Is a love life, truly worth all the hassle that may come with it?
Please describe your answer thoroughly & clearly. Maybe even include tips for others, to understand what you feel a love life should be about, such as making family commitments etc.....
It's only a hassle if you are with the wrong person. Each of us has the ability to simplify or complicate our lives. For example just because you get married does not mean you have to kids. Just because you have kids does not mean you have to spoil them with every known after school activity known to man. Life basically comes down to the choices and decisions one makes. There are millions of people who are happy with their love life. They make it a practice not to bite off more than they can chew. You really have to (Know Yourself) before selecting a mate. You control your love life!
Not sure there is an easy answer to this. A psychic once told my ex-wife that, I was here this time (in this life) to work on my relationships with women. That's a damn understatement! It has not been a walk in the park (and sometimes, that is all I ask). Affairs, ex's, four daughters (no sons), from three different women. Trouble is I tend to leap without thinking. If I had to do it all over again, would I? No!
The love life is for the person thats willing to do sacrifices for the others well being. To protect, honor and hold true to the family. If someone wants fulfillment and a legacy for their children to continue then the love life is truly worth it. If one just lives for his or herself whether currently or for the rest of his or her life then the path of love will never work out and neither partner will be happy in the long run.
The answer to this question, clearly, depends on your temperament and where you are in your life. At least you are aware that there are many hassles involved. But are you aware that having a love life is mainly an opportunity for personal growth and development? There are some things in life we can learn only alone; and there are some things that can only be learned in relationship. If you are young and want a family, putting your time and energy into those kinds of relationships is critical. It's a difficult time though because that is also the time to get an education or develop your career. That's a lot to do at one time. In mid-life, if your health is good and you have a steady source of income, it seems to me to be easier to give building a love relationship the amount of attention and hard work that is required.
Looking at your temperament, even if you are a "loner," some loving relationships are crucial -- maybe not a love life, but supportive, loving relationships with family and friends.
Good luck! Sandra Busby
Hassle, love life?? Same sentence?! Yes, I do believe that a love life is truly worth all the ups and downs, it comes as a package. Every up or down dealing with your love life brings more, more people closer to getting to real, deep YOU. Love brings out many great things in people that a lot of people out there are scared of showing to anyone especially someone who isn't related to them. I have been with my boyfriend since 2002 on and off but steady since 2008 until present, and it has not been easy at all. We are opposites with how we were raised, to, certain liking to things. But this is what makes our love grow stronger every single day. Some people are not comfortable with the idea of being with someone who is completely opposite from who they are and some are more comfortable with this idea, like myself. I don't believe that you need to get married to start a family but it is a good way to start a family since the concept of marriage or the unity can be viewed as a good starting foundation. ** BUT, that is if the two individuals are not ready for the bond with each other and also if they are not able or comfortable sharing their love and etc with a baby/child should not try to start a family. Committing seems harder than it looks or sounds. It actually took me a while before I was 100% committed to only my boyfriend **hint, the on and offs**. I was searching for something that was always in front of me but was too stubborn and blind and selfish. I wanted more and more but until I woke myself up and realized what I was actually doing was not just hurting someone else, I was hurting myself and no one wants that unless you don't care about yourself. I got my act together and became mature to the love life and cared for myself and the my wonderful patient boyfriend. Yes, Love life is a pain to deal with at times but if you let yourself experience all the good time or moments, you may never understand what I and many lovers out there experience.
dashingscorpio has already mentioned most of what i have in mind *) love life or any life has hassles, nothing is simplified. It depends on you and your partner, how you deal with situations. If your love is worth keeping then the fight to save it should be too in both of you. Love is a magical feeling but when push comes to shove you also find out whether the decision was wrong or right. It isn't yours or anyone elses fault if you do fall for the wrong kind but the right kind of woman or man in your life will always fight the fights with you and when you've done conquering all those you call "hassles" you will also be grateful you have each other, which does make it worth while.
If you think it's a hassle, you're probably not with the right person. Sure, there are challenges to being married, but I don't think of them as "hassles."
Well I guess you've heard the phrase 'nothing good comes easy'. So yes, if you want something good you might live to cherish for the greater part of your life then dealing with the hassles that come with it wouldn't be a problem.
Most people just make things look harder than they really are. Hollywood has a way of blowing things over the tops with their view on relationship. But don't be stupid: know when It is right to deal with the hassles and know when it is not worth it.
I have been married for twenty eight years (twenty ninth this year) and am very happy with my married life including love life.
My love life does not just consist of my married life but also everyone whom I love.
By sharing the love that I have for my family and friends this is returned by them to me.
Hassle when talking about love life makes me feel quite uneasy. There should be no hassle when love is mentioned it should comes easily and if it doesn't I would suggest making time for a chat to iron out what the problems are.
If the expression 'love life' is referring to a personal relationship then the word hassle again makes me feel uneasy as there should be no hassle attached to a personal relationship.
Honestly, when I found the one I truly love I didn't experienced any hassles. Commitments, the responsibilities and other things which somehow we are obliged to do is just a part of life. It's not hassle for me, I enjoy doing it.
If you and your partner don't have an open communication, this is where it gets something bad as the other will think something different to his/her partner.
I'm married, have a daughter and I'm happier when I was single.
I wouldn't say it is a hassle unless your with the wrong person.
My fiancé has the ability to drive me insane sometimes, she can show traits i don't favour to much and i swear one day she will probably cause me to go grey but i actually wouldn't change her for the world.
I guess if you mean arguments, they are normal apparently the average couple argue 7 times a day. Its going to happen as you don't share the exact same thoughts but thats fine it would be like dating yourself if you did. My fiancé and i have many many similarities but we have a fair few differences to which we both benefit from by learning different view points and reasons behind them.
For me it's all about an equal partnership, neither of us feel overloaded because were doing everything for the other person with nothing in return, we work together. It's really quite easy and i'd guess there's only a few people that you could get away with talking to in the way you do your partner i.e. wow your backside smells what the hell have you eaten you animal?! haha
Love is never a hassle. It takes hard work and devotion, but it is never a hassle. Life is complicated, but love will be there for you if you both put work into your relationship.
There may be things that you initially think as "hassles" but finally when you slowly realize that the other person only thinks about you, cares for you and made for you then you will admit that those are not really bad, those are actually threads of love that connect two hearts.
I would not call love a hassle.The people involved in a relationship hopefully do not look at their relationship as such. With love as with life there will be ups and downs, compromises and learning to live together. But once you have met your soul mate, and feel the love is worth it, it makes it much easier, because you are best friends. I have been involved with my husband almost 7 years, married for the last 2. We are best friends and love doing things together. We laugh, love and learn together. Never being afraid to say sorry!
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