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Friendship that turn into love

  1. profile image44
    TheFrenchTravelerposted 8 years ago

    the age ole question answered can men and women be friends, non sexual bff's? Is it possible or will some emotional attachment and love grow?

    1. Cagsil profile image59
      Cagsilposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Friendship that turn into love. Does it happen? Sure. How often? Who knows.

      Can Men and Women be friends without sexual contact? Yes.

      There are reasons for why men and women don't have sexual contact and that is simply because there is no sexual attraction. There might even be something trivial about them that simply turns you off, but doesn't affect your friendship.

      So, I leave you with that.

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        Arisha Jonesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        well its complicated to know sometimes its there and sometimes its not. but the potential is always there. ....
        I guess love is more about chemistry....if two people feel that they would like to explore something beyond friendship then of course why not give it a chance.....

    2. leeberttea profile image52
      leebertteaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Nope. You're both going to think about how sex would be together, and sooner or later you're going to try and find out.

    3. ceciliabeltran profile image74
      ceciliabeltranposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      nope, not too close, not if they're both single.

  2. rebekahELLE profile image88
    rebekahELLEposted 8 years ago

    I think it's possible, for sure. I have male friends, non sexual.

    although anything is possible.

  3. cheaptrick profile image72
    cheaptrickposted 8 years ago

    Isn't friends first the way its supposed to be?

    1. Justine T profile image52
      Justine Tposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I thik so i mwan how can you love someone that cant be a friend to you i would think your lover is sopost to be the best friend that you have

  4. prettydarkhorse profile image62
    prettydarkhorseposted 8 years ago

    I dont really know, case to case maybe, but once friendship turns into love, there is some change in dealings with each other too

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    poetlorraineposted 8 years ago

    two people can sometimes be like magnets  that just attract.
    What if friends turn into lovers,
    I suppose it could be sooooooooo complicated.
    it happens, sure it happens

  6. sagbee profile image58
    sagbeeposted 7 years ago

    Definately.. they can be friends but this mutual friendship can eventually turns into love.. this is true.. they can never be just friends.. this love factor pops up in between..

  7. ceciliabeltran profile image74
    ceciliabeltranposted 7 years ago

    If you are pretty, you have no male friends, your male friends are hoping they'll get a chance with you some day...maybe not today, but some day.

  8. gramon1 profile image74
    gramon1posted 7 years ago

    Men and women can be friends, with sex, without sex, with sex and desire, without sex but with desired, and in any combination you can think of. I have friends with whom I have had sex, with whom I haven't, with whom I would, and with whom I wouldn't.
    Contrary to popular belief, this has nothing to do with whether the girl is beautiful or not. After all, there are millions of beautiful women in the world, and I would not move a finger to have sex with almost all of them. It has to do with how the relationship evolves and with whether the magic moment happens between us.
    In my personal experience, the same moment can be so different with different people, and even with the same girl, at different points of her ovulation. Some times, you just get close to talk in her ear and nothing happens. But other times, as you get close, there is a magnetic pull that just makes you feel like giving in to such increadible desired. Hormones, especially feromonesp lay such an important role here!

  9. figment profile image80
    figmentposted 7 years ago

    its possible if both people aren't physically attracted to one another.  If there is an attraction between both people... they'll most likely eventually (maybe intoxicated) end up in bed together.  I'm speaking from experience.

    1. gramon1 profile image74
      gramon1posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      So, if it happens, you just enjoy it. After all, it is much better to have sex with a person that cares for you than with a person that is only attracted to you. Further, if you are really friends, then you can deal with it easily.

  10. Courtney_CollinsD profile image80
    Courtney_CollinsDposted 7 years ago

    It's completely possible. My best friend is a male and the only thing I ever think about is how much I just want to beat him up for being stupid sometimes. He's more of a brother to me then anything and my other best friend is also a male and like a sister to me... long story.

    Anyways, yes, it's completely possible to have man and woman friendships that don't turn romantic.

