Is it right for a woman to work and give her husband her pay check?

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  1. Cristale profile image85
    Cristaleposted 10 years ago

    Is it right for a woman to work and give her husband her pay check?

  2. MickS profile image61
    MickSposted 10 years ago

    no more right than for a husband to work and then hand over his paypacket to his wife.

    1. Cristale profile image85
      Cristaleposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Well said!

  3. peeples profile image92
    peeplesposted 10 years ago

    This is an incomplete question. What do you mean by "give"? Is he staying home taking care of the children and the financial responsibilities such as making sure the bills are paid and a roof is over everyone's heads?

  4. dashingscorpio profile image83
    dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

    There is no "right" or "wrong". There is only "agree" or "disagree".
    Each couple is entitled to set up their own financial strategy for their marriage. Back in the 1960s and earlier it was common for husbands to give their wives their paycheck. Oftentimes these women would show up at their job during lunch to pick up the check. The women would then pay the bills, grocery shop, buy the kids items, set some aside for savings, and give the husband some "spending" money to last through the next payday. This was considered "normal" back then.
    However as I pointed out each couple gets to set up their own way of dealing with finances. If they don't agree on how it should be handled then they need to decide if this issue is a "deal breaker" or not.
    There is no amount of "communication" or "work" that can overcome being with someone who does not want what you want." You are responsible for your own happiness!

    1. gerrym profile image62
      gerrymposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I can attest to it being that way in the 60's - and 70's and 80's, etc. That's what I did and still do today on income from my part time retirement biz. For over 50 years my wife has given me an allowance out of my income. It works great..

  5. lburmaster profile image73
    lburmasterposted 10 years ago

    Well, in China the man works yet he gives his wife the paycheck. The woman handles all of the finances. A few of my friends noticed that the woman always walks behind the man, but after knowing she controls the cash, we thought it was fine. It all depends on the relationship you have with your husband.
    Personally, I would NEVER give my husband my paycheck. We both work. He pays a few bills with his check, while I pay the rest and save with mine. He is horrible with money and just spends it on everything. I save most of it and have money-counting-baths every weekend. Because I hold the money, we can actually go on trips, keep track of payments, and still have some left over. Even in this economy.

    1. Cristale profile image85
      Cristaleposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Does he save his money also or should the guy pay most of the bills? Relationships can be so complicated at times. The spenders should never hold the money so the couple can have nice things and go nice places, or otherwise have no money.

    2. lburmaster profile image73
      lburmasterposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      He doesn't save any money. I don't think he knows how. Honestly, I think the bills should be divided depending upon the amount of money made by both partners so an equal portion of their paycheck is going into the home. I definately agree.

  6. cjpooja26 profile image62
    cjpooja26posted 10 years ago

    No its not good but it depends on her choice if wife wants to give him then she could.

  7. Marketing Merit profile image96
    Marketing Meritposted 10 years ago

    It depends upon the division of household/parental responsibilities. If the man manages the household budget then I don't see why it should be a problem, providing any surplus is saved and/or distributed equitably.

  8. klidstone1970 profile image61
    klidstone1970posted 10 years ago

    My husband and I live off his paycheck and bank mine to use for home improvement, vacations and that sort of thing.  It is a mutual agreement between us and we each have access to all funds brought into the household.

  9. Theophanes profile image92
    Theophanesposted 10 years ago

    Depends on the couple, their needs, and what they agree to. I have seen women give their full pay checks to complete leeches, who didn't work and whose only skill was breathing air. That is pointless and often times the painful system of a dysfunctional or downright abusive relationship. In those instances I'd consider it te wrong choice. However I have also seen couples where one is reeeeally bad with money (shopping, gambling, drug habit, whatever!)  and decided to let the more responsible party keep all the money and make all the financial decisions. In the end its whatever works for whomever is involved.

  10. LongTimeMother profile image93
    LongTimeMotherposted 10 years ago

    I am wondering why you are asking this question. Come on Cristale, give us a clue. smile

    1. Cristale profile image85
      Cristaleposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Talking about relationship issues that not many couples can agree on is fun! Get a clue!

  11. happeningeachday profile image59
    happeningeachdayposted 10 years ago

    yes it right for a woman to work.but i dont think to give her paycheck..

  12. wqaindia profile image38
    wqaindiaposted 10 years ago

    In India working women hand over their pay check to the Husband (rather to the senior most  elder in the family) not for gambling, drinking or smoking but to shoulder the responsibilities as a head of the family. Relationship of husband, wife and other members of the family is that of mutual trust and respect) . If trust is breached then every thing seems to break.

  13. profile image0
    Justsilvieposted 10 years ago

    I am assuming this question means both partners are working and earning a paycheck!

    I like the your money, my money and our money scenario. I feel it is the formula for a happy marriage in the current times

    I don’t think  either partner should hand over a paycheck, but that a couple should sit down together and make a plan on how to pay for mutual costs and family expenses and all other earnings should belong to the person who earned them. In this day and age both partners should have their own money and separate credit rating.

    1. profile image50
      cnegethonposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      ABSOLUTELY!!!!!! I feel if somebody worked to earn their money and are married, the two spouses should have a payment plan between both incomes.

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    khmohsinposted 10 years ago

    In my opinions, It is not fair to give the whole amount of check to husband, but it depends on couple and their situations. If a couple is passing from and facing tough time, then they have to commit with each other to save an amount for their children’s future or any emergency use. I am sure this kind of commitment would help them in their future as “savings”. They can use it for any purpose. But it is not fair for a wife to give full check to her husband.

