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   Barressyposted 14 years ago

   Why do couples find it difficult to abstain from sex before marriage?

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      prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      you can talk about it, just use protection for if you are not ready to have children yet,it might complicate financial obligations etc
      
      PMS is ok, premarital sex

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      Himitsu Shugishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      To be honest, I don't really understand why you would want to abstain.

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         Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Hear, Hear!

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      Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Why is it necessary to abstain from sex before marriage?
      
      It's not!
      
      But, Thanks for playing. : lol:

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         Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         My choice was to not. And I am more than happy with that decision. But everyone has the right to make that choice for themselves. I think it is great if someone wants to wait. I just know that wasn't my choice.

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            Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            I get it. I've never been married, am still single at this time and sex is normal part of life. If you're sexual attraction leads you to somebody you'd like to have sex with, then I would hope that those two people are mature enough to make the decision on having sex.
            
            As for those who preach religious faith onto others, trying to make it appear as if they did something wrong, it is them I cast my question to, because it is them who wants you to feel like you're dirt. And, I happen to respect the woman you've turned out to be and I credit your mom and dad with raising a great daughter.

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               sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               Wow! That was so....so.....so.....so liberal, Thank you cagsil!

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                  Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  The day that you stop grouping people and blaming them for the world being sh*&^y is the day you learn to let diverse and amazing people into your life.

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                     sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                     Thanks Cole you're a good kid!

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                        Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                        Thank you.

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                           sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                           And I mean it!

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                  Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  And as usual, you're smart a$$ remark. Too bad I'm not a liberal. But, none the less.

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                     sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                     If you're not a liberal you're missing a great opportunity!

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      AdsenseStrategiesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Because there's no need for most, and for those who feel the need, they have human bodies that are "in heat" 365 days a year irrespective of what their frontal lobes or neo-cortex believes.

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      Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      You mean there is sex after marriage?

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      starme77posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      um shouldt ya try it out first before ya commit to it for life?

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      avangendposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      The underlying question here seems to be whether or not couples should abstain from sex before marriage. Of course it is difficult to abstain: our entire biological makeup is built around the necessity of reproduction. Without sex, we die out. In this vein, why not before marriage? Does it matter, so long as the species is continued?
      
      But there are, obviously, morals involved here, not just Darwinian survival. My personal opinion on the issue is that sex should not be the most important thing in a marriage. It is certainly AN important thing, but it is not paramount. One day, both you and your spouse will be significantly less attractive than you are now, and you will need something beyond sex to keep the marriage together (perhaps this sheds some light on the current divorce rate in Western countries).
      
      But I digress. Whether or not it is "good" or "bad" to have sex before marriage is a different issue altogether.

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      Bovine Currencyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Really?
      
      I have only been married once, I didn't find it difficult to abstain but then again, I didn't give it a thought.

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      Ghost32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Wouldn't know.  I never tried.   (Speaking as one married to his 7th wife.)

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         Bovine Currencyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         

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       DogSiDaedposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Because marriage is not natural, and there is nothing actually wrong with premarital sex

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       Life as I see Itposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I think every girl always wants to wait till marriage to have sex. But when you feel so aroused and that desire to be loved is so overpowering you give up that will to wait. I think that it would be wonderful to wait till marriage if that is your belief. But what if the spouse is horrible in bed and this is what you have to be with the rest of your life. I'm not saying sleep with everyone but sometimes you want to know what your getting before you commit the rest of your life to them.

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       Brenda Durhamposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       They give in to their natural lusts.
       Been there; done that; sorry for it; and grateful to be forgiven for it.

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       lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       not if they don't want to?  would you buy a car without test driving it first?  hmmmm.....

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          blondepoetposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          That is too right Lyrics, what if the engine is a dud, and no traction on the tyres.

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       blondepoetposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       They just want to confirm that the marriage will fit together.

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   Colebabieposted 14 years ago

   Natural feelings, hormones, wanting to be with someone physically, desire, pleasure, self-esteem, fear, curiosity, love, lust, etc. There are lots and lots of reasons why.

