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Doe's a man need sex to feel loved?

  1. Meridian.1960 profile image58
    Meridian.1960posted 6 years ago

    Doe's a man need sex to feel loved?

  2. cheaptrick profile image71
    cheaptrickposted 6 years ago

    Not in my opinion.It really depends on his level of maturity.That said,sex and love do not necessarily go hand in hand[that's a pun]either.Honesty is the key.So long as both people are clear on which is happening no one gets hurt.IMHO

  3. Matt in Jax profile image68
    Matt in Jaxposted 6 years ago

    Do men need sex? YES.
    But to feel loved? Not necessarily. It definitely goes a long way coupled with all the little things women could do.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    Yes. Anytime a man is in a monogamus relationship or is married and his mate/spouse rarely if ever wants to have sex with him then he does not feel desired or loved in a romantic sense.

    When someone "foresakes all others" to be in a monogamus relationship they do so assuming the person they are with will be there for them emotionally and physically.
    Awhile back I wrote a hub addressing Sex And The Married Man.

    If his wife is ONLY cooking, cleaning, and doing the laundry...etc She is loving her husband in the same way that his mother does. No man wants to be married to his mother! Physical intimacy distinguishes spousal love from maternal love.

  5. nightwork4 profile image59
    nightwork4posted 6 years ago

    yup. if i was with a woman and we never had sex, not only would i not feel loved, i would be gone in no time.

  6. Meridian.1960 profile image58
    Meridian.1960posted 6 years ago

    Excellent answer and article by dashing. I believe he is one of few that gets it.

    Its been my personal experience and the perception of many men that I mentor, that when thier wife stops having sex with them for extended amounts of time, or when sex feels like an obligation and lacks any passion, many men feel that they are not loved by thier wife.

    It's true that women need an emotional connection to inspire passion in them, most men do not have a clue how do achieve this in a way that a woman will respond to, men have a hard time understanding this as they seldom need more than visual stimulation to feel desire. In most women, after time, that is a major turn off. There are very specific ways to bring out the passion in a woman, wife, and partner. Want to learn more?

    Visit my profile.

  7. terced ojos profile image64
    terced ojosposted 6 years ago

    I think that far too often men are painted with a very general and broad brush with regard to sex.

    Marriage for me is very different because I am bonded to my wife spiritually as well as physically.

    If my wife is not in the mood I don't necessarily feel unloved by her because I experience my wife as a complete human being not as just a "vagina" whose sole purpose is to serve my conjugal desire.

    I think this question totally depends upon the man who is being asked the question.

    I have friends who don't feel loved if their wives don't have sex with them for extended periods of time.  I also have friends who are like myself who are partnered with their wives in such a way that sex is not the be all to end all.

    "We" go through cycles of lots and lots of sex....oh God too much...LOL.....and periods of no sex for extended periods of time.

    We are family oriented; 4 sons if you must know and respectful of each others roles and the ups and downs of family living.  Our sex lives are dictated by what happens to be happening in our lives at the time.

    Neither one of us feels slighted or unloved if the other is not in the mood or if sex is not happening on the average 2 or 3 times a week we are told most other couples are having.

    Jesus....i'm honestly just too tired a lot of times and my wife will probably echo my sentiment.

    It's funny. Now that I think about it we have sex like some people have alcoholic binges.  We just seem to get this craving that lasts about three weeks every fourth month...LOL......ROFL....let's see if I average that out we probably end up at the end of the year close to the average of other couples....


  8. xethonxq profile image65
    xethonxqposted 6 years ago

    LOL.....depends on who you ask...a man or the woman who is with the man.

  9. Mystee Crockett profile image88
    Mystee Crockettposted 3 months ago

    Yes. Everyone needs physical intimacy to feel loved. It's an important part of a relationship.