Why is it we never forget our first love even if there was never even so much as

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  1. Jackie Lynnley profile image85
    Jackie Lynnleyposted 10 years ago

    Why is it we never forget our first love even if there was never even so much as a kiss?

    This seems to be true for everyone and I would think the second love would wipe out the memory of the first. Is this true or just my imagination?


  2. Lisa HW profile image63
    Lisa HWposted 10 years ago

    For me (and I'd think, for a lot of people), it's not a matter of it's being "first love" but just a matter of recalling pretty much all of the more "notable" things from childhood through to the present.  For me, memories just get added to whatever memories are already there.  New ones don't replace the older ones.   hmm

    We remember all kinds of "notable" (for lack of a better word) people from childhood - a kindly neighbor, a mean neighbor, the grandchild of the people across the street and who only visits during summer, the guy who owned the corner store, and on and on and on.  For me, first "love" wasn't really any more memorable than any of those.  It does, however, make a cuter story to write or tell.    smile

    1. Jackie Lynnley profile image85
      Jackie Lynnleyposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Lisa for sharing that.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image80
    dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

    Falling in love for the first time involves unbridled emotions, raging hormones, butterflies in the stomach, fairytale beliefs about the future of ever after together. You've never been hurt or had your heart broken. Therefore you don't hold anything back emotionally.
    After you've had your first breakup or that first love is out of your life you can't help but become a little wiser simply knowing not everything works out the way you hope it will. Once you've gone through an experience you can never truly recapture the complete "newness" you felt the first time around. Eventually the "unexpected" becomes the expected. You become more guarded emotionally.
    If you've had multiple relationships over your life span you recognize there is an "infatuation phase" with every (new) relationship. Your first love though was not seen in your eyes as being a "normal" part of falling in love because you had never done it before!
    We tend to remember our "first" of everything we consider an important phase of our life: first job, first car, first apartment, first time we kissed, and the first time we had sex. No matter how many jobs, cars, apartments, kisses, or times we have had sex we will always remember (the first) whether it was a good or bad experience.

    1. Jackie Lynnley profile image85
      Jackie Lynnleyposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Mine was 3rd grade, I didn't quite experience all that. lol

  4. craiglyn profile image53
    craiglynposted 10 years ago

    This will sound funny, but I think of  my second love as being "my first love".  I think my first love was a puppy love - not very mature, with a lot to learn.   But it is the age and the time maybe that brings a certain memory.   "My first true love" I could never ever forget.  smile

    1. Jackie Lynnley profile image85
      Jackie Lynnleyposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Well my first love was in 3rd grade and not serious of course though I did go on "loving" him for quite a few more years.
      I know what you mean though. Thanks for saying.

  5. MizBejabbers profile image87
    MizBejabbersposted 10 years ago

    Gosh, that's a funny question. My first crush was in second grade, and he was my aunt's nephew on the other side of the family. He was so cute! I was so disappointed when he moved to another school district after that year. However, I saw him occasionally at my uncle and aunt's house for several years. He lost his cuteness when he grew up and is just an average looking man today (Isn't that typical?). He is still married to his first wife and they have grandchildren. While we don't keep in touch, we are still friends.

    1. Jackie Lynnley profile image85
      Jackie Lynnleyposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      That is a wonderful story MizBejabbers, pretty good ending too!

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      MizBejabbersposted 10 years agoin reply to this


  6. shuaibvp profile image57
    shuaibvpposted 10 years ago


    1. Jackie Lynnley profile image85
      Jackie Lynnleyposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      As simple as that, no doubt.

  7. DDE profile image48
    DDEposted 10 years ago

    First love is rarely forgotten  because of that special moment you shared or felt.


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