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If someone cheats you, do you give him another chance to improve himself?

  1. vansh121 profile image64
    vansh121posted 6 years ago

    If someone cheats you, do you give him another chance to improve himself?

  2. OutsideTheLines profile image59
    OutsideTheLinesposted 6 years ago

    There's a good reason they say "Once a cheater, always a cheater."

    And what's up with the subtle sexism of "HIMself"? :p

  3. Nefarious_Misery profile image68
    Nefarious_Miseryposted 6 years ago

    I agree. It's not only men doing the cheating. And the answer is NO. Once trust is lost, all is lost. Move on.

  4. icciev profile image60
    iccievposted 6 years ago

    When someone cheats on others, the trust and faith against him will be broken you can't even try to trust him so its very hard to deal with him again, my answe is no

  5. whoisbid profile image76
    whoisbidposted 6 years ago

    People cheat all the time. It is just that some get caught. No-one can say that have never cheated because then they become a liar too.

  6. missolive profile image95
    missoliveposted 6 years ago

    Hi - I thought I'd chime in...

    I'm the kind of person that views decision making especially difficult ones as a "case by case" crossroad. I've seen marriages recover beautifully and I've seen another destroyed (not my own thank goodness - knocking on wood) after cheating took place. Personally I do not think it is forgivable, but after being married 21 years I do not think I would simply cut my husband off either and walk away. It would take quite a bit of healing, analyzing and forgiving to get past it though.

    Now for the "monkey wrench". I've heard some very interesting comments from my middle school male students. I've had at least one male student every year say that their fathers tell them it is ok to cheat. One actually went into great detail and described (as I'm guessing his father did to him) You marry the on you love that will take care of you and your kids and you don't marry the one you play around with - you keep her happy on the side until you need her. This was a 13 year old. I said, does your mom know this? He responded, I think she just acts like she does not know. WOW!