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      pinkboxerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      You can find all that and more in the marriage covenant.

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   goldenpathposted 14 years ago

   I agree with Colebabie.  In addition the key word in her statement is "natural".  Part of our emotional maturity is learning to master or temper those natural feelings.  Pre-marital interaction of this nature is harmful as it declassifies the priorities of a healthy relationship.  True, it is extremely hard to curb these actions especially with teenagers.  However, having made this mistake myself prior to my marriage I know understand exactly what I have lost in that process and can never claim again.  So as far as raising my own children I teach them my own follies and regrets and instill the doctrines of temperance and mastering oneself.  The rest I leave up to them.  In the end as long as I know my hands are washed clean I won't have certain regrets concerning raising my own children and the necessities they need to know to be contributing citizens of integrity.

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      sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Hear!Hear!

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      Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      

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      Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Or in accepting them as not necessarily evil or sinful and (while being grown-ups about it (std's)) but enjoying it as a gift from God that was Meant to be freely given and recieved.

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   sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

   If you're an agnostic, liberal, under the age of 25 and female you are emotionally out of control and you should avoid sex period! After the age of 25 you should always get your Dads permission.

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      Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Sneako. Too late. And my parents and I have talked about sex. They know I am being safe and am in love. I have discussed it with them, mom and dad.

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         sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I knew that would fire you up!

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         sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         The key is "get their permission" everytime.

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            Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            I completely disagree, as the father of a sexually active daughter, I don't want to know about everytime she is sexual. It is enough for me to know that she is safe and informed.

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      tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Oh Yes!! I remembered being wild !
      Good premarital sex and rock n' roll
      

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      Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      come on over...    

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   Colebabieposted 14 years ago

   Yes, goldenpath. I agree to teach children and teens about sex and sexuality. I also agree that sex should wait until emotional maturity. However who determines when someone is emotionally mature? We do, for ourselves. So that premise is questionable. It is about a personal decision.  I don't think that all premarital relations are harmful. Definitely not.

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   Colebabieposted 14 years ago

   I am 22 years old, have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years, am financially independent from my parents, have my own apartment, am on the pill, get condoms for free from the office where I work, have a pap smear and testing every 6 months. If you have a problem with me having sex... yeah I don't care.

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      sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Sweatheart you're a woman now and you are entitled to live your own life, and I mean it!

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         Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Why are certain things you're ok with, even though it goes against your religion. But other things offend you so much, upset you so much, that you feel like you need to have a say?

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            sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Because someone has to stand for whats really right. I'm not as conservative as I let on. That said ,if I think somethings wrong I'll exercise my right to make a comment. I do not hold anything against anyone's beliefs unless they infringe on someone elses. I don't like socialism some oversight yes but not government control.
            
            Cole most of the time I really don't care I'm here to have some fun and I love to mess with young people.

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               Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               I have no idea why that is amusing to you. Since I know your son doesn't like being messed with either.
               
               You are wasting your time.

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               Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               You say that. But your actions are different.

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                  sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  If they don't match that I'm mess'in around.

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   sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

   Cole I'm just playing with you!

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   rsmalloryposted 14 years ago

   I had sex with my boyfriend after dating for over four years. Two weeks later we broke up...two weeks after that I met my husband of over 17 years. Boy how I wish I had waited! He is my one and only, and I would give anything if he had been my only one and only.
   
   I have a seventeen year old niece who recently lost her virginity to her fiance...hope it lasts for them, otherwise she just gave up the most precious thing she could have given to her husband-whoever that may turn out to be...

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      dejajolieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I don't think it's the "most precious" thing. That's a great way to continue to objectify women. Is is the "most precious thing" if the man waitied until marriage? I waited until I was 19 was in love, don't regret it, I still have love for him to this day (13 years later), and we are not together. I also believe just because you love someone doesn't mean you are meant to be together.

