What else should I do to stop my lingering crush on someone?

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   Chelsea Dyanposted 10 years ago

   What else should I do to stop my lingering crush on someone?
   
   I don't always talk about my love interests and in fact I try to push away my feelings simply because I'm still young and not allowed to be in a relationship yet. Considering that this someone is a friend of mine and so far I've succeeded not contacting him or visiting his social media pages, what then should I do when school starts again next week and I might meet him face to face? What else should I do to get rid of my feelings?

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   Sri Tposted 10 years ago

   Focus on your career plans. In the long run, your career and your income will be more important than any relationship. Money will become the priority sooner or later. It will determine how much freedom you have. Relationships will come naturally when the time is right. Also, some relationships are fleeting because people change and move on. So it's just entertainment, unless you have found the right person for you.

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   CallaLizzyposted 10 years ago

   Nobody's perfect. Maybe, when you see him, you could try focusing on things that aren't good about him. He's probably a great guy, since you like him for a reason, but everyone has flaws and everyone makes mistakes. Try focusing on those flaws when you see him.

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   DDEposted 10 years ago

   Avoid that person and move on with your life. Meet goals and take  up new interests

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   peachpurpleposted 10 years ago

   Occupy yourself with other activities, get it far away from him and discard whatevervthings that may bring you memories

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   Your profile states you are a (college student) and yet you say: "I'm still young and not allowed to be in a relationship yet."
   By and large most college students are considered to be "adults" and do not need anyone's "permission" to date or enter into a relationship.
   Life is a (personal) journey. You're entitled to live your life your way.
   The only thing that can stop you from being in a relationship with someone is if they do not have a mutual interest in you.
   Rejection is part of life. Thankfully there are over 7 Billion people!
   However if you truly want to "move on" then stop trying to (avoid) thinking about someone and instead focus on thinking about whatever you want.
   The goal is to (replace) one thought with another. Whenever we try to "avoid" anything it means we're still thinking about it!
   If you were soaring down a hill on a roller coaster odds are you wouldn't be thinking about this person because your (focus) would be elsewhere. On the other hand it may be worth it to explore dating him!

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      Chelsea Dyanposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      thanks for this very insightful comment dashingscorpio!
      I'm sorry though that I failed to explain further that while I am not allowed to be in a relationship yet, personally I agree with my parents and as an 'adult', I choose to stay single now

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Well since (you don't want to date anyone) it should be easy for you to move on especially if he is not pursuing you.
      Best wishes!

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      sprickitaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      This answer is all inclusive perfect.
      VERY WELL SAID AND EXPLAINED 
      Love the last bit, the for instance u give. It sums up ur point while painting  a picture - & it made me grin. => ty

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