Is it ok to feel sad but act as if everything was ok?
Sometimes acting as if everything is ok makes me feel good but the sad feeling always come running when I am alone.
In some cases I guess it is ok to pretend everything is alright. An example would be a death in the family but you aren't going to mope about if you have a job and children to consider. I do, however, think that society has killed our need for emotional sustenance and that we're suffering for it.
Well Neon_Letters, I think that every human being deals with sadness in this way. It actually is a good way to deal with sadness for several reasons.
If you feel sad most of the time and act the way you are feeling, you will find that people won't want to hang around you. Then you will be sad and lonely, a very bad combination.
If you feel sad, but act like everything is ok, you'll have a greater chance of finding people and activities that will help you over the "sad" feelings and into a more positive frame of mind.
If you are feeling sad most of the time, you might need to seek some help. Depression is a very real condition that can be serious if not dealt with. I hope this is not what you are dealing with, but if so, go to your doctor and start getting better.
feeling sad is just state of mind.....this feeling will be gone after some time.......but in this mean time try to find reason behind why you feel sad....and if you know the answer ...... try to work on it.....and be happy....
acting as if everything was ok......is also not good beacuse that would create problem latter........but act as everything is ok.....and if you found something wrong just say it in two three sentences.......so other people will know that some particular thing you do not like.....but your are trying hard to like it......
try to find some way that you express your both feeling ......feeling sad and feeling good......both are important.....and your behaviour should be combination of this two................................its okey to be sad when you are really sad...........but when your happy ......do not let go that moment.....try to catch that moment in your mind.......
when your are alone.....sad feeling comes....to mind.......this thing happens with everyone....when someone is alone sad feeling comes...............try to share your good feeling with your aloneness..........
if you will stay alone.....sad feelings bound to come to you..........
please reply if possible....!!!!!!!!!!!
It depends on too many factors to give decent answer to this.
In cognitive behavior therapy acting like you feel better than you do is actually a core clinical strategy. It's called "acting in spite of yourself" or in spite of your feelings of sadness and/or anxiety. The idea is that by acting (getting back to healthy positive activities that are often avoided because of these feelings) in spite of how you feel, you're mood will improve or catch-up to your activity level and quality.
Science also shows that how you act and what you say to yourself can positively (positive self-talk) or negatively influence how you feel. So if you smile and lift your eyebrows a little while getting back to doing things and hanging out with people who care about you; and you talk to your self in a nurturing gentle way, your brain starts to feel happy because of how your mind and body tells it it's feeling. Other people will treat you in an even nicer way when they see you smile and act even if you are just pretending at first, which will also help you to actually feel like smiling and doing things more spontaneously!
So its about taking positive healthy action despite your feelings and the outcome these actions generate.
I believe it can be harmful to your body to hold in your sad emotions. But, while at work your not sopossed to show any emotions. If being around people makes you feel better, then be around people as much as possible.
I learned in therapy that there is a time and place to display emotions. I take that to mean that there is a time and place not to display emotions.
Its okay to do what you can to manage your sad feelings. People feel sad for a number of reasons. To be sad around friends and family on a regular basis is negative and definitely depressing. I think it is alright to share your pain with a few people. If your goal is to find a way to deal with the pain. If you just want to be sad, that is like spreading a disease. In the meantime, "put on a happy face" while you are trying to get past your pain.
I personally think that acting like everything is okay may make you feel worse in the long run. You are not being completely honest with yourself and your outlook on whatever it is.
The best thing you can do is be honest with whatever it is and take action to actually make it okay. Then you don't have to act like everything is okay - it just will be!
Neon_Letters: absolutely "NO" it is not ok. Not only do you lie to somone else you are also lying to yourself.
Thanks to everyone for your answers. will keep in mind your comments and try to get through this.
No decption kills......in more ways than one! Even if you take some time and get away to think things out, so that you won't hurt or affend anyone due to what you're going through. It's best to get whatever you have off your chest than carry it around as well to have it steal yours as well as everyones joy
Vonda G. Nelson
I would suggest telling a close friend when you're feeling blue since it must suck having to keep all your sadness to yourself. That way, whenever you're down, you'll have someone there who understands what you're going through and will cheer you up
Talk about it with someone close to you if you been feeling sad for a long time you should get help. Depression is not something to take lightly.
I know this feeling, However, i find it exhausting to pretend. The extra energy it takes to pretend can wipe you out. I don't think people were meant to be alone. I think at some point you have to find someone to talk to who can help. This may be difficult. Hopefully, you have someone? But never thought to express your sorrow? I hope your sad feeling goes away.
Keeping it in only causes you to feel that way longer. Even if you just write it on a piece of paper and throw it away.
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