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         AdsenseStrategiesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I wish my ex-girlfriend had given me some things more "precious" than sex... like, say, respect, consideration, mmm, I could go on

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         AdsenseStrategiesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Right, naturally, because there is no "meant to be" period

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      theonegoodmanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      i was socially isolated as a young man, i didn't lose my 'virginity' until i was in my late twenties.  Now at 31 i realize how empty my life was during my formative years.  I could have had a lot more fun.  I know women are different, but to me, virgnity is an abstract concept that doesn't mean a whole lot.  You are the same person before the first time, after the first time, and after the hundreth time.  I don't want to marry a virgin or someone who's been around.  I want to marry someone like me, who's had bad relationships and is ready for a good one.

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      Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      The first doesn't matter it is the last one that counts.

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   mistyhorizon2003posted 14 years ago

   Far better to have sex before marriage in case you discover that you are not physically compatible. Once you are married it is too late!

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      Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Good point Misty!

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      Shalini Kagalposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Absolutely! ....er....I thought we were living in the 21st century

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         mistyhorizon2003posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         So did I, but did you read "childofgrace's" comment above. I am pretty sure she is very sweet, but also totally naive as to relationships due to her self-confessed lack of experience?

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            Shalini Kagalposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Did, too I'm happy she's happy - but someone should tell her there's a real world beyond her doorstep and that sexual incompatibility is a major cause for friction in marriages!

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               mistyhorizon2003posted 14 years agoin reply to this

               I totally agree, there is a lot to be said for getting a little bit of experience under your belt before committing to marriage.

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    megs78posted 14 years ago

    virginity is overrated!  well, thats my take on it anyway nowadays!  for sure, I don't want my kids having sex before they're emotionally ready, but the problem is, often our emotions are out of control while we are in the discovery stage and so that ideal is usually out of the question.
    
    We place too much value on the virgin and put too much pressure on our teens when they are generally in no place to handle such pressure being they are struggling through puberty, hormones, etc. 
    
    while i don't condone sex before readiness, I also understand that this cannot always be the case.  Take me for one, and probably you, and you and you...did you wait?  It didn't make life easier that I had premarital sex, but it didn't ruin me either.  and not being a virgin didn't make my husband love me any less, or make our sex life any less amazing. 
    
    once again, virginity has become too sensationalized.  think Britney Spears, and whats her name there...Christina (the girl that sings the song "Dirty")  they both proclaimed to 'wait' for their husbands, and look what happened...
    
    anyways, just my take on it.

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       Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Well said.

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    Colebabieposted 14 years ago

    If you're going to be you Sneako, then be you. Sarcasm, if used sparingly, can prove a point or be amusing. Extensively... it just makes you fake.

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       sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       If you knew me better you would just stare at me like most of the women I know do. I just have a goofy sense of humor. I really don't have any thing against anyone, cross my heart!

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    childofgraceposted 14 years ago

    My husband and I have been married for a year and we were both virgins when we got married. He was truly worth the wait. Having sex creates such strong ties believe it or not, and when you finally meet that someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, you have lost yourself to so many people, and its a part of you that you cannot get back.
    Premarital sex is one of the underlying reasons why divorce is so rampant everywhere. Because you have created those ties, you find yourself thinking back to what used to be, you find yourself comparing your mate to whosoever "was" and you miss out on what the Lord has blessed you with here and now. What is physical compatibility? Whoever came up with that? If you have been with one person your whole life, you don't have to deal with such "theories". You are compatible with the one God has joined you with. Finally its because God said not to have premarital sex, because eventhough it pleases our flesh, God knows what's best for us. It is unfortunate that people don't realize this, but the truth is not relative. Premarital Sex is either right or wrong, it has nothing to do with what we think. God made Sex, Sex is a wonderful thing and its best when it is in the sacred union of marriage.

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       mistyhorizon2003posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       So what would you do if the new Husband suddenly announced they liked violent sex or preferred dressing in nappies or something (possibly because of a bad childhood)? And what if the male had such a large penis that the women found it painful, or what if the women had Vaginismus and couldn't tolerate penetration? I think you need to re-think your opinions slightly, sorry but there is such a thing as "incompatibility" for sure, and this has happened numerous times.
       
