Why do some people leave getting married until one of them is terminally ill?

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  1. innerspin profile image88
    innerspinposted 11 years ago

    Why do some people leave getting married until one of them is terminally ill?

    I see many magazine headlines of stories where couples who have been together years marry at the last minute. Why do you think that is?

  2. cat on a soapbox profile image95
    cat on a soapboxposted 11 years ago

    A shrinking window of opportunity spurs people to action in surprising ways. There might be guilt involved, maybe a person is thinking there is money to be inherited, and it would only be a short term stint, afterall.  There are those who shamefully marry for other things besides love.

  3. LauraGT profile image85
    LauraGTposted 11 years ago

    I know someone who married their partner when he only had a few weeks left.  I think they truly loved each other, and wanted to go through that symbolic gesture to somehow codify their love for one another.  I don't think there was any financial motivation or anything other than really wanting to make each other happy in his final days.

    1. innerspin profile image88
      innerspinposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I'm sure it can be a positive thing at a difficult time. Never thought about financial motivation. Thank you for the reply.

  4. edhan profile image37
    edhanposted 11 years ago

    Love is always a mystery to many. When it comes, your heart will feel it. It is hard to explain but when it is there, you will know it.

    Love is like a bond that ties two persons together. It is love that we live our lives for. When I married my wife, we are bonded. When we have children, we have another bond as father and mother.

  5. Deepak Chaturvedi profile image62
    Deepak Chaturvediposted 11 years ago

    It shows their true love for each other.From their act we also learn a lesson that marriage is a perfect institution and everybody wants to enter into it sooner or later.

    1. innerspin profile image88
      innerspinposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your reply, I welcome your answer.

  6. Hui (蕙) profile image61
    Hui (蕙)posted 11 years ago

    Probably two reasons.
    First, something potential and precious always residing in mind but never being realized is aroused when it is disappearing forever, which wakens "lovers" at the last minute;
    Second, have to out of some realities or needs or ethics.
    Sad, anyway!!!

  7. bernard.sinai profile image79
    bernard.sinaiposted 11 years ago

    I think it's because they do not see the importance of life and family until they are faced with death, after which they begin to appreciate the things they have taken for granted.

    1. innerspin profile image88
      innerspinposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I can understand that viewpoint. Thanks for your answer.

  8. profile image0
    msorenssonposted 11 years ago

    Goodness, I think this is the most challenging question I have read so far...
    I have to confess that I do not know how to answer this question..so I will just write a possibility...

    Perhaps, confronted with his or her own mortality, the person who is terminally ill suddenly decided to marry to "make it legal"...or perhaps, the person who would be left behind asked it of the person who is dying..

    I am just guessing...

    1. innerspin profile image88
      innerspinposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      It is a difficult question, msorensson, which I find hard to understand, so thank you for joining in here. I think some people consider the financial cost of a wedding and put it off, then realise it does matter to them.

  9. Kathryn L Hill profile image78
    Kathryn L Hillposted 11 years ago

    I think it is because they want to show their love for one another in a way which they never got around to doing.  (Some people do not marry because they do not want to mess up a good thing. Marriage does change some relationships.  take off riage and what do you have.)

    1. innerspin profile image88
      innerspinposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for the response. That's really what has me curious, though. Many have chosen not to marry previously. I guess their views change when circumstances change.

  10. DDE profile image45
    DDEposted 11 years ago

    Couples who don't marry and just live together for years choose to be together for not having a commitment but when they marry at the last minute, they don't want to die with the feeling of being alone

    1. innerspin profile image88
      innerspinposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Good answer, thank you.

  11. padmendra profile image48
    padmendraposted 11 years ago

    When you are in love there are different phases that comes your way.where there is true love there are bright chances of problems rolling down to them one after the other.On the other hand some people look for good opportunities until they tie the knots with the person who was waiting for them for years apart from which they have no other option.So some get married late because before they reach this destination they fight all the odds and bring even things in the life,the other side always waits for the better opportunity.

  12. Insane Mundane profile image58
    Insane Mundaneposted 11 years ago

    Easy answer...  Death benefits!  I'll marry your dying arse and get all of your assets, money & junk - when you die; blah!  Why do you think they call it ASSets?

    1. innerspin profile image88
      innerspinposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Ooh, that's harsh! It's also a reason people should make wills, things don't automatically go to a spouse if a will states differently. Thanks for replying.

    2. somethgblue profile image72
      somethgblueposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Follow the money, baby! hey thanks for deleting my answer coward!

    3. innerspin profile image88
      innerspinposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      somethgblue you were moderated, I didn't delete anything, get over it.  Constructive criticism is one thing, insults are another.


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