To love, or to be loved. Which of these is greater?

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  1. FaithDream profile image80
    FaithDreamposted 12 years ago

    To love, or to be loved. Which of these is greater?

  2. Wendy Snow profile image59
    Wendy Snowposted 12 years ago

    I feel that to love is greater. When you give of yourself, expecting nothing in return, you get it back tenfold...kinda like Karma, what goes around, comes around.

  3. newmember profile image61
    newmemberposted 12 years ago

    to love and to be loved is the best thing I guess, It'll be hurt to love someone who doesn't love you and it'll be ignorant to let down someone who love you. But if my life is so pity that I can only choose one of it, my ego as a humble man would say to be loved. Then if my life is pitier than I ever thought at least I still can love someone even tough she won't love me.

  4. Vishaaa profile image74
    Vishaaaposted 12 years ago

    To be loved would be greater. But giving that happiness to somebody else by loving them wold be greatest.

  5. arb profile image78
    arbposted 12 years ago

    To get love fills the self; to give love fills another and then returns from where it came.

  6. justanotherteen profile image58
    justanotherteenposted 12 years ago

    To be loved. If you love you aren't always loved back and that can end up just hurting you but if someone loves you even if you don't love them back I think its a more pleasant feeling.

  7. profile image0
    ssaulposted 12 years ago

    I will be unable to choose, I would rather both. I think you cannot have one without the other, they compliment each other.

  8. faria_lupin profile image60
    faria_lupinposted 12 years ago

    to be the best thing i can say
    cause i know i love him and i do care but when you feel the same thing in return you'll feel great.....

  9. LadyGrinningSoul* profile image60
    LadyGrinningSoul*posted 12 years ago

    i prefer to love, what is love if you cant give it back.
    if you are loved it may mean nothing to you but if you love in return it is the greatest only you can feel most strongly the love you give and falling in love is fun but being loved in return is also great it makes the falling and fantasizing worth it.
    good question!

  10. Cathyrin profile image48
    Cathyrinposted 12 years ago

    To love...that is greater, for it is a selfish act; not all people could definitely love selflessly.
    To be loved is also great though this is more on our self need and I think all of us long for this, eh.

  11. webguyonline profile image58
    webguyonlineposted 12 years ago

    to love, why? when you give love to others there are possibilities that you'll be loved by them and by other people. :-)

  12. Debarshi Dutta profile image67
    Debarshi Duttaposted 12 years ago

    TO LOVE...It depends only on You..To be loved is not in your hands...

  13. dianne143 profile image41
    dianne143posted 12 years ago

    both. it is nice feeling to love and be love in return

  14. Dovay Lee profile image41
    Dovay Leeposted 12 years ago

    I think Both are great and being loved and loving are happy.

  15. Edoka Writes profile image61
    Edoka Writesposted 12 years ago

    I think that both are equally fantastic. Falling in love is an adrenaline rush! But to be loved is comforting and a blessing.

  16. philirodje profile image60
    philirodjeposted 12 years ago

    To love or to be loved.... Hun, this is tricky But to love is great and to be loved is great as well, the two work hand in hand so i would say i chose both.

  17. Bronson_Hub profile image60
    Bronson_Hubposted 12 years ago

    Harrison Ford answered this one indirectly yet aptly in Star Wars: The Empire Strikes Back.  Leia (lay-yuh) calls out to his character, Han Solo before he drops entirely into the carbon freezing pit, "I love you!"

    His response, "I know."

    Thus, it is greater to be loved than to love, in the case of Han Solo.

    In my case, I do not like unrequited love, so to love someone may not always be the most rewarding experience.  And being stalked can be considered a form of obsessive love, thus that might not be so great either.  This leads us to only one logical conclusion if love is in the air:

    mutual love.

  18. neabug32 profile image63
    neabug32posted 12 years ago

    I would have to say it has to be both. If you have never been shown love in your life, then chances are you are not going to give love to anyone easily because it is not a strong character of yours. They say we as children are taught by example from our parents. I presume that would include love also.