       BTW you said "Premarital Sex is either right or wrong, it has nothing to do with what we think." in one sentence, and then in the next sentence claimed that "Sex is a wonderful thing and its best when it is in the sacred union of marriage.", didn't you just say it doesn't matter what we think, immediately prior to stating your own opinion as 'gospel' ?

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    heartattack4444posted 14 years ago

    Huh, I wrote a hub on virginity that would probably offend.
    
    It's just different beliefs, that's all

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    sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

    No sex! None! Nada! Zero! Zilch! Keep your damn pants on for crying out loud!

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    thirdmilleniumposted 14 years ago

    You may say anything but it is only LUST that decides this act. Rest are all decoys.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

    Yes sir we got one for you come on in! Let's now heres a pretty little philly she's pleasured 8 men 2 for over three years! She 's willing to show you everything she knows and bear your children! She comes with a 5 year fidelity contract.
    
    Now this little Mama is in allmost new condition only three years and 4 men! She doesn't really know too much she just made some bad choices. So, we overhauled her and recently graduated from "The Madame Butterfly School of How to be aReal Woman.

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       mistyhorizon2003posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       LOL LOL LOL

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    because it feels good, geez ?

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       Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       and it is one of our most basic and profound survival instincts. It is right up there with breathing.

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    pay2cEMposted 14 years ago

    Wouldn't you test drive a car before you bought it?

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       mistyhorizon2003posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       LOL, yes, of course

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    What if there was no marriage could we have sex then?  Geez !!

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    Pearldiverposted 14 years ago

    What a completely useless waste of Rauchy Hours
    
    That's Like Saying: A piece of paper should act like a contraceptive
    
    Ssshh what a boring party....
    
    Or Are You an Ugly Bug??? 

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    pay2cEMposted 14 years ago

    Hey, it's not premarital sex if you don't plan on getting married. I'm just sayin'.

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       Genycisposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       LOL!!  Nice!
       
       I'd have to say that it's probably better to find out before marriage if two people are sexually and intimately compatible.. I understand the whole "old fashioned" thoughts of abstaining, but then it's also a double edged sword in that, now you finally get married, and you both find out that the intimacy is not possible or not comfortable.  The same to me with living together awhile prior to marriage.. better to find out about a person before going for that long term commitment with them, than to be open to all kinds of surprises later on.

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          Sa Toyaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I couldn't agree more...I'm a virgin and believer in God but it's a struggle I want to have sex. The only reason I'm not is because I want to have sex in a relationship and I'm single a la mo. The thing is religion or its teachers just don't seem to get it. I'm not sure they can apply life to it. I believe in God and pray everyday but He's not going to make me less horny. I'm not going to become a whore or anything but I also think it's important to have sex and possibly live with the person you plan to marry.
          
          I don't think premarital sex is the reason for all the divorce rates. People take baggage into relationships that can be sex related but not always.
          
          Not knowing exactly who you're now tied to before getting married leads to divorce and I'm sure shit sex would too.
          
          It's hard, I think about it all the time- it puts me off looking for someone to be with as well.

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    Poppa Bluesposted 14 years ago

    Sex is good anytime! In fact I could use some right now!

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    tantrumposted 14 years ago

    YOU ALWAYS HAVE TO TRY, WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO BUY !

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       lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        

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    getitriteposted 14 years ago

    If I'm in my forties and never been married, I should be a virgin, right?! !!
    
    ...or even fifty or sixty!

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    sex isn't everything

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    Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years ago

    What is sex again? I forget...

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       lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        

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    sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

    If setting a good examlpe doesn't matter, then love the one you're with.

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    fyxerposted 14 years ago

    Try before you buy comes to mind---what if after you get married you find out that the equipment is not working,then what?
    But if you try a couple times then you are able to say  hmmm i can work with this,need a little tune up  but i can definately work with this.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

    Probably not a great idea.

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       Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       It was in my case

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    sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

    Go stand in the corner!

