i want you to tell fellow hubbers what you will do if you find out that your wife or husband is having a secrete love affair or an extra marital affair with your best friend.
I would talk about it and figure out where the communication failed emotionally, mentally or physically. Because I love my spouse I would forgive him and work on healing the relationship, there is always something that causes the breakdown in the relationship the thing is, is that person willing to fix it?
Thats a tough thing to think about. The ultimate betrail. I would feel anger 1st. Not just regular anger, I mean pissed to high heaven mad. I would damage many of there things..i.e. cars, cloths, reputation. I would not be able to stop. After probly the first year or so I could get over it with lots of counciling and long nights drinking.
Easy answer: I would leave. Our marriage could never last after that even if we tried to make it. And I'm better than that. I don't need a man who doesn't appreciate what he has.
Move on. That's the simple answer, regardless of whether you stay together or not this will have to become a issue of the past.
Ask her if she would like her personal effects forwarded to his house, or if she would just like to pack them now.
Shoot them both. I'm kidding. But not so much.
In all honesty I doubt anyone could really answer this with out it really happening.
Here is what I think i would do.
I believe I would walk away heart broken. It would obviously mean that what we had wasnt good enough.
Some might ask if I would fight for her. I really dont think that would be for me because trust would always be an issue.
I am so glad my wife and I are so much in love even after 21 years. I would never even entertain thoughts of such a thing
Cheers
Dale
I think a portion of it would depend upon the length of the relationship. There would seem to be a lot of questions to be answered. Was there a lack of love? Did attraction perhaps fall off? Is the affair purely sexual? What changes have developed in the marriage, economic, child loss, empty nest?
To just say adios….. I’m not so sure that is the answer for everyone.
I would be devastated. I would forgive but I doubt I would stay. It would be so confusing.
My best friend is a guy. So we would have a major situation
So I would definitely be heart broken, confused, and leave... fo sho!
Oh wait! I know what I would do! I'd punch the rear window of his SUV out with a pair of golf clubs!
I can tell you from experience, that you won't know how you'll really react until it happens.
It depends on the relationship sometimes things just happen .Do you leave or do you stay only you can answer that question .Can you still be with that person after such betrayel.You have to ask yourself can you really forgive this person for what they have done and live with them for the rest of your life think about it.
I'd sue him till his teeth hurt. That way it'll be public and she'll be exposed for a skank and he'll be ruined.
I would screw her lover, and then his best friend. Two can tango, I would refuse to be appeared upon as the victim. I'd just get even.
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