everything is true love. They say love is blind and a it is truly love if it blinds the physical appearance too. No one is perfect and everyone has some flaws. If you feel awkward with someone because of your appearance then you shouldn't be with them.

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    Contriceposted 8 years ago

    I think physical attract goes beyond the looks. I know we are talking about physical attraction but after you have been with someone for a while the physical attraction changes.  I thought my guy was so unattractive in the beginning, but now I think he is super handsome and am very physically attracted to him.  My thinking about him is different. Both of our bodies have changed..weight goes up and down, skin breaks out, etc but we still find each other to be hot.  Also I think honesty is the best policy in this case.  I appreciate it when he points out that I'm gaining a few pounds to many because I do the same for him.  Sometimes people don't realize, especially when in a relationship. But like onegoodwoman said, taking care of oneself should be about that person and less about someone else.


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