What words or phrases a person utters makes you turn off to his/her ideas?

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  1. Billie Kelpin profile image84
    Billie Kelpinposted 7 years ago

    What words or phrases a person utters makes you turn off to his/her ideas?

    Are there certain words or phrases that you find "off-putting"? I really don't mind the "ef" word, (really), but there are certain other words or phrases that will block my mind from what the person is saying.  When people make a mistake and say, "I lied," it takes my mind a little recovery time to get over the annoyance of that. "Imelda," might tell me her party is on Oct. 25th, and upon thinking again, say, "Oh, I lied, it's on Saturday, the 26th". Also, if a person makes a mistake and says,"I'm such a jerk, I turn off as well, or when people say "boobs" or "crap" or dog "do-do". Yours ?

  2. ChristinS profile image43
    ChristinSposted 7 years ago

    Interesting question!  I do know when people use "saw" and "seen" wrong it drives me nuts. In my area everyone "seen" something and that makes me tune out and find a way to leave a conversation.  I hate it when women call other women the B word - I find it very demeaning and there are more mature ways to disagree with someone, actually anyone name calling turns me off.

    People who talk ignorant on purpose when they know better and in the writing world, people who use text shorthand in articles.. ugh. Or when someone says "omg" in a conversation - seriously? It's too much effort to say the full phrase?

    1. Billie Kelpin profile image84
      Billie Kelpinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      The "seen" and "saw" thing drives me crazy too. "Me and him went for a ride." Ugh.  "He don't know no better."  I find the "omg" kind of cute with young kids.  I think they don't want to say "God" irreverently. Thanks Christin!

    2. ChristinS profile image43
      ChristinSposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      That's true with the omg never really thought of it that way, I just always thought "lazy" like text speak. OH another one "prolly" instead of probably, drives me bonkers and everyone in this area does it lol.

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    JThomp42posted 7 years ago

    People who use curse words in general. I mean c'mon, there are thousands of words to get one's point across without having to drop an "F" bomb or the worst of all "GOD*@#$."

    1. Billie Kelpin profile image84
      Billie Kelpinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      For some reason or the other, I find the "F" word liberating.  But JT, respectfully, and this is an example of how crazy we (I) can be.  I don't like the whole phrase "F BOMB".  Isn't that peculiar?  I can see your point on the use of "God"

  4. RealityTalk profile image59
    RealityTalkposted 7 years ago

    "Jesus" is a big turn off for me.  As soon as someone utters Jesus in an explanation for almost anything, I immediately think this person hasn't much of a clue about anything.  My reasons?  No one has ever met Jesus.  In fact there is little evidence Jesus the man ever existed, let alone Jesus the son of a god.  The myth of Jesus is no different than a majority of the world's populous once believing the Earth to be flat or that the Sun revolves around the Earth.  Some people believe numbers (a mob mentality) is proof they are right.  All that proves is more are wrong.  I prefer intelligent arguments with facts to back them up.  Not myths and fairy tales with self-righteous minds spewing meaningless words that answer nothing.  Someone claiming Jesus is the answer or Jesus has some important part to play in anything going on or being discussed turns off my belief anything intelligent will come of a continued discussion.

    I am also turned off (like you) by slang words.  An argument should make its point with words of meaning, not words meant to shock.  Why anyone utters the word "s**t" I cannot understand.  If I'm upset about something, what does "s**t" have to do with anything, unless I step in it.

    "Let me be honest with you" is phrase that lends nothing to a discussion.  Why would anyone say that?  Were you lying to me about everything else said before?

    Thank you for the question Billie.  Have a great week!

    1. Billie Kelpin profile image84
      Billie Kelpinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks, RT!  I know ur feelings re: religion r like mine so when I read ur 1st sentence I was intrigued. Ironically, I don't like my husband to say "Jesus" b/c I find it disrespectful for him as a Christian to use.  When I say it, I think "geezes" smile

    2. RealityTalk profile image59
      RealityTalkposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Funny u should say that. My wife's family is Jewish & they say "Jesus Christ" a lot.  I'm not Christian, but I always found someone of a different faith using JC like that offensive.

    3. Billie Kelpin profile image84
      Billie Kelpinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      RT, I KNOW!  Isn't that fascinating?

    4. gmwilliams profile image85
      gmwilliamsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Reality Talk, you are correct in your premise.  S@@@t is a word that is very overused in the conversation.  Do these people have such an insufficient vocabulary that all they can think of is the "s" word?  Really now!

    5. Say Yes To Life profile image79
      Say Yes To Lifeposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      RealityTalk - I've just found out you left HubPages.   I wanted to send you a private email, but that function's no longer available.  Please email me.  Thanks!

    6. Billie Kelpin profile image84
      Billie Kelpinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Say Yes,  thanks for noting that Reality left hubpages.  I was able to find his BEAUTIFUL blog.  Hope he keeps in touch!

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    Mklow1posted 7 years ago

    One of my biggest pet peeves is when people use the word "spewing", to describe someone speaking. I have noticed that this seems to be a blog/forum word because I rarely hear it out in the real world unless it is in the context of "That soda just spewed everywhere!".

    But on Hubpages and other places, people say "Spewing lies", "Spewing hate", or "Spewing words". To me, this actually makes the speaker sound like they are the ones that have a lot of anger inside of themselves instead of vice versa.

