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Why are Women more attracted to Bad Men ?

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    Mithlesh348posted 3 years ago

    Why are Women more attracted to Bad Men ?

  2. ChristinS profile image97
    ChristinSposted 3 years ago

    We're not - at least not when we get a little older and wiser.  The whole "bad boy" thing I think tends to be overstated.  Most women I know look for a decent, honest man.  It could be that "bad men" are better manipulators and know how to control women by telling them what they want to hear etc.

  3. itssarahj profile image59
    itssarahjposted 3 years ago

    I think the view that women are attracted to bad men can a bit skewed or judged a little out of hand. From my observation, women are nurturing and this is just human nature. We like to care for everything and add our soft touch to the people we care about. Women probably tend to be attracted to bad men because they appear troubled. And as women, we like to think that we can "change" their ways and give them a sense of our loving and caring nature. Many times its a big let down but in my experience with my last boyfriend, he was definitely troubled and had insecurities. He actually changed his ways, went to therapy, and even took precautions to being a better man for me. I never asked him for any of that, I never asked him to change, to go to therapy, or anything. I just loved him, nurtured him, and showed him I care and believe in him. This was enough for him to be a better person, he was motivated to treat me the way he felt I deserved, which is incredibly touching. We are not together at the moment because I am studying in college in another town and "finding contentment with myself". I hope this answers your questions.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    They're not attracted to "bad men".
    However many of them especially in their youth go through a "bad boy" phase. The "bad boy" is often seen as a (challenge). He is a mystery, someone women feel they have to compete or somehow (win) his attention to "earn" his love. He's unpredictable and never boring. Odds are other women want him and guys want to be like him. He's super confident and exudes "excitement".
    I've often said you can stick a woman in a room with five men and have four of them get on their knees extending their heart out towards her professing their love while the 5th guy sits in a corner sipping on a cocktail and acting like she does not exist. That will be the guy she wants to get to know! LOL!
    One famous quote goes:
    "We ignore those who adore us and adore those who ignore us."
    Having said  that us men are also known for chasing women "out of our league". No guy wants to go out with a girl/woman simply because she is "nice". They want the best looking girl they can attract. Oftentimes this is a man's motivation to become rich, famous or powerful. In fact quite a few men believe if they can become successful enough they can have any woman they want.
    Maybe there would be less "sour grapes" if "nice guys" chased after "nice girls" and vice versa. It's human nature to place more value on things that are (harder) to acquire.

  5. married2medicine profile image71
    married2medicineposted 3 years ago

    Christin just hit the nail on the head! Bad men are manipulative, calculative, well informed and in most cases, they do their homework well, even before approaching the lady. Also, another huge factor to this is when the lady is not fully matured or exposed, the figure they constantly see on the TV or read on magazines becomes their fantasy crush and whoever does not compliment such a fantasy has no chance in breaking through her heart.

    But with time and maturity, a lot of decent women never consider such choices. In my university days, a lot of good guys were becoming something else just to fit into the "bad boy" dominated environment we were in And yet a few intelligent guys who were in fact "hibernating" were sort after by ladies from all corners. And then I realized another huge point which changed this mentality. Even in their "unexposed" phase of life, as a guy, be very good at ONE PARTICULAR THING! And the ladies who are attracted to guys with such a feature will come knocking at your door of interest! One final thing I want to say is, women are very complicated beings and it would be disaster if you tag them with a one way formula. One of my "good guy turned bad dude" friend regretted it, as even with his swag, his new and enticing charisma, his money and his language flows; the ladies weren't forth coming!

    So, if you find a girl who wants to date someone similar to Usher or nelly or Eminem or any of such individuals, give her some space and look else where... In a few years time, you will marvel at her new taste of men!