In general people need people - but do men need women more then a women need men.... that would depend entirely on each one individually.
I know - women are quicker to go looking for a man after a break up - men are quite happy taking there time. That may mean women need men more.... who knows.... but then who seems to know everything... I just wish I was a better friend of who!
I think men depend on women and many ways most them won't admit, men and women both need eachother. But women are the strongest species of the two, we seldom back down from ANYTHING! And we have more pressure on us to maintain a certain image, so we create a controlled environment for most men who are a lot less aware of what they are portraying.
I think men do need women more because they really don't know how to handle a household and children like we do. My hubby tells me all the time he couldn't do it without me. I believe him too. Just being in the hospital for a couple of days showed how little he can handle things. It was a nightmare and my entire house was trashed when I came home. He just couldn't handle it.
Sure men need woman but I think men have become this way more so because thier wives have spoilt them, maybe even their mothers,I am a man and been married for over 32 years and do most things in the house, I have my own biulding business which takes up every working day, my wife works hard as well, but from a young age my mother taught us boys this: don't wait for people to do things for you. If you want it done do it yourself. So my argument is this, if your husband cannot do household things, and children then you most problibly spoilt him. (Sven Grahn, Lifestyle coach)
I think men do need women more than vice versa. Most divorces are initiated by women, not men. I was raised to believe that I had to hurry up and 'get a man' as if they were hard to find or something, but my experience has been that that is not true. If you look at the online dating sites, it's mostly men at them.
Having said that, I would be a very, very sad person without Bill, my guy. I can't imagine life without him. I know it would go on, but I don't WANT to imagine life without him.
I love what you just said about your guy, it's sweet. And i have to say, I have run into some men that have put their noses to the grindstone and are doing very well. Most are men that have had to do it alone and they are handling it very well...
it is true that its men who are found on most dating sites its bcoz those men are shy and cannot face a woman.OK.otherwise who doesnt know that in the world today there are more women than men(mogaka morris:254773421006
I think men come to rely on and thus need 'their' woman more, but women need 'a' man (often any man) more.
Most of the girls I know tend to hook up with new guys petty quickly after break-ups, etc. where as my guy friends tend to take their time looking for the next 'one'. But of course this may not be universal and could be particular to the women that I know or have known.
I agree with both rdnckwmn and mrvoodoo. I was married for 24 years (a long marriage and very short one) and I loved family life. I never dreamed I would be divorced. Now I want a significant other in my life, but I don't know that I need that. I'm okay as I am.
Of course assuming we are Not talking about procreation here and just sex...(I am) and gawd knows there are already FAR too many of us on this tiny planet...rather like a plague.
And it seems to me that in the past decade; there are SO MANY more gay people -- I think it's like the Everglades...all the mutations going on...all the extra hormones, poisons and pollution; the mutation of Mother Earth herself.
Pretty soon - we will all just be a-sexual....and won't need anybody else at all! And then we will ALL be gay (as in HAPPY), not homosexual. ROTFL! (I just HAD to lighten this up.)
When a man marries and commits himself to a wife and children, however, most of his social liabilities disappear. He has a reason to live responsibly, work hard, and save for the future. Instead of pandering to his own sensual desires, he postpones gratification and sacrifices for those who depend on him. He becomes more future oriented. This "loose cannon" often becomes the "pillar of the community.
What a woman does for a man, then, is to harness the sexual energy that was unbridled and threatening to society and focus it on protecting and providing for a family. This transformation is absolutely vital to the well-being of a culture.
In my opinion both are so important ...Man need Women and Women need Men
oh my god.... i cannot believe you put that picture up.... my mum went into hospital last year for an operation for cancer and did not survive it...... 2 weeks earlier she went on holiday with my dad to Barcelona, and i have a beautiful photo of them hand in hand from the back...... would you like to see it i might be able to scan it on,,,,, that photo has made me so emotional, you would not believe it...
First off, how do you quantify need? Secondly relationships have many facets to them. In any partnership the many roles involved in sharing a life are distributed between the parties in various ways. For example, my wife does the cooking and I clean. Now, I am more than capable of cooking and on occasion I will do so and my wife will clean, so in this aspect neither of us needs the other. Now my wife isn't much of a mechanic so when something is wrong with her car she relies on me to take care of it, but does that mean she needs me more? I think not, because if I wasn't there she'd just take it to a mechanic. Then there is the emotional side of the relationship. Certainly I cherish her support and love and I'm sure she feels the same way, but which of us needs this more? I don't know how you can answer this. I know that I wouldn't want to live without her, and if for some reason she was no longer a part of my life, I have no doubt that I could continue on, though I doubt at this point in my life I would bother to seek love again, and she has expressed the same to me. I also believe that even though neither of us might not seek love, eventually love would find us. I think there is an inherent "need" to love and to be loved. I think this exists in both sexes. I believe it's a part of our DNA, that our very survival as a species depends on this trait.
brilliant comment....... if you were away from home, would you miss each other the same amount..... if men end up in nursing homes it is usually women who look after them, likewise with women i suppose.....
Not being arrogant but in my job, the men are sadly lacking withut a woman...... women cope a lot better, even if they don't want to. could be wrong of course
I suppose if one were to generalize this might be true. When 2 people spend their entire lives together, their roles well defined, they fall into a pattern of reliance on the other to perform those roles, so naturally if there is a sudden change in that arrangement there will be a period of transition and adaptation. Now some women may handle that better than men, but I think that really depends on the individual. When my first wife left me with the kids suddenly my whole life changed. I had to be not only a father, but a mother too! All the roles I depended upon my wife to perform were now mine in addition to the roles I already had. It wasn't easy and it took some time to establish a routine but it was just something that had to be done. I think that's true for most people. We all do what we must, when we must, the best we can, in order to survive.
