How would you break up a couple you don't want to be together?
A couple found each other in an arranged relationship and you don't want him to marry her because you would lose his friendship what would you do in such a situation?
If your friend is happy with the arrangement, I'd say that you should stay out of it and mind your own business.
Absolutely nothing. If the two individuals are happy to enter the arranged relationship then you should give them your blessing, as a true friend would.
Also, if you were foolish enough to interfere in this relationship, you would ultimately end up being ostracized yourself.
Another couple's relationship is really not something we should interfere in. I could see maybe saying something to your friend if you thought he was in danger or something, but that doesn't sound like the case here. I think it's necessary to allow these two adults to make their own decision regarding the marriage.
I've never broken up a couple before but I had someone try to do it to me.
I had been in a serious relationship for some time. A co-worker told my ex that she felt I was going to take advantage of him because he brought more to the relationship than I did financially. The truth was we were equally paired on the finance scale. In fact, I had more to lose. It really put a strain on our relationship though that he was influenced by someone for saying such a thing.
Coming in between someone you care about happiness is the quickest way to lose them forever. I personally wouldn't try to break them up. Just let them be, and time will sort it all out.
But is it for us to say that this other couple should not be together?
If there is a true friendship between you and the person that is entering the relationship with some one else then that true friendship will endure anything. But I don't believe that anyone should try and keep other people apart and not to share their love and affections with each other.
I wouldn't. It is the height of selfishness to want to break apart the couple just so you can remain friends with the man.If the marriage is going to make him happy, you should be happy for him and encourage the relationship.
I would say stop being selfish! It's not your place to step in to break up a couple because (you) don't want them to be together.
Life is a personal journey and people are allowed to make their own decisions. If this person has chosen to honor the tradition of having an "arranged marriage" then that is their right.
A "platonic friendship" does not have to end simply because someone gets married. In fact both couples can double date or spend time together. However if the real concern has to do with romantic notions then it would be torture to be around this person when they are committed to someone else. You're probably better off not seeing this person and just focus on your own marriage/relationship.
I would say back the heck off and leave them alone. It is up to them to decide if they want to be together. If you are truly a friend, you will be supportive and not manipulate things to suit you.
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