What is on your mind when someone is flirtatious and complementing you?

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   violetheavenposted 12 years ago

   What is on your mind when someone is flirtatious and complementing you?

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   soconfidentposted 12 years ago

   I would be wondering if she is interested in me or is she just being nice.

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   Mom Katposted 12 years ago

   Generally I tend to wonder what they want.  What are they trying to "get from me"?
   
   When I know that someone is giving me a sincere compliment over something I am proud of myself, like my cooking   I believe them & say thanks.  I feel honored & humbled that they felt compelled enough to compliment.
   
   When it's something superficial like my appearance... I look for what they are trying to sell me or what favor they may want.  "Flattery will get you everywhere".... only not when the other person is keen enough to know it's just a tactic.

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      soconfidentposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That is true,

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   I think it all depends on how well I know the person. If it is a stranger I am more incline to think they may be hitting on me. If it is someone I know fairly well I am likely to think they must need a favor or something along those lines.
   I suppose that says a lot about the cynical society we live in today. Everyone assumes there is an "ulterior motive" if someone is being especially nice to them. LOL!

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   Rosana Modugnoposted 12 years ago

   I think, "Hahahaha...if they only knew how old I was, they might not be flirting."  And..."I still got it! Woohoo!".  lol

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   The Invincibleposted 12 years ago

   Not sure, if anyone would ever spare a glance for me... I mean, it rarely happens with men over here...
   
   Though, I wonder what must be there in the gal's mind when I do the same...

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      violetheavenposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      If a man ever heard unfiltered womans thoughts his head would instantly explode.

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      The Invincibleposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I swear...actually!

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      violetheavenposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Yes. It's true.

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      austinhealyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Good ! Finally some truth is coming out lol

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   abbykorinneleeposted 12 years ago

   Since I got divorced from a verbally abusive husband, it had been a long time since I had gotten compliments or felt attractive and noticed anyone flirting with me.  I didn't get it at home so I really forgot what it feels like.  I do blush alot when they do and in my head I instinctively think he must be being nice.  I try to counter that with "no, he is flirting with you because you are...." and I fill in the blank.  It has really helped my self-esteem and I am better able to take a compliment and have a nice response to it other than "thanks but you don't have to lie to make friends" kind of comments.

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