Do you feel left out in conversations?

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   DDEposted 11 years ago

   Do you feel left out in conversations?
   
   When with friends your conversations are lost

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   MYWIKISTEPposted 11 years ago

   Hallo DDE, yes sometimes it happens, but only when I find no interest in the conversations at all.
   It really depends on the people you happen to be with and the level of the discussion.
   Sometimes when people know more, on a certain field of discussion, there seems to be no way to "get in". 
   On other occasions when others cannot understand, do not have the knowledge or capability to comprehend your input, the result is the same.
   In spite of this, I know people that can cope with any kind of theme or other  people, and always find a way not to be left out.
   It also depends on what you are really interested in. For example outgoing people, politicians, journalists, actors, artists communicate a lot better, but mostly, only because it is to their benefit to do so. For them, it is more like a profession-their business.
   Sometimes feeling left out in a conversation might mean as well, that you have the  wrong people around you, no common interests or friendships.

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      Billie Kelpinposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      great analysis... especially the first line.  I do feel left out when I find no interest in the conversation. Small talk is especially hard for me. I can't do small talk; I don't like to do small talk;  I don't know HOW to do small talk.

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      DDEposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Being left out of conversations is part of your reasons mentioned also can happen if you are not familiar with the language  thanks for taking part in this question.

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   CraftytotheCoreposted 11 years ago

   I only feel that way when I'm at gatherings of relatives.  They tend to be very in to each other and exclude others, so I don't go to many family things now.  I don't think it's right to exclude people, especially when everyone is talking face-to-face.

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      DDEposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I have experienced this kind of  behavior at family functions and have completely stopped going to them it is the most I had felt left in a conversation, thanks for taking part in this discussion  I totally agree with your point.

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   sheilamyersposted 11 years ago

   There are two kinds of conversations in which I either get lost or my input is what gets lost.
   
   At work, the days go by quicker if you have conversations with the people you're working close to. I get totally lost when all they want to talk about is movies (or the actors/actresses), music, or the newest computer games. I'm not really interested in those things enough to learn everything about them and get into detailed discussions. Since I'm not talking as much, any opinion I do have seems to get lost.
   
   My input into conversations in which I'm actively participating seems to get ignored when the topic is NASCAR or the local professional sports teams. As you may have guessed, those discussions are with guys. Unfortunately, it seems a lot of men will ignore my intelligent insight for no other reason than I'm a woman. I guess they feel I don't know what I'm talking about even when I do.

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      DDEposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for answering this question and you are right about these kind of conversations  one can be lost very easily especially if there is a lack of interest.

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   Sparkleaposted 11 years ago

   DDE:  ALL my friends know that I DON'T do 'groups.'
   For example, when I was working, I was invited to a lot of retirement parties for people I knew quite well throughout the building.
   I never went.
   Too much confusion and brouhaha accompanied these gatherings. 
   I find it very difficult to carry on conversations with groups of people, either mulling around at a party or sitting at a long table in a restaurant.  My sis recently went to a restaurant and she left because she was sitting on the end and she felt left out.
   So what I would do, I would contact the person who was going to retire and take that individual out to dinner and present that person with a gift.
   I LOVE one-on-one interaction, with my friends individually.  That works for me.
   Three is a crowd.  Thank you for this great question.  Blessings, Sparklea

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      DDEposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for answering and you have your own choice of conversations  sometimes  communication can be a problem and I am glad you made you choice

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