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What is on your mind when someone is flirtatious and complementing you?

  1. violetheaven profile image60
    violetheavenposted 5 years ago

    What is on your mind when someone is flirtatious and complementing you?

  2. soconfident profile image84
    soconfidentposted 5 years ago

    I would be wondering if she is interested in me or is she just being nice.

  3. Mom Kat profile image82
    Mom Katposted 5 years ago

    Generally I tend to wonder what they want.  What are they trying to "get from me"?

    When I know that someone is giving me a sincere compliment over something I am proud of myself, like my cooking smile  I believe them & say thanks.  I feel honored & humbled that they felt compelled enough to compliment.

    When it's something superficial like my appearance... I look for what they are trying to sell me or what favor they may want.  "Flattery will get you everywhere".... only not when the other person is keen enough to know it's just a tactic.

    1. soconfident profile image84
      soconfidentposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      That is true,

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    I think it all depends on how well I know the person. If it is a stranger I am more incline to think they may be hitting on me. If it is someone I know fairly well I am likely to think they must need a favor or something along those lines.
    I suppose that says a lot about the cynical society we live in today. Everyone assumes there is an "ulterior motive" if someone is being especially nice to them. LOL!

  5. Rosana Modugno profile image83
    Rosana Modugnoposted 5 years ago

    I think, "Hahahaha...if they only knew how old I was, they might not be flirting."  And..."I still got it! Woohoo!".  lol

  6. The Invincible profile image61
    The Invincibleposted 5 years ago

    Not sure, if anyone would ever spare a glance for me... I mean, it rarely happens with men over here...

    Though, I wonder what must be there in the gal's mind when I do the same... wink

    1. violetheaven profile image60
      violetheavenposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      If a man ever heard unfiltered womans thoughts his head would instantly explode.

    2. The Invincible profile image61
      The Invincibleposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I swear...actually! smile

    3. violetheaven profile image60
      violetheavenposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Yes. It's true. wink

    4. austinhealy profile image75
      austinhealyposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Good ! Finally some truth is coming out lol

  7. abbykorinnelee profile image75
    abbykorinneleeposted 5 years ago

    Since I got divorced from a verbally abusive husband, it had been a long time since I had gotten compliments or felt attractive and noticed anyone flirting with me.  I didn't get it at home so I really forgot what it feels like.  I do blush alot when they do and in my head I instinctively think he must be being nice.  I try to counter that with "no, he is flirting with you because you are...." and I fill in the blank.  It has really helped my self-esteem and I am better able to take a compliment and have a nice response to it other than "thanks but you don't have to lie to make friends" kind of comments.

 
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