    I detest foul language, but not because it offends me. I have worked in the Oilfield, construction, and for a railroad, so it is not like these are words I have not heard before. To me they just have no point. Growing up, my mother always said that a person that uses foul language does it because they don't know any good words to say. That has stuck with me.

    1. Billie Kelpin profile image84
      Billie Kelpinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Spew does have an ugly sound, doesn't it.  I'm guilty of spewing forth all manner of nonsense plus the usage of "spewed forth" smile  I thought we'd all have a few of these pet peeves in common, but looks like r annoyances are individualistic, like us !

  6. peeples profile image95
    peeplesposted 7 years ago

    Haha, I say the words boobs and crap on a daily basis, you'd hate me. Actually after reading through the comments I say all the things listed so far! I never really gave it much thought. I don't really find anything word wise a turn off. A lot of actions are a big turn off/annoyance for me.

    1. Billie Kelpin profile image84
      Billie Kelpinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      How could I hate YOU Peeples?  You have such great comments and hubs smile  My daughter has "boob" a lot in her stand-up comedy.  She laughs at me though 'cuz I sling around the"f" word a lot.  (I worked in a high school). For me it's like saying "darn"

  7. Emmyboy profile image81
    Emmyboyposted 7 years ago

    I don't have any problem with the f-word. In fact, you can say anything you want to say to me and I'm still all ears simply because I am always a learner.

    But...

    I start to take offence by turning off from someone's ideas immediately the person says or writes "just saying".

    I don't know why but it makes me see that person as a cunning person who cannot be trusted because s/he doesn't want to stand by his or her words.

    1. Billie Kelpin profile image84
      Billie Kelpinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Eb, I'm the same re: the "f" word, and I'm a 68 yr old woman! I wrote a poem abt being too silent in society: "...because women my age don't say f***" " I see where "just saying," might seem cunning. Aren't  these unique likes/dislikes fascinating?

  8. mcbel profile image73
    mcbelposted 7 years ago

    Easy. When someone says "The thing is, is..." You've already said 'is' once, there's no need to say it twice. I'm not sure if it's texting or facebook that has done this to America, but it has become increasingly common to hear young Americans botch commonly used terminologies such as 'whether or not' and the ever-exhilarating misspelling of 'their/there'. Deplorable...

    1. Billie Kelpin profile image84
      Billie Kelpinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Think I"m guilty of "The thing is..."  In analyzing why I say this, I might be trying to emphasize a point or clarify.  It's really more of a "What I'm trying to say is this..."  Thanks Mcbel, for your comment.

  9. Twilight Lawns profile image81
    Twilight Lawnsposted 7 years ago

    One of the most irritating and patronisng group of words I know is as follows.
    "I think you'll find."  Anybody who says this obviously disagrees with something that  one has said, but has put himself in a position  where he thinks he knows better.  Ha!
    And people who speak in sound-bights which mean absolutely nothing like when they start a sentence with "Basically" and "At the end of the day" - what do those two mean?

    1. Billie Kelpin profile image84
      Billie Kelpinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      TL, Oh I AGREE!  "I think you'll find."  That's exactly how I feel.  Did you ever see Fred Armisen's Weekend Update where he never finishes a sentence and pontificates on the next 1/2 topic?http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z04ci47C5Ps ?  That is ME!!!

    2. Twilight Lawns profile image81
      Twilight Lawnsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Billie Kelpin,  Thank you.  I have just watched it and I know so many people who are just as incisive and good at developing a theme is this.... sometimes even more so!

    3. Billie Kelpin profile image84
      Billie Kelpinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      TL, Hope you had a good laugh.  That cracks me up because it's soooo me.  I didn't realize it until I saw ME on SNL !!!

  10. MrsGray32 profile image60
    MrsGray32posted 7 years ago

    There is really nothing that bothers me in relation to words.  I would have to say the way someone portrays their selves could turn me off what they are saying for instance, claiming that they "know it all" and that they "don't care" if anyone else has input. I believe in listening with an open mind, but once someone shows me that they cannot do the same with the same respect I'm showing them, then sorry I have nothing further to listen too. Have a Great Day!
    Good Question!

    1. Billie Kelpin profile image84
      Billie Kelpinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Sounds like a good policy, MrsGray32!  The way people portray themselves makes all the difference, doesn't it.  We can take almost anything if it's given with the right attitude. Thanks for your input smile

  11. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 7 years ago

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    There are several.  The one phrase that really makes me go into a Hunnic rampage is, "Well I am not telling you what to do........but".  It is apparent that this person is not interested in any logical discussion but wants to dominate the discussion and bend a person to his/her will.  Amother annoying phrase is, "If I were YOU".  Again, this person does not have the innate intelligence to realize that each person has a different perspective and opinion to add to the conversation.  Such highly intrusive and tyrannical people turn me off to ever having an intelligent discourse with them.

    Then there are people who constantly correct others during a conversation.  Such people believe that they are the holders of knowledge while others are woefully ignorant and/or lacking according to the former's purview.  They authoritatively contend that their opinion is the only legitimate one while others are inferior in need of "some education" on their part.  Such people make me want to steer clear of them.  Everyone has something to add to the conversation.

    People who refuse to use correct English and speak in constant monosyllables.  I believe that is the height of ignorance. Why do some people delight in using monosyllables when they communicate?  That really makes me quite venomous to say the least.

 
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