How Important is it to Say, "I Love You," in a Marriage?

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  1. Shil1978 profile image90
    Shil1978posted 9 years ago

    How Important is it to Say, "I Love You," in a Marriage?

  2. kayyluh profile image64
    kayyluhposted 9 years ago

    Thats the glue that holds something together! If your dating before and don't say it then I doubt they get married. If you've been married a long time that is no excuse to not tell someone that you love them. It is extremly important to say 'I love you' especially in a marriage.

  3. Moms-Secret profile image83
    Moms-Secretposted 9 years ago

    In a lot of ways, we never stop being children.  It is just as important to hear that you are loved and to feel physical touch for a marriage than it is for children.  Children who have this confirmation of love and affection flourish as do marriages that have it.  Marriages that do not have often look outside of the marriage to get it or are at least tempted to do so when someone gives them this type of attention. 

    My husband died young.  When this happens to anyone, it is natural to wonder, doubt, and wish you would have done things differently.  One thing that I did not have to go thru was wonder if he knew how much he was loved.  I called him love, amor.  Kisses everyday.  No regrets.

  4. Daxman profile image60
    Daxmanposted 9 years ago

    It has importance but if said too much and too often it becomes quite generic and loses its real meaning. Especially in longer marriages.

  5. dashingscorpio profile image85
    dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

    I believe it varies from person to person as well as marriage to marriage. Ideally those who want to hear it should choose a mate who expresses themself verbablly. Strong "silent" types or so called "practical" types rarely become romantic gushers. One of the main purposes of dating is conducting"due diligence". That's the time to determine if this person is (the kind of person you want to spend your life with). Unfortunately too many people become engaged or married before they have seen their mate's "authentic self".

  6. moonfairy profile image74
    moonfairyposted 9 years ago

    To me it's very important, not only in marriage but with everyone that I love. I never leave their presence without saying  I love you, and I never close a conversation without saying I love you...without that, I would feel a bit of emptiness.

  7. MsDora profile image94
    MsDoraposted 9 years ago

    The partner who is auditory, or whose love language is "affirmation" needs to be assured as often as possible.  Say it.  It takes so little energy, none at all on some days.

  8. Apostle Jack profile image60
    Apostle Jackposted 9 years ago

    It is good to be said as a present thought to each other,BUT, it is also known by the action and reaction of spirit ,which say it best....and words then,have no need to be spoken.

  9. Yaduvanshi profile image57
    Yaduvanshiposted 9 years ago

    It is more important to feel it than listen it

  10. Robie Benve profile image95
    Robie Benveposted 9 years ago

    It is extremely important to feel loved, but that does not mean you have to hear the words ILY. Behaviors and facts speak much louder than words.
    I've seen people ending every telephone call with "I love you", and turn around and cheat on their spouse.
    Even if I love to hear "I love you", I prefer loving gestures and deeds than words.

  11. profile image0
    CJ Sledgehammerposted 9 years ago

    It is always nice to hear those 3 special words, but as they say, "Actions speak louder than words". I would rather someone show me how much they love me than to just give me lip-service. :0)


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