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Men-what do you find most complex about women? Women-what do you wish men would

  1. Seek-n-Find profile image90
    Seek-n-Findposted 6 years ago

    Men-what do you find most complex about women? Women-what do you wish men would just understand?

    I'm about half-way done with a Hub I'm writing on this topic and thought I'd do a quick poll to see if there are any major issues I've overlooked.  I'm trying to identify what men find difficult in relating to women and also what women wish their partners would just understand about their needs/desires.  Your feedback is appreciated! (I would also appreciate if you could be honest yet remain respectful--I'm not trying to start gender wars here!)

  2. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    Actually I don't find women to be all that complex. There are some who want to be thought of as equal, others prefer to be special, and still others want both. The biggest challenge for many men is understanding why (some women) are in a rush to "settle down", "commit" or "get married". Oftentimes this leads women to settle for a guy based upon his "potential" rather than holding out to find a guy who has all the important traits she has on her "shopping list".

    Frustration and disappointment comes whenever you try to "change" someone. If you go to the store to purchase an apple but buy an onion instead...Whose fault is that?
    Each of us chooses our own friends, lovers, and spouse. There is no getting around that. Dating is an exploratory process. One should take their time to really get to know someone before deciding they want an "exclusive relationship" or marriage.

    Lastly if you are a woman who wants to get married and are involved with a man who is "not ready" then you are better off moving on to a man who is marriage minded. You shouldn't have to sell, perusade, or give ultimatums to get someone to exchange vows with you.
    In order for him to be "the one" he must also believe you are "the one". At the very least a marriage should start off with (Both) people (wanting) to get married! One man's opinion! :-)

  3. chuckbl profile image80
    chuckblposted 6 years ago

    The thing I find most complex about women is understanding why the phrase "treat em mean to keep em keen" is actually true. I don't do it, or at least I hope I don't and I try to treat everyone in a good way, but I watch as many guys treat women terribly and often those women come back to those men for more or choose those arrogant men over other nicer men.

    Mostly either a self confidence issue or a vanity issue with wanting to be with the alpha male, I dunno though, it is confusing and unfortunate!

  4. teenboyproblems profile image61
    teenboyproblemsposted 6 years ago

    I'm a woman. COMMUNICATION. That is our main issue. We just want to be REALLY want to be heard or listened to. Not this half @$$ pretend. We just want guys to understand. If they can't take the time to listen, well, we just don't buy it. We have this intuition that tells us when you guys are lying. WATCH OUT! Lmfao!

  5. Nefarious_Misery profile image68
    Nefarious_Miseryposted 6 years ago

    I would say that one thing that always confounded me was that women ENJOY drama. They love to watch it on TV and movies, and for some reason feel they should CREATE the same drama in their own lives. I just never got it.

    P.S. teenboyproblems - most men will communicate TO A POINT, but what we'd really like is a woman who can just enjoy a nice comfortable silence and not have to fill every waking moment with chit-chat.

  6. profile image54
    Vladi Dorfmanposted 6 years ago

    This probably doesn't apply to all women, as anything else that is to be said.
    Over-analyzing stuff said to them and inserting subtleties and hints into things said by them (sometimes spiced up with sarcasm).
    This turns communication into a very complex game, sometimes unexpected and thus not picked up by the man.

    I don't think it applies to all women and certainly doesn't apply to them at all times, but this is the most complex issue women have in my opinion.

  7. Gregoryy profile image60
    Gregoryyposted 6 years ago

    Communication, sometimes they are subtle, and sometimes they are not direct, but they leave a ton of clues, and you have to figure it out to make it direct.