Do you feel insecure when your partner innocently looks at an attractive lady or guy?
Anyone attractive is bound to attract attention. It’s natural to look for a few seconds and look away.
Around here . . . it isn't much of a problem. Who can tell where you are looking? If you practice, you can get away with it every time.
yes i feel like i am not attractive enough and fear that might lose and it will linger in my mind and start comparing myself with the girl he could not stop looking at.
Not at all. We joke about how he flirts with food service providers in order to get better service and bigger portions. He comments about women who pass us who have big booties or nice legs. I either agree or not. As long as he doesn't follow one home, I'm not worried.
No not at all. He's allowed to look, I don't see any harm in it. I'm partial to a little 'eye candy' myself.
First off, I don't believe anybody ever "innocently" looks at an attractive anybody else. If they are looking, it's because they think there is something worth seeing. And that's perfectly OK with me, because I don't miss a trick when it comes to eye candy. If I catch my partner looking at an attractive girl, you can bet I probably saw her before he did, and the attractive guy who was with her too.
No, it has never bothered me. I can look at attractive men as well, but it is my husband that I choose to go home with and vice versa.
no not at all.....
cuz its just an opposite sex attraction
just be positive
actually in my suggestion you should also join her/him he ll be more comfortable with
and feel safe with you.
I don't get jealous that my husband looks at women, which he rarely does. I am very secure in our relationship.
My wife loves to look at handsome guys while she encourages me to love at beautiful ladies. We are opened about it.
Looking at attractive guys / ladies are natural. Instead of preventing to see, we encourage each others. There is no harm in it.
My partner doesn't really have a wandering eye, so when she does take the time to look at someone I definitely notice...but I don't really dwell on it. We've been together long enough that I trust her completely, and I know she would never be unfaithful.
if anything , i like it. it lets me know she is still alive and thinking.
No I don't. I just remember that physical attraction to a stranger is completely different to what we have as a couple. How does a six pack outweigh years of commitment, support, conversations and shared experiences ?.
If your partner is happy with you physically and you have a good quality relationship I don' think there is anything to worry about.
not at all... he sometimes even share to me some things she noticed as well as how pretty or nasty a woman as he've seen it. It's just an appreciation actually like a beautiful flower or a car. What matters is.. you knew who he loves and chooses to spend the rest of his life with.
No... I am secure with where I stand, in a relationship. We all look. just follow the 80/20 rule and you will be ok.
It is perfectly normal for people to look at the opposite sex. It is better for the relationship if you don't make a big deal about it. A look is innocent and should be treated as such. You might just learn something about your partner is you are open with the subject.
I am a little insecure as I don't find myself that attractive; though my boyfriend has never given me any reason to be so. He is very loyal to me I know, and it is only natural for boys to look at pretty girls. But I've never seen him taking such chances. Even if he did, I think I am capable enough not to judge every little glance. So yeah, it's OK with me as long as he's not cheating in our relationship.
Not at all. My husband has never given me any reason to distrust him and I'm sure he looks at times. He doesn't gawk or make it too obvious. Our relationship is based on trust and a deep friendship also.
He can look all he wants as long as long as there's no touching.
I find it rather hypocritical that the girl can look at this blonde's lovely body and ass,as she is very noticeably undressing her with her eyes,and a filthy good look-over as the photo CLEARLY shows,and wants to prevent a clearly straight ,healthy young man not too admire her,she's not a fat sloath or overweight like atleast 60% of women in that age group,hands off beeatch!
Pschologist would suggest thatThis is not jealousy,this is a sexually confused young bird.
Is the bird covering that guys eyes a lesbeing or what,I think so for show!
yah, i am jealous when my girlfriend look some handsome guy..........
I and my girlfriend often openly talk about it when we see a nice body guy or beautiful and sexy woman. We talk about it as a motivation that we can also get that shape of body. It think it is OK.
