Name one thing that will improve communication between men and women?
It is hard to listen to someone if one is doing all the talking. So, more listening, less talking on both parties.
Men have a tentency not to listen. They look at you and nod, but they are somewhere else. You just think they are listening!
One thing that I think will improve communication is when men and women can get stereotypes out of the way and treat each other like human beings. I think this is an issue within gender as well. Sure, some men aren't very good at listening, but some are quite good. Some women talk a lot about themselves, but from just the women I've known in my life, many women are great at understanding others' perspectives. Just writing those two examples, they struck me as having close correlation, which raises a new thought. Men and women who stick to stereotypes about the other sex may be hating that trait in themselves and don't want to see themselves aligning with or condoning that behavior in other people.
So, yeah, stereotypes. I could have just said that.
I would agree with cjcarter. There needs to be more listening. Also, I would say actually talking about the issue at hand. Sometimes if I have a problem about something I'll start talking about something else because I don't want to confront the actual issue.
Most men could benefit from opening up and talking about real stuff a bit more...stuff that actually matters (not beer, football and farts!). And most women could do with listening to men better when they do decide to speak up. I think that some men don't talk as much because they don't feel that they will be listened to or understood by the woman...or they feel that they will only end up being interrupted anyway; by the woman expressing her point of view (making his less important). I also believe that most men don't like to appear weak, so they don't open up as much about their concerns or personal issues, whereas most women like to see a man open up and believe a man that is able to cry to be a 'real man'. . . Whereas the woman will speak up regardless.
two things, one for each sex:
The ability to shut up and listen to the other person.
Being open minded will also help. Seeing things from the other person's view is important in communication.
I would say being a good listener and understanding your partners needs, desires and feelings and by having both parties show a true interest in improving the relationship.
Patience would improve communication between men and women...as well as an understanding that each gender approaches things from different perspectives.
A couple of thing can greatly enhance communication between men and women. From my own experience of these many long years being in a relationship with the same man, I can honestly attest to this - treat your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend/mate as if they were someone else. That means be as polite as you would to someone you know and respect and who you want to respect YOU. If you don't give it, you won't get it in return.
Sprinkle in some kindness. Always be willing to be kind even when you're mad or you're having a rough spot. Amazingly, the kinder you are sometimes or the gentler you are about your feelings, it helps open the door for like treatment.
Don't be afraid to be open but if you find that it isn't working, agree to disagree and come back to it after you've both had time to think separately about something.
Last but not least, being intimate with someone definitely improves communication! So does making a wonderful meal for someone or doing something just "over the top" to show you care and then communicating.
Remembering that everyone feels and absorbs differently is really important and finding the key that unlocks the 'mystery' is half the fun~~~ It works across the board by the way - kids, dogs, people - it's all the same kind of mindset~
I think there are two areas where both men and women could improve their skills. The first is LISTENING! Not just hearing but active listening. These are skills every person needs for any relationship in their life, be it personal or work related. The other aspect I think we all need is empathy. By "walking a mile in some else's shoes" we can gain a better understanding of their needs, wants and desires.
stop thinking a gender but as individual that are unique, leaving the in laws out of the picture, leaving the crazy bitter friends out of the picture, letting go of the fear.
Allow the partner to express him/herself as an being that is different and let honesty be the leader of all that.
Another one inspired by swisswatch1: women be more quiet and listen more, men intimidate less and express more... of course this is based on general remarks about averages in gender.
Consideration is most important in any communication but especially in communication between a man and a woman!
To me understanding each others point of views about everything is what that matters. Without understanding you cannot communicate and accept each other on, one on one level !!!
One thing that will improve communication is having "realistic expectations". Too many people confuse "communication" with "action". Communication is nothing more than (expressing an idea and having another person acknowledge they heard and understood you).
Communication is NOT an "Ask and it shall be given proposition". Just becasuse someone does not give us what we ask for does not mean there is a "communication problem". Generally speaking it's one of two reasons.
1) They don't have it to give.
2) They don't believe you are worth the effort to give it to. (difference in priorities)
People change when (they) want to change. All we can do is (ask) for what we want. If we aren't getting it we have to decide whether or not it's a "deal breaker". If it is (get out). If it's not learn to live (without).
Ultimately you are far better off being with someone who "naturally agrees" with you rather than wasting time trying to change water into wine or fit square pegs into round holes. There is no "right" or "wrong" only "agree" and "disagree". Relationships are happier when both people want the same things the majority of the time. One man's opinion! :-)
Talking in person or on the phone instead of via SMS. Text messaging should only be used only as a convenience to let someone know you're running late, or on your way etc. Dating shouldn't start with texting; real debates, arguments and meaningful discussions should be done where you can hear the persons others voice and not in typed in words with a limit to the charactors!
Ahhh, remove any preconceived filter that annoy you so that you can hear the words spoken. We all do it. It is tought. repeat what your partner tells you. Preface it with a positive before a negative. Never start a sentence with YOU. It puts the person on defence.
Patience. *coughs and looks at the men around the room* And I guess, confidence would be a good cherry on top.
OK....my sarcastic sense of humor was about to write, "Threat of divorce."....but I've chosen to be serious today. High time I stop with the wise-cracks (for now)......
I believe in personal note dropping and an occasional love letter....this improves your communication in subtle & gentle ways. Example? How about a note slipped into your husband's pocket that says...."Hey babe, I'm missing you and can't wait to hear about your day over dinner." or a note left on the bathroom mirror to your wife: "You are looking at the most beautiful woman in the world. How bout a date tonight?" Too oowee goowee sugary for you? Fine, use your own creativity. It definitely sparks positive ground for communication. Don't knock it till you try it.
If men would listen to what women are saying. I am often trying to impart important information, (as opposed to 'just' chatting), and he will let me get right to the end, realise he actually wants to know this and make me repeat it all. On other occasions I have to ask, "What is coming out of my mouth?", to make him realise I'm trying to talk to him. I don't think he is at all unusual!
Many of them can be mentioned, but I love one of them above all the others. It's called celibacy.
Understanding with Love and compassion. Forgive and forget is the best policy. Never point out others mistakes. Err is human. Hence we have to improve communication on a broader base of understanding and sympathy.
Since communication is two way, listening with understanding can improve communication. if you talk a lot an you don't listen nothing will be accomplish.
Honesty and openess...always having in mind how they can complent each other not what is there to divide them...
I think it is saying exactly what you mean. Do not assume the the man you are speaking to knows where you are coming from.
Understanding where the other person is coming from and getting rid of pre-determined stereotypes i think will help a lot.
Listening with an open mind and heart without prejudging and also realizing that sometimes its better to be happy than convincing your partner that you are right. We should try to understand the other's point of view and empathize with their feelings.
Listening! Of course, that is the number one thing that needs to be improved on both sides. But also, stop being passive aggressive and just say what you mean to say. I'm guilty of this - I think most people are. You're angry or upset but just let it simmer until it boils over, or just keep getting little digs in but not really saying what needs to be said. In the end, passive aggressiveness is just a lack of real communication.
Getting rid of the television! In my opinion the television takes up too much time and any conversation attempts are thwarted by, 'Schhh this is a good bit'
Just one thing? When women do verbal onslaught, men should keep quiet.
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