I agree that friendship happens on it's own also, but there are others who feel that it's a requirement to have friends on their job. That is where the problem come in. Every one who says they are your friend is not your friend.
It is important to build relationships with your colleges,as long as it's just a friendship.It's good to have people you work well with.But,building a different kind of relationship with a co-worker can be very messy.Keep it professional.
I think that becoming close friends with a co-worker can lead to messy situations, but it's always a good idea to be on good terms with them. If you really hit it off with someone, it would be silly to forgo building a relationship, but there's no need to be best buddies with your coworkers.
I think you need to be able to get along with people but don't "need" to be friends with anyone. Then again, friendships happen. I've made friends at work, then someone leaves the company (unrelated reasons), and the friendship has remained. I met my husband at work. (Romance happens too. ) We were two single, twenties, people. We ate lunch together and talked after work, before going home. It didn't affect either of our work. I was the one to eventually leave. He stayed. We stayed together. You don't have to let things be messy if you become friends (or more) with someone. I pretty much think it's normal to make friends wherever anyone is.
Lisa, that is good news! I am happy things worked out for you and your sweetheart. I remember a time when 2 coworkers started dating on a job where I was employed. They broke up, and the woman was hurt, but they had to see each other faces everyday. I knew that was a challenge. It's a good thing you didn't have to go through that.
At what point would you graduate an acquaintance to a friend; when would you consider someone to have truly earned your friendship trust? When would you say wholeheartedly that someone is your truly tested and trusted...