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Do you separate yourself from dysfunctional and chaotic people (even if they are

  1. serenity4me profile image57
    serenity4meposted 6 years ago

    Do you separate yourself from dysfunctional and chaotic people (even if they are relatives)?

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    mikeq107posted 6 years ago

    Yes..for sure, a safe distance..unless i,m counseling them wink...I need to be around healthy balanced stable people for my own sanity...otherwise they would suck the life out of me ..if I let them...I used to be that way myself years ago , but I sought help and moved on...So take courage and walk away...by staying your only enabling them to remain where they are:0)
    Hope this has helped MIKE :0)

  3. Tony DeLorger profile image80
    Tony DeLorgerposted 6 years ago

    People are people regardless of blood, therefore there will always be those that we don't necessarily relate to or have a positive relationship. In the end if someone is detremental to your well being on any level, then you limit time with these people. Being a relative there are times you'll have to be together and that you can do, by understanding and not taking on their issues. Many people are dysfunctional and some you meet are difficult to be around, but being aware and protecting yourself mentally, is a good practice.

    I personally have a particularly spiteful and antagonising rel that can get you into a state if you let them. However, after years of experience, I have learned where this attitude comes from and I have developed a calm understanding. I do not respond and it does not affect me. Compassion is the key when dealing with difficult people. Understanding gives you the tools to both disarm and to understand, so you don't personally get involved in their issues and venting.

  4. janikon profile image88
    janikonposted 6 years ago

    I'm not sure I 'separate' myself from the dysfunctional people in my family - I think these people are the most interesting in the bunch. I think they are always able to offer the best advice and tell the best stories but if they become SO chaotic then they should be avoided - for fear of my life.

  5. Michael Conley profile image57
    Michael Conleyposted 6 years ago

    Yes I do.. I'm dysfunctional enough with out having to deal with them....

  6. rob_allen profile image83
    rob_allenposted 6 years ago

    Yes, I think being dysfunctional and chaotic is highly contagious.

  7. KK Trainor profile image61
    KK Trainorposted 6 years ago

    Absolutely yes, life is complicated enough without having to deal with other people's issues. Maybe it's not the most pc answer, but it's the truth. When it's difficult to be around someone, then you should rethink the relationship and make some changes.

  8. Ella Robinson profile image60
    Ella Robinsonposted 6 years ago

    Yes my brother in law and my sister i keep my distance from those wack jobs! Seriously that girl is evil!

  9. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    Absolutely! Life is a "personal journey" and each of us is responsible for our own happiness.

    You have the right to choose who you want to spend time with. Guilt is just a form of manipulation. Don't let someone talk you into being some place you don't want to be.

  10. Rastamermaid profile image71
    Rastamermaidposted 6 years ago

    Most Def!!

    Why bring that around you?

    That's too toxic a venue for me,relatives included.

    Some things are better loved from afar,doesn't mean you have any ill feelings. It's just that what they are about,you have no use for,soo keep it moving.

    I have one brother and an sister thru my Dad that I have never physically met.But still I am an only child!

    Just because you have siblings doesn't mean you have friends,just because you have cousins,aunts and uncles doesn't mean you have family.

    Go out and make a family of exactly you want around you.

  11. Pollyannalana profile image84
    Pollyannalanaposted 6 years ago

    Well I have had no choice in the family matters but unless forced to I definitely would keep myself far from it. Hopefully I have done my part.

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    jasper420posted 6 years ago

    yes i try to i dont need any more disfunction in my life than i already have famliy or not

  13. kallini2010 profile image81
    kallini2010posted 6 years ago

    Oh, I see that separating is a good idea.  Maybe.

    I am glad though that my relatives did not separate themselves from me - without their help and perseverance I would not have survived.

    Before separating, you should ask yourself...

    I'm sorry, there is no should...

    The life is yours, the choice is yours.

  14. luvs2write profile image58
    luvs2writeposted 6 years ago

    Yes, I think you have to if it is causing your life grief and turmoil. Your health and mental health is exteremely important so you should take any necessay steps to keep it well

  15. DexisView profile image74
    DexisViewposted 6 years ago

    Yes!  Constant dysfunction and chaotic people can suck the life out of you.  It is perfectly fine to not allow that to happen.

  16. Naomi's Banner profile image80
    Naomi's Bannerposted 6 years ago

    Yes, I try to.  It is very stressful to be around people that are total chaos.  It is even more difficult when they are family.  I have some I love dearly so can't stay away from them but I limit my time with them.