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   lsin82posted 13 years ago

   Name one trait about yourself  that could cause problems if you carried that trait into a marraige?
   
   What is one thing about yourself you know could have a negative impact on your relationship if you carried that into a marriage? I am thinking about getting married soon and I asked this question to my girlfriend. She thought it was a very interesting questions that a lot of couples in our position should ask.

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   kimberlyslyricsposted 13 years ago

   I struggle with concentration which would evolve into not giving my mate enough attention.  Not on purpose but am bad at it.  thanks

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   Matt Starkposted 13 years ago

   Spending habits.  Money can be a huge problem for marriages, so make sure you talk about it.

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   will345davisposted 13 years ago

   My biggest problem would be my mouth. I'm not mean or verbally abusive, I'm just blunt. I'm like that with all people. I say what comes to mind when it comes mind. I've always been a fan of the truth that hurts rather than the lies that don't. Honesty is a vital part of marriage, but I think some things should be held back for the sake of the other's feelings.

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   bbnixposted 13 years ago

   Sometimes, we see in ourselves issues that our mates may not even see, but may in fact, find incredibly endearing...

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   klevifushaposted 13 years ago

   Uncontrollable anger. And I also enjoy spending money carelessly.

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   Daffy Duckposted 13 years ago

   I like to be alone most of the time.  I need my space.

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   Capric222posted 13 years ago

   Well, I have always had this need for attention.  I am not really quite sure where it came from as I had a wonderful upbringing full of love.  So, once I hit a certain age that need for attention came from men.  Obviously when you are married to someone who shows you a lot of attention they do not quite understand this.  And, to be honest it's never really when I am completely sober.  Sometimes it is, but a lot of times when I am drunk this is when it comes out.  It's like this unconsious struggle that I must be dealing with or something, I don't know.  Anyway, who wants to have to worry about his/her wife/husband flirting with others when they are drunk.  Absolutely nobody.  That would have to be one trait about me that could potentially ruin a relationship and ultimately myself as well.

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   onegoodwomanposted 13 years ago

   There are things ( feelings, trust, disappoinments) that I just do not wish to talk about.   I do  not like  to talk about the mudane.
   
   If something is bothering  me, at work, I feel the need to give a ' history lesson' in order to update my listener.  It is not worth the trouble.......so I keep things to myself.

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    Dreamers Penposted 13 years ago

    There's a few things... my spending (though I am getting better at it) and my anger (stubborn as well).  My boyfriend also is stubborn and has anger issues.  Lately we have been fighting a lot because of the stress and with added anger issues, it makes it worse.
    
    Though we have talked about going into couple counseling and anger management.  We haven't yet because we don't have the money right now and he's going to counseling for other issues he has.  I am trying to get a second job to help with the money issue, so I hope soon we can go.

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    lsin82posted 13 years ago

    I know for a fact that my stubborness could be a problem. I feel the need to see things done my way, or always get my point across no matter what. I surely have to learn to compromise and swallow my pride.

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    stricktlydatingposted 13 years ago

    I'm not a morning person.  It would probably peev my partner off if he was always up at the crack of dawn while I lay in bed for several more hours...

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    Globetrekkermelposted 12 years ago

    Hmmm.... I'd like to think I am way too frank and say words  without regard as to how my words affect the other person.If there is one thing I would like to improve on is diplomacy. I am trying though but maybe I am not trying hard enough.  I  am sure i have more aspects I can improve on that I am not aware of or has never been reminded .Can we talk about the positives, instead? LOL!

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