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Why we get angry and argue more often with our parents when they scold us even i

  1. kumarlaltu profile image74
    kumarlaltuposted 3 years ago

    Why we get angry and argue more often with our parents when they scold us even if they are right?

    Is that ego that leads to this even if we have done something wrong still we don't accept our faults.Even though we are mature enough to understand and handle the situation still we don't do it and ultimately end up hurting our parents.


  2. Venkatachari M profile image46
    Venkatachari Mposted 3 years ago

    It may be or may not be ego. We like freedom and self decision making and are capable of making self-assessment. When something goes wrong, we already realize it and are worried about it. In the meantime, your parents may interfere and put blame on you making the situation more worse. You are already worried and wanting to mend things before it can be pointed out to you. So your frustration increases and show it in terms of anger and fighting with your parents. So, I think frustration is the primary cause for your anger. In such circumstances, we need some consolation instead of scolds.

  3. askformore lm profile image69
    askformore lmposted 3 years ago

    I believe that it is very normal to get angry when we are scolded by our parents. 
    In fact, I do believe that we are more likely to get angry if the scolding is rightful, compared to how we would react if we are being scolded without reason. 
    The same pattern is repeated when we as adults are being corrected (scolded) by our boss. 
    So if we are being corrected rightfully, why do we then become angry?   
    And whom do we actually get angry at?
    Well, basically we get angry at ourselves! 
    As an adult we keep this anger within ourselves.  Whereas we as children show our anger openly, but the anger is directed towards our parents (even though we deep inside very well know that we ourselves are to be blamed)

    1. kumarlaltu profile image74
      kumarlaltuposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      very well said

  4. peachpurple profile image81
    peachpurpleposted 3 years ago

    When i was a teen, i couldn't agree with my mom for her stupid reasons. I always argue with her and end up i get beaten up by het with an umbrella or cane. Everyone has different opinions, problem is nobody is willing to listen

    1. kumarlaltu profile image74
      kumarlaltuposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah when we were in our teenage days,we couldn't decide the outcome of our actions and ultimately end up getting scolded but when we are mature enough to handle situation we don't do it even if we are wrong.

  5. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    In my era there was no such thing as "arguing with your parents."  You either did what you were told or you paid the price by getting your ass whipped. You didn't talk back, roll your eyes, or stomp off up the stairs. If I had ever yelled at my mother the next word I would have heard would have been CLEAR! (as the medical team pressed the defibrillator paddles against my chest.) LOL!
    More children were hurt during their "formative years" because they weren't allowed to express themselves or have much of a say in any choices during their childhood. We couldn't wait to get away! I mean go away to college. smile There were no "boomerang kids".
    You left home and you never wanted to move back.

  6. liesl5858 profile image87
    liesl5858posted 3 years ago

    When I was young, I try not to argue with my parents because I am afraid of being caned or whipped. My parents were not strict but they wanted us to follow the right path. I think when we are young we always think we know best than our parents and sometimes we make excuses for our mistakes instead of accepting it that we are wrong. I never shouted at my parents though like some kids do this days.