Why is it we never forget our first love even if there was never even so much as a kiss?
This seems to be true for everyone and I would think the second love would wipe out the memory of the first. Is this true or just my imagination?
For me (and I'd think, for a lot of people), it's not a matter of it's being "first love" but just a matter of recalling pretty much all of the more "notable" things from childhood through to the present. For me, memories just get added to whatever memories are already there. New ones don't replace the older ones.
We remember all kinds of "notable" (for lack of a better word) people from childhood - a kindly neighbor, a mean neighbor, the grandchild of the people across the street and who only visits during summer, the guy who owned the corner store, and on and on and on. For me, first "love" wasn't really any more memorable than any of those. It does, however, make a cuter story to write or tell.
Falling in love for the first time involves unbridled emotions, raging hormones, butterflies in the stomach, fairytale beliefs about the future of ever after together. You've never been hurt or had your heart broken. Therefore you don't hold anything back emotionally.
After you've had your first breakup or that first love is out of your life you can't help but become a little wiser simply knowing not everything works out the way you hope it will. Once you've gone through an experience you can never truly recapture the complete "newness" you felt the first time around. Eventually the "unexpected" becomes the expected. You become more guarded emotionally.
If you've had multiple relationships over your life span you recognize there is an "infatuation phase" with every (new) relationship. Your first love though was not seen in your eyes as being a "normal" part of falling in love because you had never done it before!
We tend to remember our "first" of everything we consider an important phase of our life: first job, first car, first apartment, first time we kissed, and the first time we had sex. No matter how many jobs, cars, apartments, kisses, or times we have had sex we will always remember (the first) whether it was a good or bad experience.
This will sound funny, but I think of my second love as being "my first love". I think my first love was a puppy love - not very mature, with a lot to learn. But it is the age and the time maybe that brings a certain memory. "My first true love" I could never ever forget.
Gosh, that's a funny question. My first crush was in second grade, and he was my aunt's nephew on the other side of the family. He was so cute! I was so disappointed when he moved to another school district after that year. However, I saw him occasionally at my uncle and aunt's house for several years. He lost his cuteness when he grew up and is just an average looking man today (Isn't that typical?). He is still married to his first wife and they have grandchildren. While we don't keep in touch, we are still friends.
First love is rarely forgotten because of that special moment you shared or felt.
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