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Why do women not prefer 'nice' guys?

  1. Vishaaa profile image78
    Vishaaaposted 7 years ago

    Why do women not prefer 'nice' guys?

  2. swb64 profile image58
    swb64posted 7 years ago

    I should think a nice guy would also like to meet a nice woman.  Are we falling breed's?  Folks dont like emotional hurt do they...

  3. Ranzi profile image82
    Ranziposted 7 years ago

    It's all about psychology and what you can't have.

  4. Joan1 profile image57
    Joan1posted 7 years ago

    Women are less attracted to nice guys because in general they are beta males.

    Women are naturally attracted to alpha males.
    Alpha males used to be tribal leaders etc. and mostly the stronger males with power over the beta males.
    Which meant better protection (survival) and stronger genes (replication) and of course a safe environment for the child.

    Of course that is not the case in our society anymore.
    But our brains haven't changed much since then.

  5. zduckman profile image60
    zduckmanposted 7 years ago

    Yes I agree with a cpl people here. Women want a male that is confident..and doe not "need" them. I think we are all attracted to a person who has there own life and "things" going on. It is a little trickier with women , and I do believe it is the Alpha male that is most attractive to women.

  6. Sarah Masson profile image67
    Sarah Massonposted 7 years ago

    This is true in many cases but there are plenty of women including me who would love to find a nice and decent guy. Lots of women like the whole macho, bad boy thing and will put up with bad behaviour and bad personalities to stay with them. Silly really.

  7. ahorseback profile image76
    ahorsebackposted 7 years ago

    For whatever reason this question has always piqued my interests,  Alpha males ?, I don't believe women or men are attracted to the 'Nice" image , all too often  , Image dictates where attractions  go for  alot of men and women.  More people are concerned with image , ego and  being "players" than maturity. Especially young people. Only because of maturity levels. We all become wiser in age , then  Nice guys AND nice women win out.  There are just too many  negative influences for immature people and relationships.

  8. ikechiawazie profile image62
    ikechiawazieposted 7 years ago

    I think they want guys that can take control. Nice guys are sweet but sometimes they are nice to a fault.

  9. CheyenneAutumn profile image60
    CheyenneAutumnposted 7 years ago

    I think we all seek balance in our lives - so "nice" girls instincts draw them to "bad" boys -- and in turn "bad" girls - which I suppose are agressive girls seek men easier to control ... two agressive people together will not last long ...nor would two overly passive...

  10. akuigla profile image59
    akuiglaposted 7 years ago

    I dont agree with you.
    Almost on a daily basis I see,in my doctors office, women beaten up by their hubs or boyfriends.They are mostly women with elementary school,very seldom high school,colledge education extremely rare.
    Today the power is self control.
    A mature man,self confident and strong will never hit the woman.
    Do not confuse "nice" with weak.
    My wu-shu teacher is able to beat up a half dozen punks in a blink.
    Another nite after training we went for a drink in a bar.
    While at a table,an drunk,dirty man approaches and asked us to live his table.
    Our teacher apologize and we went to another table.
    Later we asked him why he didnt knock him down.
    Our teacher said that he didnt touched him.
    And that a man who can conquer himself is stronger than a man who can beat up a thousand man!

  11. windresistant profile image55
    windresistantposted 7 years ago

    That's it, I'm going to make a hub about the psychology if this phenomenon! Look for it later today or tomorrow - I'll have to research actual sources.

  12. Elizabeth99 profile image61
    Elizabeth99posted 7 years ago

    I think it has a little to do with the whole nurturing thing. Guys with problems are probably more attractive to women because we want to try and fix their problems or yada yada. Silly yes, but I think we want to make our own nice guy lol.

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    reeltaulkposted 7 years ago

    Do you mean women or immature females, btw what is a nice guy?!?!?  Someone coming across as nice to impress or.....

  14. Neon_Letters profile image60
    Neon_Lettersposted 7 years ago

    From my experience i say that women do like nice guys, they just don´t like guys that like everything she likes, and do whatever she wants whenever she wants  there´s a big difference betwen a nice guy and "the nice guy".

  15. maria.rose profile image37
    maria.roseposted 7 years ago

    I think that women do not prefer "nice guys" is because they think that if a guy is some type of bad boy that makes him a real man or that they can try to change him.

  16. Milton Reid profile image55
    Milton Reidposted 7 years ago

    A lot of it has to do with her "time of the month". It seems silly but when women aren't ovulating, most seem to prefer a "sensitive" man, because her unconscious desires stem more from an idealistic future and child-rearing. When a woman is ovulating, she is more fertile, and resorts to a more primal attraction to a man who has strong secondary sex characteristics, regardless of their personality or intelligence; the "one night stand" mentality.

    I also believe the external and closed-minded aren't interested in someone whose motivations are different or simply more complicated than their own minds are comfortable dealing with. (I conjure an image of the jersey shore cast when I say this, where everyone is stupid, and everyone is miserable, and nobody can figure out why.) I'm extremely grateful there's an organic weeding system in place for such personalities.

  17. yshashikant profile image72
    yshashikantposted 7 years ago

    What i have come to know after a lot of reading about women's idea of their soul mate, they do prefer the nice guys for a long term relationship, however just to add some spice to their life they often go hunting for the so called ALPHA males, which in my opinion is every humans right to enjoy their life.

  18. Pamela N Red profile image85
    Pamela N Redposted 6 years ago

    Some women, mostly young and impressionable, are attracted to the badboy types and while they might be fun for a while they aren’t good long-term partners. read more