Does marriage even matter anymore?

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   scarfaceomar025posted 12 years ago

   Does marriage even matter anymore?
   
   With the divorce rate continually increasing year after year I wonder does marriage even matter anymore?

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   jaydawg808posted 12 years ago

   Although there will be some answers saying "no," it really depends on how the person values the whole aspect of "marriage."  I understand that a lot of things have changed through the years, but in my book, marriage still exists and matters.

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   dashingmeposted 12 years ago

   There is always reason why they end up on divorce..seems all things now is easy, fast and modernazed to think and decide what to do its now a matter of faith, hope and love to each other. Being a christian for me, marriage really matters!

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   TIMETRAVELER2posted 12 years ago

   Of course it matters.  The problem is that people enter marriage before they are prepared for it and often have no concept of what being married really means.  Thus, they divorce.

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      dashingscorpioposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Very true! I'd add they often (select) the wrong mate for themselves! Marrying for wrong reasons too. You have to know yourself before you choose your ideal mate.  The next step is to stick to your own "shopping list" of traits you want in a mate.

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   Seek-n-Findposted 12 years ago

   It matters to those it matters to.  It matters to my husband and I!

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   caponposted 12 years ago

   Marriage between a Man and a Woman has been around for as long as Mankind. Different cultures have not always agreed on the exact nature of marriage, but recognisable marriage has existed in every culture.
   It is for this reason that I don't get too hot-under-the-collar with the modern spin on marriage (same sex marriage), as it seems to me that to legislate against the natural order of things is akin to King Canute commanding the tide to stay out!

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   peachpurpleposted 12 years ago

   if i could turn back the clock, i would rather stay single. Getting married in the first few years are honeymoon years but once you have kids, bad days are starting and quarrels, divorce words, cursing start to envelope. I having a bad time too.

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      dashingscorpioposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I bet you are not alone in feeling that way. One really should (know) themselves well prior to marrying and listen to those who are married. Still I say choosing the "wrong mate" is the number one cause of divorce.

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   jlparkposted 12 years ago

   It does to those of us who aren't 'allowed' it.  It matters a lot.
   
   The tradition we now know as marriage probably pre-dates most religions, as a way of telling the world this is your one and only.
   
   When people talk of the destruction of the sanctity of marriage - it is not what they think that is destroying it - it is divorce that is destroying it.
   
   If you marry - your one and only - you work it OUT, you don't just divorce. You work things out, and you get past it.  You GROW as people TOGETHER.  Divorce is too easy.
   
   Many of the couples I know who wish to marry, and are not allowed as yet, have been together longer than most marriages I know. Yet, it is those who are not allowed to marry that are apparently destroying it's sanctity.
   
   Want to make it matter more??? Outlaw divorce - aside from the cases of abuse etc (that would be cruel...no one needs to be forced to live with an abusive asshat)

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      dashingscorpioposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      If you are going to allow marriage to be a "choice" then you must allow divorce to be a "choice". Human beings make mistakes! A divorce is nothing more than an admission a (mistake) was made in selecting a mate. Even prisoners get out of prison.

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      jlparkposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Then it should be a choice for everyone - marriage.
      My suggestion was a way in which marriage may actually mean more - it's the divorced rate that's the problem so why not do something about that?

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      dashingscorpioposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      jlpark, The number one cause for divorce is and always has been selecting the wrong mate! People who share the same values, wants the same things for the marriage and agree on the important things in life don't get divorce. Mistakes happen.

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      jlparkposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      And I'm not saying outlaw it - it was a suggestion to 'save the sanctity' of it.
      
      If its a choice - then it should be a choice for everyone, regardless

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   Maggie Bennettposted 12 years ago

   The divorce rates are funny when you really look at them.  I know many more people who are still married to their first spouse.  However, I know multiple people who are serial weds.  Some folks three or four times.  These marriages get counted in these tallies, and that is the problem with the accuracy of these numbers.   
   
   Marriage matters for many reasons and not just love.  It matters for the kids, it matters major league for your finances. If you want financial security you are more likely going to find it by being married and then staying married. Do overs, because you can't work out your problems lead you to repeating the same mistakes over and over. It is very costly emotionally, but financially it is catastrophic.
   
   Marriage is first proposed because of love, but once entered it becomes a business arrangement. Love is something that dies down after awhile, and if you think it is going to be the way it was when you were dating and wild in love ten years in that is unrealistic.  Marriage is about "we and us" and not "me and I".  Too many people believe they are on a solo journey and even though they enter a marriage they are still all about themselves.
   
   If you want financial security being married is the best way to get there.  Divorce is a major financial blow not only for the couple, but for their kids too. Learning to resolve issues in your marriage makes all of your life better. It teaches you skills you can use in the real world.  It isn't easy being married, but it is rewarding. I've been married for 25+ years now, and I can honestly say even with all the ups and downs it was the best decision I ever made.

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    dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

    Only (you) can decide if marriage matters. Life is a personal journey.
    Marriage is a lifestyle (choice). No one has to get married in order to live a happy life. However if it something you want to do you should not let what happens with other people dissuade you from pursuing any of your dreams including marriage.

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    ChitrangadaSharanposted 12 years ago

    For me, it does-----and I am sure there are majority out there for whom it matters. But you are right that divorce rate has increased.
    Shouldn't we try to look within for the possible causes for this increasing dissatisfaction among couples?
    Marriage is a sacred union, where both the partners have to accept each other with their positive as well as negative points. No one person can be called perfect.
    A lot of patience, trust and mutual understanding is required to make the marriage work. In return what do you get!---Love and a person who can go to any extent for your happiness and well being, throughout your life.

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    snapbackbettyposted 12 years ago

    I still think that marriage matters and is very important. I have heard many people say they will never get married but want to continue with a relationship they are in. I have also heard people talk about marriage like it's a game or something like if they do get married and don't like it, they can get a divorce and try it again... I personally don't agree. I take marriage very seriously.

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