How do you deal with the fact when ur friends are using you ??

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  1. rajivnandy profile image61
    rajivnandyposted 12 years ago

    How do you deal with the fact when ur friends are using you ??

  2. IN2Deep profile image68
    IN2Deepposted 12 years ago

    You realize it is a great first step----And then you either confront them-rationally-to solve the problem --or you move on with your life-and leave them behind. Real friends don't use you-they just borrow you for a while--Have a great day.

  3. Veianet profile image59
    Veianetposted 12 years ago

    that is a sad thing to hear. If my friend is obviously using me, a frank conversation might be needed. Whatever the outcome of the conversation, then I will decide whether the friendship is still worth keeping or let it go.

  4. barbergirl28 profile image70
    barbergirl28posted 12 years ago

    It sounds like it is time to give them the boot... after all, they really aren't a friend if they are using you!

  5. simeonvisser profile image70
    simeonvisserposted 12 years ago

    I agree with barbergirl28. Choose your friends wisely and if they use you, they are not friends. Let them go and choose other people to hang out with. With so many people out there, there's no reason to stay with those type of people.

  6. safiq ali patel profile image71
    safiq ali patelposted 12 years ago

    When freinds are using me It's up to me to see what they are doing and to detach from them. Being alone without such friends is not the worst thing in the world.

  7. poorconservative1 profile image59
    poorconservative1posted 12 years ago

    Get different friends. It's that simple.

  8. Bronson_Hub profile image61
    Bronson_Hubposted 12 years ago

    With fury and wrath I raise-eth ye ol' smack and with utmost haste put-eth the smack-eth down to those who abuse-eth mine generosity.

  9. suncat profile image60
    suncatposted 12 years ago

    If friends use friends a little that's a common thing and is a side effect of friendship smile)

    But if they use you a LOT it's not very friendly and you have to tell them somehow you are not really into being used and ask if they can reconsider such activities.

    If they resist and persist in acting the same way you have to limit the time you spend with them and try to find something more useful to do instead.

  10. ChristineVianello profile image60
    ChristineVianelloposted 12 years ago

    I use to have friends that used me, because I am so nice, I let it go opn for years until a few years ago I just had to stop it. I said to them about how I was feeling. It did not go well....We are no longer friends but now I do not let people use me anymore.

  11. 2005Fleet profile image61
    2005Fleetposted 12 years ago

    If a friend is using you he or she is simply not your friend. Friends don't use each other. I would say good bye to them ASAP and hello to some new friends who will be a real friend.

  12. Jangaplanet profile image61
    Jangaplanetposted 12 years ago

    I try to step into everyone elses shoes and try to determine the reason for their behavior , and then try to see if i would do the same thing if i was in their position. But of coarse if they are continually doing it then its time to cut the rope.

  13. profile image0
    Neville Walkposted 12 years ago

    I feel angry and wish that they would start treating me as an equal, and stop seeing me as a meal ticket.  However, I never say anything, and the situation usually continues.  I never have the courage to say what I truly feel.

  14. profile image0
    ssaulposted 12 years ago

    Not every smiling face is a friend, these devious people come in many forms. Choose your friends carefully. If you are always giving in the friendship and not receiving, its time to give them the boot.

  15. Elizabeth99 profile image59
    Elizabeth99posted 12 years ago

    Believe me, I have tried very hard not to let it happen to myself, but it seems every time I try and reach out to people--I am the one who gets hurt. In my opinio there really isnt a way to deal with the fact that it happens, but you can try and defend yourself from it. Be a little selfish every now and then and you can see who your true friends are because if you have gone above and beyond for them, they should be willing to do the same for you. smile Good Luck

  16. A la carte profile image60
    A la carteposted 12 years ago

    I think it is difficult to give precise reasons without knowing when and how you feel you are being used. Have you talked to them about it?

  17. TinaTango profile image68
    TinaTangoposted 12 years ago

    Then they're not your friends.

    Turn off your phone for a few days and be by yourself, life is so much easier that way.

  18. sonia05 profile image62
    sonia05posted 12 years ago

    i guess....its time to say final goodbyes to such friends and start making new friends who may turn out to be genuine friends!

  19. theseus profile image74
    theseusposted 12 years ago

    My usual reaction before is of course "get hurt and ask myself and them why".

    But I realized that despite the fact that they are "using" me does not in any way jeopardize our friendship because they have always been there when I need them the most so now I just "let them be"..  smile

  20. Edoka Writes profile image60
    Edoka Writesposted 12 years ago

    You depart from those who are using you, because they're not friends, they're opportunists.

  21. conscious connect profile image61
    conscious connectposted 12 years ago

    Do NOT judge right away and think that you are being used. Ask your self few critical questions first, How important is the impact of the situation on you and your friend. Put your self in there position and then analyse the whole scenario. And the last and most important thing will be answered accordingly that whether to keep the friend or the thing you compromised over will like wise know that if the person is your real friend or not, \

    life is like Being a Goat facing a lion or wolf every day in the jungle of living... you cant just expect it not to eat need to plan your living stratagems ..

    so such situations cant and should not  be avioded in life as life is weaved out of incidents and each of them have a very different impact on every individual.


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