Do you believe that men and women can be just friends?

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  1. manofmystery24 profile image60
    manofmystery24posted 9 years ago

    Do you believe that men and women can be just friends?

  2. Alecia Murphy profile image78
    Alecia Murphyposted 9 years ago

    I have friends who are male who I don't see myself dating. I think people who feel like there's a danger to opposite sex friendships are too influenced by pop culture and not everyday life. Even as a kid, I didn't see the problem with having guy friends as long as they respected me and treated me as an equal. And the same goes for now- as long as you treat me the way you would like to be treated we can get along just fine.
    I also think it's healthy to have perspective from people who aren't totally like you so if I didn't have male friends I would always wonder what guys think and are interested in instead of having the ability to ask them.

  3. abbykorinnelee profile image80
    abbykorinneleeposted 9 years ago

    Yes because I have been best friends with several men that weren't anywhere near sexual relationships and were better friendships than the ones I have had with women.  Some of the friendships I have had did develop where one got feelings for the other and things changed and others did get messy if there was sex involved but for the most part I prefer men as friends.

  4. cat on a soapbox profile image95
    cat on a soapboxposted 9 years ago

    Yes and No.  I think it's quite possible, and I have had a few very close male friendships myself. Gay men and women make better friends because there isn't the risk of underlying sexual attraction or curiosity that can backfire under moments of weakness. .  Unless these relationships started in childhood or are with long-time family friends,  I don't think these friendships are as enduring as those of the same sex . Once either the man or woman becomes romantically involved or marries, there is usually jealousy coming from the significant other whether it be unspoken or overt. Of course there are always exceptions.

  5. Rosana Modugno profile image72
    Rosana Modugnoposted 9 years ago

    Yes.  I have several male friends who are only friends.  I've just always been a "guy's girl" than a "girl's girl".  I get along better with men.  I find them to be easier to read.

  6. Mazzy Bolero profile image67
    Mazzy Boleroposted 9 years ago

    Yes you can, as long as they don't fancy you:)  Some guys will pretend they want to be "just friends" if they see a woman isn't showing interest, in the hope that eventually they will get closer.  However, if a guy does not feel that way about you in the first place, it is quite possible to be platonic friends. I suppose if you are Angelina Jolie it might be more difficult, but for most of us mere mortals, it's not a problem.

  7. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

    Yes under a couple of instances. 1. They have (no) physical attraction whatsoever towards one another. 2. Their sexual orientation is not a match.
    If you find yourself being physically attracted to a "friend" or ever thought if you were "free" you could see yourself dating them....etc Then your friendship is not 100% strictly plantonic. A plantonic friendship should elicit the same feelings as those of siblings.

  8. snapbackbetty profile image59
    snapbackbettyposted 9 years ago

    Yes if both people are mature enough and can deal with not crossing the line by doing anything that would make them more than friends.

  9. bhargvi sharma profile image39
    bhargvi sharmaposted 9 years ago

    yes, they can just friends rather best buddies ... smile

  10. taburkett profile image58
    taburkettposted 9 years ago

    In my experience, men and women can only be just friends for about 50 years.
    Then, they become great friends because they each know all the good and bad things about each other and still like each other a lot.

  11. profile image0
    HowIConqueredposted 9 years ago

    Yes. My best friend is a guy. And most of my good friends have always been male. It's not easy for me to be friends with every male that I meet, it's actually very hard. But I have had some strictly platonic male friendships and I loved them. I find it's easiest for me to be friends with males who I actually have something in common with, if there is no common ground it allows the mind to go astray and flirting can come into the picture. Most of my strictly platonic male close friends I find attractive on a basic level but I am not sexually attracted to them. I believe they all feel the same about me.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      "if there is no common ground it allows the mind to go astray and flirting can come into the picture" Does this mean you are more attracted to men you have nothing in common with? Do you think your male "friends" would reject you for sex? hmmm

  12. Kierstin Gunsberg profile image94
    Kierstin Gunsbergposted 8 years ago

    Yes, until you're in a serious relationship or married. Friendships of the opposite sex, regardless of attraction, always have the potential to cross a boundary.


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