Do you think it is ever alright to lie to someone you care about?

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  1. hockey8mn profile image71
    hockey8mnposted 9 years ago

    Do you think it is ever alright to lie to someone you care about?

  2. dontaytte profile image73
    dontaytteposted 9 years ago

    I think that you should always be as truthful as possible, but sometimes there will be a time to tell a small lie

  3. Johnny2Balls profile image60
    Johnny2Ballsposted 9 years ago

    I think a lot of people might say: "No, absolutely not!" Whereas others might call in the 'white lie' defence (she asks you whether she looks good in some clothes, you say "yes" even though you don't really like the outfit, but she does, so you don't want to hurt her).

    Personally I think it's a little tricky. A little evil for a greater good? Well, that can always go pear shaped, but absolute honesty can be just as treacherous. Some answers, even if they're watered down versions of the truth, can still hurt.

    To be honest, I hate to say it, but it's probably one of those grey area answers, where there isn't a definitive "absolutely always yes", and "absolutely always no".


  4. bankscottage profile image93
    bankscottageposted 9 years ago

    I don't think you should ever lie to your parents.  Lie to your children, maybe.

    1. ChristinS profile image42
      ChristinSposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      but if kids learn by example? and you're lying to them? then they grow up and lie to their kids... it's kind of a perpetual circle of non-truths isn't it? smile All kids lie to their parents and most of us lie to our kids though lol

  5. Mom Kat profile image71
    Mom Katposted 9 years ago

    If your wife asks you if she looks fat in that dress... LIE... tell her she looks great!

    If you are throwing a surprise party for your man and he asks you what you are doing... LIE... make something up or the jig is up!

    If your 5 year old comes home crying from school and says the big kids told him/her that Santa isn't real.... LIE... tell your child those other kids are wrong & Santa is real!

    Yes, there are occasions when it is acceptable to lie to people you care about.  But for the most part.... you should be telling the truth & being honest smile

    1. bankscottage profile image93
      bankscottageposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Great answer and I'm not lying ;-)

    2. litsabd profile image72
      litsabdposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with you Mom Cat. There are some "white" lies that make other people's lives a bit happier. Of course we shouldn't cross the line and start lying all the time. Honesty is a great virtue and apreciated among people we want to have in our lives

  6. edhan profile image40
    edhanposted 9 years ago

    If a lie that does not hurt or harm anyone but for the goodness then it should be okay. Otherwise never lie as the consequence may be terrible.

  7. ChristinS profile image42
    ChristinSposted 9 years ago

    a lot of grey areas in this question.  People have suggested telling your wife she looks great in an outfit that makes her look fat.  I would have to disagree on this - although it would be all in the delivery.  Don't just say yes you look huge - as that is truth, but it's hurtful.  I think it's also harmful however to allow someone to walk around in something that potentially makes them look bad and not tactfully letting them know you find other outfits more appealing.  I know I would want my husband to be honest but he's guilty of the same lies at times wink

    Any lie that hurts someone I say is a no-no.  Lying to cover one's own tush is also a no-no, be accountable it sets a good example for the kids.  smile.

    1. Johnny2Balls profile image60
      Johnny2Ballsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Instead of brutal honesty, maybe some sugar-coated truth?

  8. lburmaster profile image78
    lburmasterposted 9 years ago

    Not really, no. If you care about them, you should want them to know the truth.

  9. AnnaCia profile image79
    AnnaCiaposted 9 years ago

    No! That would be such a disrespectful behavior.


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