  15. jayshreepattanaik profile image40
    jayshreepattanaikposted 10 years ago

    it is not absolutely right to give pay check but also a woman's duty is to share her income with her husband to maintain a healthy life style

  16. amiguel profile image61
    amiguelposted 10 years ago

    What ever happened to 50/50?...I wouldn't give my husband my whole ck and I don't expect for him to do that for me either. Shared responsibility is better than one person taking care of everything. Unless there is a loss of a job, than you have to work things out. So one doesn't stress out the other.

  17. shivanchirakkal10 profile image57
    shivanchirakkal10posted 10 years ago

    As, if you are a working woman, it is your responsibility to share the family expenses.  Today, the expenditure to manage home is increasing day by day. So helping each other to run the family in smooth, is a healthy understanding between couple.
    In your question, are you asking whether you want to go for work and give the pay check to the husband?. If the husband is forcing the wife ti find some work and asking to get money is different matter. If he is not in a position to meet all expenses of the family, he can/or both can think for such adjustment.
    Any how, a woman have all the right to decide that how much amount she can contribute. The entire amount or a portion of it!.

  18. Buchi Francis profile image58
    Buchi Francisposted 10 years ago

    it all depends on the situation or circumstance of the giving, but it is not proper for the woman to give because she will control the man in the future about the decision made in the family

  19. peachpurple profile image81
    peachpurpleposted 10 years ago

    my money is insufficient to even a decent meal for the whole month. Hence, I don't have to give my paycheck to my hubby because by the time I receive it, i have to keep it for my next month's meal. So, hubby pays for everything at home.

    ANyway, it depends on individual agreement. Some women give 1/2 her paycheck to supply household needs, while the rest still depends on hubby's paycheck.

  20. lone77star profile image75
    lone77starposted 10 years ago

    Absolutely, if there is only love involved.

    But if the husband is loafing at home, watching TV, gaming with the boys, and grabbing some extra sweetness on the side, then the husband has got to go. That pure selfishness.

  21. Gary Holdaway profile image86
    Gary Holdawayposted 10 years ago

    I think it depends on the couple. Who deals with the bills, the payments, the money in and the money out? There's not even discussions about the women that make sure the husbands money is well spent, it should work both ways. When women were rightfully given equality, it took a while to actually accumulate that equality like promised, but that battle has long since past. Men and women walk the earth with equal rights and equal respect. No more needs to be said.

  22. profile image52
    ysinghposted 10 years ago

    If this is like both of them are earning together for livelihood its fine but if you want to give all your earnings without keeping any savings apart from your monthly expenditure then then you are at loss and I personally belive women even though they are working they are the home makers and should keep some money safe not only for her own requirments or safety but it can also be used for families welfare in time of crisis as men tend to spend most of their money they earn.

  23. Ceegen profile image69
    Ceegenposted 10 years ago

    Is it right for a man to work and give his wife his pay check?

    If the love is really there, then the money doesn't matter. If you let money get in the way of love, you don't really love.

  24. Stachart profile image59
    Stachartposted 10 years ago

    If you mean that the husband is not working to earn money and the woman just give him her pay, or what ever else. The question about if it is right or not could be answered if we know if the woman must give that check or if she choose to please his husband for a certain reasons!

    Fairly, the money must be shared instead of given, but anywhere it's freedom choice, we can not judge!

  25. celeste inscribed profile image93
    celeste inscribedposted 10 years ago

    This is a tough one to answer because it depends on the agreed arrangement between the couple or it could depend on culture. It would depend on who runs the budget. It takes a lot of communication, love and trust to allow one person to run the budget. I think this should be a joint responsibility.

  26. Yeshe Zhonnu profile image61
    Yeshe Zhonnuposted 10 years ago

    It all depends.  My brother, who is a very successful engineer and makes big bucks working for Exxon, turns his paycheck over to his wife to let her handle the bills and household finances.  He did this in his first marriage as well when he was making far less money.  I think it's just a question of who has to give up the least in order to take on responsibility for the family finances.  My brother oversees investments but the day to day finances are handled by his wife who must give up much less than my brother as far as value of his time.  So, whoever has the smaller opportunity cost or the cost of the next best alternative use of time, should handle any given activity such as handling finances.  In my case, I give most of my paycheck over to my partner and she handles the household finances.  I keep a portion for my own expenses and pocket money.  And this should be done without giving up total control, but in trust that the one handling the finances will be trustworthy.

  27. cat on a soapbox profile image96
    cat on a soapboxposted 10 years ago

    Marriage is a joint effort. If a man gives his paycheck to the household, why not a woman? ( I specify household and not husband) I am also a believer though, that a woman should have a nest egg of her own.

  28. phillippeengel profile image80
    phillippeengelposted 10 years ago

    Then what is the husband doing? Lolling around at home, playing computer games and watching videos? Where is the fondness between these couple? If this happens, I would rather say that the wife has become a servant, and there are authentically family problems that have to be resolved. Women are not meant to be bullied in this way (unless if the husband is really unfit to work then will the wife do this).

  29. Sammi617 profile image58
    Sammi617posted 10 years ago

    It all depends on the couple. In my opinion, a stable couple should share the income. And as long as they are both bringing in an income to support them, why not share it?

  30. profile image0
    brotheryochananposted 10 years ago

    Seems to work quite uncontested the other way around LOL. Right however is in the palm of the cheque holder and discussed between the two. I believe legally that once married in the eyes of the court there is no his and hers but all is ours.

  31. theodoresumrall profile image57
    theodoresumrallposted 10 years ago

    I believe it totally depend on your family and relationship status. You know yourself what's right and what's wrong in your family.


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