Is it possible for two people to divorce and remain best of friends?

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  1. backporchstories profile image79
    backporchstoriesposted 4 years ago

    Is it possible for two people to divorce and remain best of friends?

    Can you really love someone enough to let them go and remain friends for life?  Forgiveness granted, pain passes and what remains is honest caring.  Has anyone experienced this and succeeded?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    Anything is possible.
    My guess is there are better odds if the couple has children together and their divorce did not entail infidelity.
    Couples without children have very little reason to stay in contact enough to be considered "best friends".
    Even those couples who plan to be friends often see a shift when one or both of them falls in love with new people. It's also not unusual for their new mates to put pressure on them create distance. This is especially true if there are no children involved. Not many people will put a "platonic friendship" ahead of the person they're "in love" with.

    1. backporchstories profile image79
      backporchstoriesposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      The relationship was more spiritual than anything else.  No children.  But I agree with your comment for the most part.

  3. Penny G profile image69
    Penny Gposted 4 years ago

    Well i divorce someone I doubt if I want to be their friend, otherwise I would still be married to them. I know a lot of people who are, which makes me think that maybe they should have been just friends instead of getting married. I also see the friend thing  as the easy way out, less commitment, more freedom, finances divided, hmm, maybe the way to go after all!

    1. backporchstories profile image79
      backporchstoriesposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      It turns out that finding peace in the relationship has lifted a lot of stress.

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    Dave36posted 4 years ago

    No not if your still in love with them, if you are you should avoid your ex like the plaque..You should avoid your ex & go & try to make your self happy, & eventually meet a new guy/girl..Once a person has found all the things that make them happy first, & then they find a partner that's when if they wanted they could be friends with their ex..Of course by that stage they don't want to be friends with their ex, as they've got a new better one!lol..Splitting up is the same process as grieving for a loved one who's died, our mind tree as it's called will try to cling on to our past memories, rather than let them go & build new stories/memories..& everything they think about will be connected to their ex somehow through their mind tree, & the longer the relationship the bigger the mind tree..So depending on how many times we go over our past in our mind tree/our memory, depends on how long it takes us to stop hurting from a break up..So the best way about it all is to fill our lives with things we love doing, & new friends hobbies etc & build new probably better mind stories..That will make the breakdown of your last mind tree/relationship easier, & quicker to break down..Leaving you in a great position where you won't attach feelings/emotions to your ex, & will be able to be friends if so wished....They say the best way to get over the last guy, is to get under a new one!lol....I wouldn't go that far but the philosophy is similar, meet new people whilst doing what you love & you will meet another guy you love..Otherwise if you still love this guy it will hurt you to be near him & not be together, & impossible to be friends.

    1. backporchstories profile image79
      backporchstoriesposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      To tell you the truth...I have decided I have choices...I can either be the "Victim"...or I could be the "Judge"...or I could be the "Healer".  I have found peace and have I choose ...Healer!  I am very excited about my future!

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      Dave36posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Good for you mate, i think you've made the right choice..Keep busy doing stuff you love, stay positive, & the rest will work like magic..If you do ever have a bad day just see it as "to be expected", & don't read anything into it.


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