Aww...I am sure she liked it!! At least it didn't go to waste..Maybe next time....
Ha ha, this is kinda funny, right now, there is a song on my radio called..waiting on a woman..and its basically about how men are always waiting on women, but its worth it. I feel like this topic is quite like the other sacrifice topic that came up a while ago. Men and women have different needs, goals, hopes, dreams and ways of expressing all these things. No one sex has more or less. For example, The Great Toilet Seat Debate. All the time I hear that women complain about the seat beign left up. "every time I go to the bathroom, I have to put it down!!"...(like thats real hard?)...I have never once heard man complain about the seat being left down. They have to lift up every time, right? Do you know any women who, after they pee, leave the seat back up again?but they do it, no complaints. Everybody needs love and understanding, compassion and help. Give these things freely, without thought of what you will get back, and it all works out in the end.
from the stand point of statistics and longevity- Men need women more. Unmarried men- whether widowed or divorced have a shorter life expectancy by 4 years; on the other hand women who are not married live seven years longer than average life expectancy...Maybe Icould write a hub about it- I do work with more women than men ( I work with elderly) and nursing homes are usually filled with twice as many women( I guess life expectancy?)
very interesting, sandwichmom. my husband died early and since being single, I have had a few decent relationships, but I enjoy the freedom to pursue my own interests and to have the time to really focus on creative pursuits which sometimes a relationship can hinder. I don't know if I could do it 24/7 again, maybe if the time is right and it's the right man. but in reality, I think relationships work because both partners want it to work. it has to be a 100% both ways.
HAHAHA. But hey, the first thing you said is kind of a good point Women do feel a need to nurture, (for the most part) more then men do. But that still makes it equal, woman NEED to give love, Men NEED to be taken care of...we need each other...
some translations say..a compliment for each other, or completement...all indicaiting a sense of being alone, or incomplete without the other. Not that you can not survive alone, but its better with someone.
or annoying hands groping you when your trying to sleep..ha ha, kidding...I realy honestly get a huge amonut of satisfaction out of seeing my husband devour dinner, and how happy he is when he comes home and the house is clean. He needs me to cook, I need him to enjoy it.
like just when ya changed all the linen too , yea the satisfcaction and gratitude when they like what you cooked , or smell , or notice something new...just pricless. What about that unexpected treat or coffee they make without you hinting
I must say that in a strong relationship or marriage, the needs of either partner is reciprocal. Men need women just as much as women need men for a host of different reasons aside from housework or heavy lifting! Companionship is a must. Same-sex relationships are a different matter but in no way is it more or less significant. All of us need to cared for and be needed. Until women can figure out how to reproduce without male sperm, we're gonna be okay
In my humbled opinion, no one person "needs" another person for any reason. To need something means that you cannot live without it. A man can live without a woman and a woman can live without a man.
On another note I would answer this as wanting. A think a woman wants a man more than a man wants a woman. Sure women provide a lot of great benefits to a relationship, but women are also crazy. Don't believe me? Just watch "He's Just Not That Into You." and you'll see how weird women are. However, it is because of this weirdness and bizzare behavior that men love women.
What a woman wants or needs is way beyond my comprehension though so I couldn't tell you how they think or feel.
Men on the other hand, don't need a woman to be happy. Men are such simple creatures, we can get along by ourselves. I will not however, go into detail on what a man needs a woman for. Procreation is the main deal. That and we need women so we can learn how to be more civilized to others.
In the end I think women need men more than men need women...and that's my final answer.
well done for that...... women are up and down that is for sure, i sometimes feel sorry for males, because females cannot really understand themselves sometimes, never mind expect their men to understand them.....
My husband used to say when i was younger
ah well every day is different, and he was right.....
glad you posted, i love to hear things from both perspectives, i have 2 sons and one daughter, and all their stories are different...... in an ideal world being together forever would be perfect, but we are a long way from that aren't we......
mrvoodoo said his male friends wait longer to find someone new, I've always seen it the other way around, I don't know any men who deliberately broke up with someone without having a new woman already waiting.
About married men living longer than single men, I thought that had changed, last statistics I saw showed it didn't matter any more. Though men may take less risks when they have a family.
Do men feel forced to put on a tough exterior do you think, as you can see they feel as deeply and as emotionally as us females. I think i would laugh if i saw my husband cry, he is kind to me on the rare occasion i do..... unless it is out of temper ha ha
Men also Women. Well i have met a few folks in my life' that do not have a male figure or a women figure in there life and most have been that way for many years now. So i believe it is up to each person to choose if this is something they need in there life to grow as male or female on this earth.
Most people just don't like the drama that goes alone with relationships , and choose to not get involved. Also those who make nasty remarks that might say women or men can be trouble are talking about there own life choices, and have not taken the time to see why they have attracted these type of people around them in the first place. Most people making remarks have some deep mental problems to make such a broad statement on women or men period.
I would just like to know have any of these people dated all women or men on the earth to make such a statement about women or men being trouble ??
One comment Yellow pages. They have help now for those who think that way towards others of the opposite sex. I suggest you get some before making such remarks.
You said: Most people making remarks have some deep mental problems to make such a broad statement on women or men period.
You've met and evaluated "most people? You believe that generalizing from life experience shows mental illness or maladjustment? People are SUPPOSED to learn from experience! And I'm sure we all know we each are influenced by our own experiences.
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