If you found out [s]he cheated on you. How do you forget forever?

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  1. ubanichijioke profile image74
    ubanichijiokeposted 7 years ago

    If you found out [s]he cheated on you. How do you forget forever?

    If you found out [s]he cheated on you. When you forgive her, what do you do to forget the past and make the relationship work again?

  2. kmackey32 profile image68
    kmackey32posted 7 years ago

    I could not do anything to forget and the relationhip would be over, There are some things some woman can never forget and thats one of them,

  3. lburmaster profile image82
    lburmasterposted 7 years ago

    You can't forget. There is no possible way to forget something other than amnesia. Yes, the way you think about [s]he will never be the same. You will have to get used to it. If you forgive him/her, then you will slowly come to work around the situation. Instead of seeing a cheater, you will see someone who remains with you, side-by-side through life. Yes, they could be with someone else, but right now they are with you.

  4. lostdogrwd profile image60
    lostdogrwdposted 7 years ago

    if marry, for better or worse. if not, its not cheating.

  5. Lynetta Baker profile image55
    Lynetta Bakerposted 7 years ago

    You don,t forget forever.You just remember today.You just remember to breath and go from there.Don,t give up on love.We are all human and we all make mistakes.Just remember that.

  6. Jennie Demario profile image39
    Jennie Demarioposted 7 years ago

    The only way is to cut ties with the cheater.  You can forgive but you will never forget.  The right decision is always the easier choice.  It will be hard the best decision would be to move on and don't look back.

  7. Seeker7 profile image94
    Seeker7posted 7 years ago

    Hi there,

    You don't ever forget but eventually it is possible to forgive and move on. How you move on of course depends on what is right for you. Some people keep to the relationship and move on - sometimes successfully. Others move on by breaking the relationship. Either way you will always have a memory of what has happened, it is how you personally deal with being cheated on that affects your own well-being and future. One of the biggest challenges is being able to trust. To be able to trust you first have to try and forgive.

  8. Epic Traveller profile image60
    Epic Travellerposted 7 years ago

    If the person has cheated then obviously they are looking for something new. Time to move on before you get your hart crushed

  9. Cardisa profile image92
    Cardisaposted 7 years ago

    You don't ever forget something like that...you can try but a trauma (and I say trauma because it is) like that is basically unforgettable especially if it is supposed to be a committed monogamous relationship, especially if you have been faithful

    If both of you have cheated and that has become the norm in the relationship then it might be easier to deal with or one might forget, but I doubt it.

    We were seventeen and he cheated on me. We were apart for 22 years. We have been together now for two years. I have not forgotten that he cheated on me 24 years ago even though I now trust him and have completely forgiven him. I trust him completely but the memory is still there.

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    ExoticHippieQueenposted 7 years ago

    You can't forget forever! You can't forget the past.  It happened. But you can start over again and move forward with a new understanding of your relationship.  The person who cheated has to agree to be accountable for all of his/her actions, be willing to lay his soul bare for inspection until such time that the other person feels safe and secure again.  You also have to look at why this happened? What was missing in the relationship that this happened? Dissect it and learn from it.

  11. 4tune profile image60
    4tuneposted 7 years ago

    Trust would be shattered you would always wonder I think.. I think it's better to have open discussion and consider an open relationship before cheating.. although I am not so sure those work out unless both really want that.

  12. abrarr profile image61
    abrarrposted 7 years ago

    though it would be a difficult task to forget but if you keep this in mind that if something wrong is done by someone, God will ultimately turn it back to the wrong doer.

  13. shoaibgmail profile image67
    shoaibgmailposted 7 years ago

    I forgive but not forgot ..sorry its my nature..

  14. ubanichijioke profile image74
    ubanichijiokeposted 7 years ago

    Kmackey, iburmaster, exotichippiequeen, cardisa, 4tune, epictraveller, Abrarr, seeker7, Jennie, lynetta, shoabgmail and lostdogrwd. Y'all have in one way or the other shown me the right door to enter. I ve chosen to forgive, forget and give her another chance. I say bravo to you my comforters and great advisers. I am truly happy reading these wonderful lectures and recommendations. My heart of appreciation gratefully waves a 'thank you' for your kind help. God will forever bless you all my friends.


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