How can you build a already damaged relationship?

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   Mariahcherryl21posted 11 years ago

   How can you build a already damaged relationship?
   
   Are you or me building a relationship that isn't their anymore , is it possible.........
   
   

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   luvtoowriteposted 11 years ago

   It takes two to build a damaged relationship. If one partner does not want to repair the damage, there isn't much you can do about it. The best thing I can think of, is to take a step back, discuss the problem and options, then give each other some space. They say time heals all wounds.

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   merej99posted 11 years ago

   I agree with everything luvtoowrite said so I'm going to piggyback on his reply.  You have to ask yourself - what damaged the relationship in the first place?  If it is psychological, emotional or physical abuse then there is nothing to build - get out of that situation immediately.  If it's a lack of communication then both parties needs to shut up and LISTEN to their partner instead of thinking about what their next argument/case/statement is going to be. If there is a lack of trust is it because they did something wrong to break that trust or are you carrying old baggage and projecting it onto your partner? Forgiving is a grace unless it cannot be forgiven - in which case - it's probably best to part ways and move on before you tear each other apart.

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   DDEposted 11 years ago

   You can rebuild a damage relationship if you think  still have feelings for each other it is senseless trying to build a relationship  that makes you feel drained of your energy.

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   It really depends on what type of damage has been done. Not every relationship was meant to last. Sometimes you're better off walking away from a broken piece of glass instead of cutting up yourself trying to put it back together again.
   There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: we either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Below are some famous quotes.
   “Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.” — unknown
   “I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was.” – unknown

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   lburmasterposted 11 years ago

   You cannot build a relationship that already exists. "Fixing" or "rebuilding" the relationship is how you want to create a stronger relationship. Yes, you can always rebuild a relationship but it is never easy. First, you must take into account what is harming the relationship. This could be anything from the loss of a family member, arguments, miscommunication, etc. More likely, there are numerous pieces harming this relationship so it might be best to make a list. Second, review your list. What can we do about each point? Therapy for the loss of a family member? Coping strategies? Anger management? Self-reflection? A method for how to handle arguments is almost always beneficial. Is one of the participants in the relationship an introvert? Do they need reflection time for a topic to provide full communication to get their thoughts across? Etc. Some couples cannot do this alone and so it is a good idea to visit a counseling center near you. If you are short of funds, search for a counseling master's program at a university near you. They often offer discount, or even free, counseling to the community as their students need a certain number of hours with clients.

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