What are some inexpensive ways to re-ignite the romance in a relationship?
From a man to a woman, what are some good romantic ideas that are not over-the-top expensive?
It's romantic to have dinner on the deck, to watch a romantic comedy by the fire, and to take a bubble bath together.
Getting away is one of the things my husband and I like to do. One time we got sitters for the kids and the pets. We went to a local hotel with an indoor heated pool, a restaurant with full bar, and free hot breakfast in the morning! It was a blast. We spent as much as we would have if we had gone to an expensive restaurant (because it was off-season so the hotel rate was fairly cheap). After having a few cocktails we didn't have to worry about driving home!
We also like to go on mini dates. We go to a local coffee shop and sit in front of the fireplace during winter months. There are a few local restaurants we like to try. One is 24-hours, so if we have a sitter, we like to go out late night and have a feast while talking (when the restaurant is empty).
We live near a lot of beaches so we like to go and stay on a hot day until the sun sets. Sometimes we bring a picnic.
The thing most people overlook is finding out what their (mate) considers to be "romantic".
Hollywood tends to make us assume "romance" is DNA coded in women and they ALL like bubble baths, candlelight dinners, a bouquet of roses or balloons, chocolates and so forth. Although people will generally appreciate any gifts or effort one makes in order to have them feel good it doesn't always mean you scored a "bulls eye". As is so often mentioned in relationships: Communication is key.
One way to find out what your mate considers "romantic" is to ask them what are some of the most romantic movies they ever saw, songs they ever heard, or activities they imagined doing but have yet to do. Make sure learn (why) they felt it was romantic. Afterwards wait about 4 weeks or a little longer and then start to incorporate some of those ideas.
Some women for instance would love to hold hands and walk along the shore at sunset, have summer picnic in the park, call in sick at work and then drive into the nearest large city and spend the day acting like tourist, maybe take a tour on open air bus or boat and have lunch, Some women love a foot massage or complete body massage by candlelight with soft music playing in the background.
There are other times when "the ordinary" suddenly becomes romantic out of the blue. Having dinner together followed by washing dishes together, and snuggling up to read a book or watch a favorite movie. Taking a shower together while wearing shower gloves that massage soap on the body as you wash each other.
However as I stated you have to find out what (your mate) considers romantic!
Inexpensive ways like going for long walks, having a picnic in the countryside with a few glasses of wine. Depending on where you are staying. Try not to drive any where get away with a cheap travel by train or bus and stay in motel something suitable but simple just to get that spark back in your relationship.
One time my hubby wrote a letter - not an email - about how much I meant to him. It was so lovely! And yes, I do still have it hidden away.
Nothing brings spice or romance like doing things for each other all day to let you know you were thinking of them and them, you.
Some of the simplest things can be romantic and inexpensive. Just be NICE and considerate. Give her the things money can't buy. If you have friends that ask you to go out often, tell them no, and spend time with her. Take a turn cooking dinner and cleaning up afterwards or do it together. Watch a movie that interests both of you and hold her hand or hug her. Call her on the telephone (do not text) just to ask how she's doing and say, "I was thinking about you"... "I can't wait to see you"..."I had a good time last night"..."I love you", etc. For more on this subject, see my hub...Love & Marriage: Make it Last a Lifetime.
A common theme in the replies here is taking the time to nurture the relationship. Finding out what makes your partner feel appreciated and loved and doing the things THEY "need" to feel this way (as opposed to only doing the things that you yourself feel would be romantic) can re-ignite romance in long term relationships where things have almost inevitably become stale. I believe the Five Love Languages can rekindle romance and I would say that buying the book or reading up on it and applying its principles is a very inexpensive way to re-ignite the romance.
However, like everything worthwhile, it does require effort. For example if your partner's love language is WORDS OF AFFIRMATION and you find that every time you give them a compliment or affirmation they reject it, won't believe you or think you're only saying it because you're after something, you may be tempted to give up trying to apply this love language as it doesn't seem to be working. But there are ways to come to terms with this kind of response and overcome such negativity from a partner who snubs all attempts at the very compliments they crave, and once you understand the reasons why they may do this ( low self esteem is but one example) it's easier to persevere and get back that loved up feeling, as I've explored in one of my hubs on the subject..
The Five Love Languages can be from a man to a woman and vice versa. Plus even if your partner's love language is GIFTS, the gifts do not need to be expensive, or have any material value at all. Other love languages are QUALITY TIME, TOUCH and ACTS OF SERVICE - most of which have been mentioned in the very helpful answers already given here. It's so good to know that re-igniting romance need not be expensive at all!
Take a walk together. Dance at home together to a romantic song. Watch a movie together and make jokes about it together LOL. Act like friends more often.
A surprise midnight dinner at home. A special meal, with music or something to remind you of how you met.
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