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Does society make women seem needy when it comes to men?

  1. sholland10 profile image93
    sholland10posted 6 years ago

    Does society make women seem needy when it comes to men?

    I society does make women seem needy when it comes to finding a man, pleasing a man, making a man happy, etc.  It seems to neglect what men should know or figure out about women, which is why I wrote this hub: http://hubpages.com/hub/What-Men-Need-t … bout-Women
    I find the category for Gender and Relationships: Advice and tips for women.   Advice for men only came up when I searched it.   Ironically funny!

    What is your opinion?

  2. nightwork4 profile image61
    nightwork4posted 6 years ago

    honestly, women have done it to themselves. blaming men or saying men need to learn things is wrong. men and women have been around for a long time and we still don't understand each other and we never truly will. do you think if women didn't get implants, wear make-up and dress sexy that men would quit paying attention to them? i think not.

  3. CARIBQUEEN profile image73
    CARIBQUEENposted 6 years ago

    Women have to learn to stand up for themselves and stop depending on men to assist them with everything. Helplessness is not a virtue.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    The definition of a "double standard" is BOTH sexes agree on something. When we say "society" portrays women a certain way it means both sexes are in agreement.

    The only way things change is when one group (the offended party) stand up and demand a change in how they are represented in the media and other places.

    "Tradition" and "gender grooming" also play a large role.
    Little girls are dreaming of being "princesses" when they grow up. The closest thing to that in America is being (the bride) on her wedding day. They also pretend to be mothers with baby dolls or cooking with their EZ Bake Ovens....etc

    Little boys on the other hand dream of careers as cops, firemen, construction workers, doctors,military officers, or magicians.
    When they aren't pretending to be "working" then they are "driving" using remote cars, trucks, and planes...etc
    (No little boy is dreaming of being "the groom" or raising kids!)

    Subconciously when they grow up the majority of people continue want to fulfill their childhood fantasy on some level.

    A woman who wants a man is determined to find out what they like and how to please them...etc (Fight aging, stay thin & fit, bigger breast, round behind, fuller lips, longer eyelashes...etc)

    A man who wants to attract women attempts to make more money, drive a nice car, get 6 pack abs, use Rogaine to fight hair loss.

    However men believe having money is the most important thing to attract beautiful women. (ie Hugh Hefner age 84 is engaged to a 24 year old woman). It wouldn't happen if he weren't rich or famous. And there is no way you'd see a 24 year old hot looking guy chasing after a 84 year old woman no matter how much money she has!
    Beauty is more important to men and financial security is more important to women when seeking a mate. (Traditionally speaking)

    Things are the way they are because that is how the majority of us want it. I don't see mothers in the near future buying (their sons) baby dolls and baking ovens to play with nor do I see fathers giving their daughters guns, or  remote heliocopters to fly.

    The majority of "relationship books" are purchased by women.
    Their formative years were based around taking care of the house, kids, and living happily ever after with Prince Charming.
    Since boys aren't raised to have those same interest the majority of men don't start to think about ways to "please women or make them happy" until they see (their woman) is unhappy in the relationship.

  5. NorthEast Timber profile image60
    NorthEast Timberposted 6 years ago

    Women make themselves look needy.  And no offense but your reading something into a web search that didn't bring up what you thought was fair doesn't help us look any stronger.  Everyone needs to quit looking for things to feel slighted or prejudiced over. If we want people to quit paying attention, to stuff like that, then you have to quit calling attention, to stuff like that.

  6. ArtAsLife profile image60
    ArtAsLifeposted 6 years ago

    I believe we make this more of a problem then it actually is. We are told by all types of media that this is the case most of the time. Though it isnt In my opinion

  7. msorensson profile image71
    msorenssonposted 6 years ago

    I am speaking from the point of view of someone who has been single for a very long time. Needy..I do not know..what that word means, really...

    If I tell someone I need him, it would be a compliment...it means I would very much like to be with him in every sense of the word...a choice rather than a necessity..

  8. DDE profile image25
    DDEposted 5 years ago

    Men and women think differently that I know, and when it comes to relationships the choice you make you either accept the other or don't. It is up to the individual to work that out. No one can change who they truly are.

  9. Express10 profile image89
    Express10posted 5 years ago

    I don't think society makes women seem needy. Some women are simply not as strong, smart, and independent as they might want others to think & they show their desperation in horrific fashion. Some resort to trickery, a variety of shades of stalking, and casual sex to "land" a man. A fair number of women make themselves seem needy when it comes to men. I know of women of all ages that enjoy "taking" men (their words, not mine) that are already involved in committed relationships with other women.

    They see it as a pastime or a way to show how attractive they are. Others, will manipulate their own kin as well as their own standards in order to get closer to a man. Yet when they show their true selves, they never can maintain or improve the relationship because there wasn't anything significant to start with. Some don't learn and begin another frantic search for something they should be looking inward to find.