  19. sroberts9 profile image78
    sroberts9posted 12 years ago

    To have loved someone with all your heart, soul. mind and body.  To give a piece of your heart to someone who treats it with respect and knows what "true love" really is and gives it back to you - there are really no words that can express that feeling of security and graditude.  I imagine it's only a small piece of how it would feel in the arms of God as he embrases you.

  20. ThunderKeys profile image64
    ThunderKeysposted 12 years ago

    I agree, I think loving and being loved are both greater!

  21. poorconservative1 profile image61
    poorconservative1posted 12 years ago

    Unrequited sucks, so without both neither is great.

  22. profile image51
    antoine.martelposted 12 years ago

    to love because if you love someone it makes yourself feel better then if someone loved you.

  23. Kwazzy profile image61
    Kwazzyposted 12 years ago

    If I could only choose one, I would have to go with "to love" simply because loving my wife and getting that smile in return is the best thing for me, mushy? yes. True? YES smile

  24. profile image51
    S133014143posted 12 years ago

    hands down to be loved is better than to love not to say to love is a not a good thing

  25. luckycharmz profile image59
    luckycharmzposted 12 years ago

    One time my little 5 year old nephew told me bluntly: "I hate you."  I wasn't sure why, but I responded: "But I love you because you are my nephew."  I can see on his face that my response really shocked him.  He never hated me again. :-)

  26. kashif hassan profile image61
    kashif hassanposted 12 years ago

    To love someone is amazing and to getting pains in love is even more exciting so i suggest you all to do commit love you are feel the difference in your persona!

  27. ramyaprithvi profile image58
    ramyaprithviposted 12 years ago

    To be loved is really great........................
    So as we r loved , we will love in back that's the magic of Love ..............

  28. sumitparihar profile image42
    sumitpariharposted 12 years ago

    i think both are equally exciting,........

  29. Pagelift profile image61
    Pageliftposted 12 years ago

    Ah, that's difficult. It would be really hard to have one without the other. But if I had to choose I'd rather be able to love rather than to be loved; it'd be better to appreciate love than not know what it feels like.

  30. FaithDream profile image80
    FaithDreamposted 12 years ago

    Thank you everyone for your comments. This question is difficult to answer and yet it inspired me.
    Finding that special love remains the most sought after accomplishment in life. That is what makes it so grand.

  31. ChristineVianello profile image60
    ChristineVianelloposted 12 years ago

    If you can love, you can recive love back

  32. profile image51
    saskiaxx1posted 12 years ago

    i think 2 be loved is better because if u love them it is not as strong

  33. Golfgal profile image67
    Golfgalposted 12 years ago

    To love is greater.  If you can love...then you will likely be loved in return.  If you only receive are a taker and can you really experience the freedom of loving with all your heart without expecting love in return.  Loving the unlovable.  Loving those who need love.  Loving even though you do not want to love.  Love is decision to care.  When you recieve.  It is one of natures laws of physics.  What goes around comes around as the saying goes.  GO LOVE with all your heart, mind and soul!!!!  Be a lover.

  34. Jarn profile image61
    Jarnposted 12 years ago

    Depends on your definition of great. It is more pleasurable by far to be loved. However, it takes great strength of oneself to give love.

  35. micahjoy profile image62
    micahjoyposted 12 years ago

    TO LOVE!!!

    You can ALWAYS give love. You can give love to yourself, to others, to everyone and everything. You can give love to what you do, to the experience you have every day.  It is not a well that will run dry - the more you give love the more love you will have.

    You have to give love first... to yourself first and foremost. How can you concieve of someone else loving you, and accept that love, if you don't first love yourself? 

    It is only by giving love that we recieve love.

  36. dmvjane profile image58
    dmvjaneposted 10 years ago

    Sometimes, loving, when unappreciated can give you negative emotions. So I think being loved is a lot better. It's more like a safeguard to your self-esteem.


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