  11. wychic profile image91
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    It's definitely possible for women to have male friends, and vice versa, that never turn sexual. Most of my friends are male, and many have been very good friends since high school and beyond. Have they ever thought about having sex with me? Probably, who knows? Have I ever thought about having sex with them? A couple of them, but certainly far from the majority, and most of them are quite attractive. Of about a half-dozen very close male friends, there is only one that I know would want to be more if he had the chance...though he knows he doesn't have the chance, and has instead opted to support me in any way he can for the last eight years. Four I know are definitely not interested in anything more, one of whom is married and only one is suspected of being gay...he suspects it too.

    Now looking at the people I DID have sex with...one was a lover first, became a friend later...and that's when I realized that we didn't have much in common and conversations were pretty darn boring. He was also undoubtedly the most unattractive of the bunch. By time I realized all this, we were already married and had a kid. The other was a very good friend first...but almost 30 years older than me, neither of us saw anything happening there. In that case friendship did turn into love, sex followed, as did marriage, and now a baby on the way.

    So in one case friendship did turn into love, and we didn't remain just friends...but through all the rest of my friendships nothing even remotely sexual has occurred, and they have been some of my best friends for most of my life. Though I've never been able to see much positive about myself or my looks, I have gotten a lot of compliments from others, and have been called a "trophy wife" a few times, so I don't think it's due to really unfortunate looks that spontaneous sex with all my male friends hasn't happened.

  12. Ben Evans profile image72
    Ben Evansposted 7 years ago

    I think something like this can be generally answered.  Yes I would say that most people will tend to gravitate towards a relationship.  A lot of it is based purely on sex.  One of the individuals will want to have sex.  Even if sex doesn't happen, this can often keep a true friendship from forming.  So men and women are two totally different creatures right? 

    We are not developed far enough to get beyond our sexist thought patterns.  Right?  I do believe that most  (not everybody)of us separate ourselves into men and women each with distinct traits.  While there are experiences as well as physical differences between men and women, I don't believe that we are as different as we make ourselves out to be.

    However, the majority of us behave just like we predict.  A friendship between a male and a female will often have at least one thinking that they need to have sex or create a relationship.  So for most the answer is no they cant just be friends.

    Now, take a look at the medium we are participating in right now and you will notice that most of us are androgynous here.  Most of us are not looking to have sex or create a relationship on this forum.  We are just here to discuss. 

    With this said, I think most can't be just friends.  For the few who can recognize people as individuals as opposed to a just gender, they can be friends.  It is possible because we do it on Hubpages.  I hope I didn't open too big a can of worms but I suspect I did.  big_smile

  13. TREX80 profile image59
    TREX80posted 7 years ago

    So I have a question, if you are friend with guys do they think about sex with you?
    I was dating this guy and he kept insisting that "any guy that isn't in a relationship that is friends with you, think about and would sleep with you".
    When I replied "Nah."
    He said, "yup, all guys do and would too".


    1. islandgirl06 profile image57
      islandgirl06posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      sweetie I do agree,even if your friend is a married man

  14. Flightkeeper profile image72
    Flightkeeperposted 7 years ago

    I think both sexes who have friends of the opposite sex do think about what a sexual relationship would be like.  But it's not necessarily a goal, it's kind of like wondering what it would be like to climb Mt. Kilimanjaro, you wonder what it's like but you don't necessarily do it.

  15. Sunny_S profile image59
    Sunny_Sposted 7 years ago

    I think this is completely true as my current girlfriend was my friend at first and then things just started to fit together i guess.

  16. islandgirl06 profile image57
    islandgirl06posted 7 years ago

    Man and woman can be friends, sometimes good friends but the question is can they be friends if both of them are married to different people? I knew a few people who are friends, unfortunately the married man become emotionally involved with his female friend, and that becomes affair.
      It also happened to me, the man I married met a married woman on dating site, they become friends and I think you all know what happen next. So man and woman can be friends only if they are single and always with the group of their friends..

    1. sofs profile image81
      sofsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I believe it is possible,  I have had many male friends who have remained so till this day,  No problems on that score.  They might become more than that, if both people involved decide to do so . Drawing the lines clearer and making sure the relationship is well within the boundaries help maintain healthy friendships!