No, it has never bothered me, but the feeling when an attractive lady is near you and your guy is not looking at her and all the attention he has on you makes me feel amazing. But anyway it doesn't bothers me, as you can always find so attractive girls that even I look at them :p
I would be annoyed if it were a long and lingering look of desire or something.
There's NO WAY to look "innocently" at the hot young babe in the picture attached to this submittal!!!!!......
sure there is. look at her as a person, as opposed to a piece of meat
OK, Catherine...... I'll give it my best shot.... Mmmmm, not working.....
I'm sorry ackman- but at least you get style points for trying...
Catherine: The sexy young thing strutting her stuff in that short black dress doesn't want to be seen as a person...she wants men to notice two luscious legs. She is advertising what she believes is her finest qualities...her finest assets.
I get that CJ. My point is that there definitely is a way to look at her innocently.
If you're at a party, and someone comes around w/ a tray of appetizers, you don't have to ogle them
Catherine: This young sexy thang wants to be seen as a sex object...she would be totally disappointed if she was not noticed. Almost all men suffer from "hungry eye syndrom" and this little philly wants them to feast their eyes on her beautiful bod.
actually when you talk to them, a lot of them want to "look good" or "look hot" but are very upset when it translates to being looked at as a sex object as opposed to beautiful
US culture's gotten pretty and sexually available all mixed up
Catherine: When a woman exposes body parts and wears sexy, revealing clothing, she is trying to draw men in through sexual attraction. What is unrealistic, is to think that once she has them focussed on her body, that they must now focus on her mind.
CJ You're not getting it. Girls are taught that dressing sexy means that they're "looking good" for themselves not just that they're trying to attract sex partners, and that dressing modestly is dressing funny or ugly.
It's not always about sex
Catherine: I'm sure short skirts, high heels, and thong panties are not meant for one's comfort, but they are meant to get attention using sex as the bait. We are all walking billboards that are advertising something. Women often advertise sexuality.
If you're set on the idea that they're all trying to sexually come on to you, I won't change your mind. Just trying to cue you in to some of the mixed info given to the female side of the group
I would deny and say no but I'm just human with some uncontrollable emotions so I would say, yes, it does make me feel insecure sometimes. But I'm learning how to get over it. There will always be more attractive people than me so there's no point in getting insecure or jealous everytime my guy looks at one; it will just turn me into a negative person (which I like to think I'm not). As long as it's just an innocent look of course. ;-)
i didn't when I had one. In fact, she would often check out the girls as well it was pretty funny, she would scold me a bit if she didn't think the girl was that attractive
No, not at all. If you truly loving each other and serious in relationship than insecure feeling never come. On the other hand, seeing an opposite sex is normal and it will not effect a relationship anymore if there is good understanding between them. Be positive, have faith, trust each other and give freedom to each other.
No. You can admire art without wanting to hang it in your house.
I would be upset if he ignored me in favor of her. I wouldn't feel insecure though. I know who I am, and that wouldn't be about my worth as a person
It's not at all, the same for me to her. We even talk about it and make constructive criticism it.
Not really. It's only when they start to drool, that I begin to take note. :0)
YES it does! I'm terribly jealous, and I absolutely hate it.
I don't mind if he doesn't mind! I do believe it is natural for beautiful people to turn heads. The danger arises when one's relationship is not receiving the attention it needs, that's when it can fall apart. It takes more than a look to ruin a long term relationship.
I think it might partly depend upon the stage that the relationship has reached. Where the comfort level is, how much trust has been built & the security or insecurity levels of each party. If I just start dating someone and am trying to enjoy the time I spend with them, I'm not going to be too happy & in fact, would feel disrespected if he was turning his head for another woman. After 11 yrs of marriage, I still didn't appreciate too long of a look. For Goodness Sake - be discreet if you must do it! A man should always make his lady feel like the most beautiful woman on earth & that goes both ways! Far too much basic respect has been left out of the modern day relationship, in my opinion. I think that it's the small things like this over time that can erode the connection between two people. Take care of one another, show the utmost respect for your partner and you're sure to be paired for a very long time.
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