How can respectful dialogue occur if a person refuses to have any dialogue!?

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   Oztinatoposted 10 years ago

   How can respectful dialogue occur if a person refuses to have any dialogue!?
   
   Just had another odd chat on HP about having respectful dialogue on HP but the Hubber refuses to chat. Is that respectful?

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   Stargrrlposted 10 years ago

   If someone does not want to chat with you, consider it as them doing you a favor.  You've dodged a bullet.  Most likely this person is arrogant and has nothing beneficial to say to anyone.  There are plenty of other rubbers out there who will give you good conversation.  You're better off without this Hubber.  Some people are only here to play games with others.

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      Oztinatoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I would like to help her get over her communication problems.

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      Stargrrlposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I think I know to whom you refer. She's not worth it.

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      Oztinatoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I feel a bizarre attraction to her. Its that 50 shades thing.

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      Stargrrlposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Oh God, ew.  You do realize she plays for her own team, don't you?

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      Oztinatoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah but I love her lash. I sense she plays for both teams. Call it a vulcan mind meld.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Oztinato, Very few people are walking around with a hand held up in the air screaming:
      "I'm looking for someone to change me!"
      You may be the one with the communication problem as you seem unable to understand they aren't interested. Move on!

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      Oztinatoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Dashing
      The inner person can be calling out unobtrusively.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Too funny!
      Oztinato there are over 7 Billion other people on the planet!
      Move on to someone who is more receptive to having a dialogue with you. Let it go.

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      Oztinatoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I will just be patient. "The force is strong with this one" or "Strong with this one is the Force".

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   Romanianposted 10 years ago

   If you don't know what to say, you prefer to not say anything. Sometimes it's better to not have any kind of dialogue, than a dialogue with insults. I f he isn't responding, means that he is might recognising his mistakes.

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   Why would you want to chat with someone who has no desire to chat with you? Each of us gets to (choose) how we want to spend our time and with whom we want to engage with.
   Periodically it's up to us to (respect) and (accept) the fact some people have no desire to engage with us.
   Rejection may sting but it won't kill you. Move on!

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      Oztinatoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Because they want to analyze what causes a breakdown in communication on HP.!

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      What causes a breakdown in communication is when one or both parties decides they through talking!
      Grant me the serenity to (accept) the things I cannot change, change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

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      Oztinatoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Re the question: therefore that would be disrespectful dialogue.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Re the question. It's disrespectful not to give people their space when you know they're not in a talking mood. Trying to get someone to do something against their will is not polite.
      If someone desires to speak with you they will contact you.

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      Oztinatoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      The person claims to want to have respectful dialogue. You cant have that without dialogue. Conundrum.

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      Lady Guinevereposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Do you have any idea what country they live in or their weather conditions?  They may be sick too, you never know on the internet what is going on with another.  Patience and some respect for them goes a long way. It isn't always just about you.

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      Oztinatoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I feel I need to be "there when they are ready".

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   manatita44posted 10 years ago

   Silence is a very powerful kind of dialogue. It may be sharp, negative and painful, or quite positive, actually.
   
   It may be sometimes a blessing that we do or did not get a response which may hurt infinitely more than the silent response.
   
   It is also the nature of humans to protect themselves, and if your friend is anything like me, some responses can be quite predictable and may be necessary to avoid by simply remaining silent. In this case, the adage that silence is golden, becomes a very meaningful one, however painful.
   
   It is generally an active mind that seeks answers. The heart already knows. Much peace.

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      Oztinatoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Good answer! But she has a hub asking for respectful dialogue.

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      manatita44posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I see your point, and yes, perhaps there is some irony there. Us humans do not always behave the way we're expected to. Still, leave her to God. Peace.

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