What to say to your boyfriend when he's started to tell you what he wants you to

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  1. stricktlydating profile image84
    stricktlydatingposted 6 years ago

    What to say to your boyfriend when he's started to tell you what he wants you to wear.

    And you want to feel free to chose your own outfits smile

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  2. FatFreddysCat profile image98
    FatFreddysCatposted 6 years ago

    I'd tell him, "There's the door, don't let it hit you in the a## on the way out," but that's probably just me.

  3. MickS profile image72
    MickSposted 6 years ago

    Them same as I would tell my old girlfriends or my wife.  This what I am, I wear what I like, when I like, how I like, lump it or do the other thing.

  4. stclairjack profile image82
    stclairjackposted 6 years ago

    option A)

    ask him,... "did you like what i was wearing when we met? cause i picked that outfit all by myself".................

    he answers yes,... "then lets just stick with the winning plan sweety". in the most loving voice you can muster while still dripping with sarcasm

    if he answers no,... "then you should be used to it by now get over it or get out"

    option B) and i like THIS plan a LOT!)

    explain that you LOVE the dress up game, then pick him out an outfit from your own closet, drag queen/trani it up AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE and then explain that you only know how to dress girls so this kinky lets play dress up game probably wont work, but you could do roll playing instead...... then tell him you'll need to go shopping for leathers and dog collars.

    i'd say iether option should solve your problem.

    1. stricktlydating profile image84
      stricktlydatingposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I love that "Let's just stick with the winning plan sweety" Haha!

  5. msorensson profile image71
    msorenssonposted 6 years ago

    If  he has good taste..why not at least entertain his suggestions? Few men would go to the lengths of shopping with you, much less tell you what he thinks you should wear....I do not think it in terms of control..I think it endearing actually...

    1. stclairjack profile image82
      stclairjackposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      i actualy agree with you to a point,... i think when its done in an endearing way yes,... but if its controlling or outlandish in taste,... then no. good answer,.. my first impulse was "go funny"

    2. msorensson profile image71
      msorenssonposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Women go to so much length wanting to look good for that one person..he makes it easier, anyone who tells you what they want for you (meaning for both of you) is to be applauded rather than chastised.  This is all conceptual of course. ..for me..

    3. stricktlydating profile image84
      stricktlydatingposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      You always have an interesting point of view, thanks msorensson!

  6. rlaha profile image69
    rlahaposted 6 years ago

    I think you should be a woman and stand up for yourself. Tell him that you wear what you want to wear when you want to wear it. If he has a problem with it, then that is HIS problem. If he cannot give you that freedom to make your own choices then I seriously think you need to reconsider having him as a boyfriend. You should not have to do everything he wants you to do.

    1. stricktlydating profile image84
      stricktlydatingposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Rlaha

  7. tom hellert profile image59
    tom hellertposted 6 years ago

    If I was a girl I'd say-
    "Thanks for your input-I  wonder if you would have noticed me if I dressed different when we met"?
    Or "Who died and made you queen"?
    How about "where were you when I was 16?, how did I ever manage without your help..?"
    Or "OK DAD, can I borrow the car tonight?"
    "Normally I charge $200  a night but for you $195..."
    TH

  8. lburmaster profile image83
    lburmasterposted 6 years ago

    I would wear what I wanted to. It's my style and that is why he is with me, for me. If he doesn't like it, I deserve better.

  9. Mazzy Bolero profile image76
    Mazzy Boleroposted 6 years ago

    It would depend on why he was doing it.  Sometimes it's intended to help - maybe he thinks you would look fabulous in something you just don't have the confidence to wear. In other cases, it's to control or undermine your confidence. 

    I went out with a guy who was always criticizing what I wore and advising me to wear a different style of clothes - I later saw a photo of his ex and yes, she was wearing that style of clothing. She also had the hairstyle he kept saying would suit me.  He was trying to turn me into her! 

    So, what I would say would depend on the circumstances.  Your dress style tends to reflect your personality, so if you dress like Rihanna and he wants you to dress like Doris Day, maybe you aren't suited.

    1. stricktlydating profile image84
      stricktlydatingposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      OMG! Trying to turn you into his ex! What a shocker!

  10. MsDora profile image94
    MsDoraposted 6 years ago

    Say, "It's time for us to discuss personal boundaries."  Then whatever else you say, be courteous, respectful and decisive.

    1. stricktlydating profile image84
      stricktlydatingposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      That's a great way to put it, thanks MsDora!

  11. stanwshura profile image74
    stanwshuraposted 6 years ago

    "Oh, yeah?  Quid pro quo, bro!  You wanna be czar of my wardrobe, then you best be ready to check with me before sportin' your muscle shirt or varsity letter!"

  12. DDE profile image27
    DDEposted 6 years ago

    Individuals  should wear what they like not what any one tells what them to wear, if your boyfriend tells you what to wear then you got to let him know it bothers you, if so.

 
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