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    Colebabieposted 14 years ago

    No thanks! I'm goin' out!

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    creepyposted 14 years ago

    Its gotta be prior, cuz it ain't gonna happen after

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    OregonWinoposted 14 years ago

    I would be very interested to see a study on the correlation between pre-marital sex and fidelity later in marriage and divorce rates.

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    really if you have sex theirs no need to get married

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       Bovine Currencyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       hey you

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    SweetiePieposted 14 years ago

    Lots of people have sex before they get married.  Getting married is about deciding to want to spend the rest of your lives together, and then making it official.  People do not have to get married, but who cares if people have sex before they are married.  Moreover, some of us never get married, and is it realistic to think that we would never have sex?

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       Barressyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Let me get one thing right,is there no beauty in virginity?

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          Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Virginity? This is a myth. It's a system of control.

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    

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    Poppa Bluesposted 14 years ago

    Sex is good! I like sex!

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    Colebabieposted 14 years ago

    That is nice to know Mikel.

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       Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       what? I mean which statement are you refering to?

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          Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          The one about your daughter. Although I hope Sneako was kidding about asking fathers for permission. It is nice to know you trust her and respect her decision to be sexually active.

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             Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Thanks, and Hey I raised her...what's not to trust... 

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    cheaptrickposted 14 years ago

    I visited an uncle in the tiny Italian town I was born in when I was a young man considering marriage.
    
    The emphasis they put on remaining a virgin and waiting until your wedding night for sex made a lot of sense.
    
    the experience of sex for the first time coupled with the commitment of the"till death do you part"intensity of marriage creates a bond that is unbreakable.
    
    The divorce rate in Italy is almost nonexistent.
    Of course that may have something to do with the Catholic Church kicking your Ass if you even think about it.
    In any case it was way to late for me.but I thought that was a great rationalization.

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       Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       My Italian Ex-wife (married 18 divorced 7ish now) and I didn't wait, she is from a very small town in Sardegnia, Italy where I met her and lived for about 7 years. The Italian mind set towards marriage is completely different than ours in almost every way, to say that my 3 year long engagement was and is considered a rushed engagement tells you lots. But pre- marital sex was common place even back then circa 1984... So I have to disagree with your observation.

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          cheaptrickposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Ouch! Ouch! Ouch!
          
          You mean to tell me that MY country men are humping before marriage!
          I'm gonna call the Pope!
          Those people should have there"I'm Italian"cards pulled and they should be forced to become Swedish or Ukranian...
          
          PS:I just figured out what LMAO means and I LMAO...

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             Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             ... actually.... I don't really know if the guys were... but the women sure as hell were, I have some great still shots of several of them...

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                cheaptrickposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                Do they still braid there arm pits?
                I think thats so sexy,It looks good with the moustache.
                
                Best thing about being an Italian man is we know better than to piss off an Italian woman!
                
                That is our secret for long life!
                Sleep with one eye open after that lol.

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                   Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   LOL yes...ewww
                   Yea, Tell me about that Italian women anger management problem...

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    Beth100posted 14 years ago

    Try it on to make sure it fits before you buy.

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    yenajeonposted 14 years ago

    Im assuming only religious people would care to keep to a tradition like that anyway. Most people who don't follow that probably don't care.

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    Carmen Borthwickposted 14 years ago

    So waiting until marriage... hmmm... sounds rather archaic to me. Do you honestly think your/our parents waited? I'm all for trying the shoe on before you buy it theory. Sex is an important part of a relationship and if you can't dance well, it won't work out in the long run, if a kiss doesn't make you want more then why bother? And if the kiss feels good years later you made the right choice. In the long run if you can't be friends as well as lovers then you won't be happy or fulfilled. Eventually it all boils down to that. Sex will wane, but enjoying each others company shouldn't. I taught my kids to respect the opposite sex and never make the other feel badly about whatever may happen. Its healthy and normal to have sex before marriage, its how you learn, as long as you learn the right lessons.

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       Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Well Said.

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    theirishobserver.posted 14 years ago

    Please...

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