What is the biggest problem or issue that couples face in relationships?

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   Loco Lifeposted 12 years ago

   What is the biggest problem or issue that couples face in relationships?
   
   The stresses of everyday life can cause strain on even the strongest of relationships. What do you think is the biggest issue(s) couples fight about?

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   I think people tend to jump into relationships too quickly.
   They want "somebody" so bad they often don't invest the time it really takes to determine whether or not the person they're seeing is someone they want an exclusive relationship with. You really want to know how a person handles stress and disappointment before you become too emotionally invested in the relationship. The bottom line is you want to make sure both of you want the same things out of life and  agree on a strategy. It's been said relationships require "work". However when two people are (on the same page) it's not so much work as it is a "labor of love".  Much like a garden a relationship has to be "nurtured" or it will die. Taking each other for granted can lead to major problems.

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   loveguru23posted 12 years ago

   Great question. For many, I would say trusting is number one, then lack of attention/affection, then maybe finances.
   
   But the biggest issue many couples face in a relationship face in a relationship, is the lack of communication.

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   TattooKittyposted 12 years ago

   dashingscorpio makes a very good point!!  Couples that support each other (and keep on open line of communication) will have an easier time coping with life's difficulties.  Arguments about financial woes and trust issues seem like potential blowouts, yet a couple who is willing to invest quality time and genuine effort into a heartfelt discussion has a much better chance of overcoming these issues and growing from them!
   
   A dreadful daily routine can also cause a relationship to feel "stale", no matter how much you may love someone.  Therefore, it's important to spend time with your partner doing something spontaneous.  Take a walk together, go fishing/hiking/swimming, challenge each other to a cook off, or even try building something together.  Exploring new activities with one another will help strengthen your relationship (as well as break the monotony)

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   KateWestposted 12 years ago

   I think the more you learn to communicate openly, the better. Always.

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   FaithDreamposted 12 years ago

   Money or financial worries. Many couples today face all kinds of stresses over their finances. From unemployment to housing foreclosures, to today's econony, many are worried about their jobs and their homes. This stress puts a strain on many marriages.
   
   Combine it with other issues such as a lack of trust, one partner may hide their purchases or not tell their spouse about a purchase. Some couples have also opened up bank accounts without the other's knowledge. Thus more mistrust occurs and more problems will surface.

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   stricktlydatingposted 12 years ago

   Not wanting the same things, causes most problems.

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   Loco Lifeposted 12 years ago

   After reading everyone's comments, I've come to the conclusion that there are several factors when couples are dealing with their own issues and problems. Trust and communication seem to be the main two, and I couldn't agree with that more. I'm not sure that I could build on any type of relationship if trust isn't present. When it comes to lack of or bad communication, problems are sure to arise which will ultimately cause damage as well.

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   shanayaposted 12 years ago

   Lack of Communication, Extra Marital Affair, and Financial problems. These are the biggest problems I have seen in many Relationships.

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    6hotfingers3posted 12 years ago

    I believe its trust. It so very easy to lose the trust of a loved one. From that point on the mate is seen in a different light. The two people may remain together but the purity of the relationship dies when one or the other is caught in a lie.

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    Globetrekkermelposted 11 years ago

    If there are stresses in a marriage , I try not to sweat it. I do not say it is always easy to do that but I always remind myself  of the good and better times in the marriage  which in my case far outweighs the bad ones . I don't usually focus on the negatives and I try  see the other side of the fence.My thinking is: THIS TOO WILL PASS. TOMORROW IS ONOTHER DAY. But to answer the question, I believe the biggest issue(issues) a couple face is decision making.Like me , I love to travel and want to get away as soon as I can, I am restless if I stay in one place too long.My husband does not want to travel anymore.he said ,he had enough of europe (which is where i go most of the time) .That really disappoints me a lot because It will be a lot more fun and enjoyable if we both travel together overseas.He wants to travel just local. So I go alone to Europe most of the time.

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