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Have you ever dropped a friend because you had a career and they just had a low-

  1. EclecticFusion profile image78
    EclecticFusionposted 6 years ago

    Have you ever dropped a friend because you had a career and they just had a low-paying job?

    I had a good friend do this to me when she started her "career" in the insurance field. It hurt, but it's okay...she's boring now!

    Note: Before I get bashed, I'm not saying that those in the insurance business are all boring. I'm sure it's just her.

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  2. lockgirl profile image60
    lockgirlposted 6 years ago

    For someone to drop you as a friend due to your economic status is very low. This person was not a true friend. A true friend is there for you through the good and the bad , the highs and lows, not matter where you are in your life. I have had the same three true friends for over twenty years , yes we do not talk every day but we are there for each other no matter where we are in our lives.

  3. annart profile image87
    annartposted 6 years ago

    No, I've never done that or had it done to me, luckily.  Seems to me that she wasn't a good friend to start with.  Real friends don't take any notice whether you've got a better or worse job than them; real friends love you whatever happens and stick by you through thick and thin.  You can pick up a conversation with a real friend after not seeing them for a while, as if there were no time in between.  Good luck to you and I'm sure you've got lots of great friends who are heaps better than that one was - glad to hear she's boring now!  Good for you.

  4. NiaLee profile image61
    NiaLeeposted 6 years ago

    No and I hope I will never do something like that...the reason could be if the person behaves in a way that hurts me or shows they have a problem with me making it better...which did happen...
    I have been dropped for that, friends who now try to call me to know how i am doing after almost a decade so see if there is anything for them there...I  pretend things are low and I don't hear from them again!!!LOL
    Yes, some people are just users, vampires, friends of success and help you can give them... we are lacking humanity and affection those days.

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    Sooner28posted 6 years ago

    That doesn't sound like a true friend to me.

  6. LisaKoski profile image94
    LisaKoskiposted 6 years ago

    I've had a friend do something similar. It hurt at first but then I realized that that just means they weren't a real friend so I really didn't lose anything. Who Knows, maybe they'll try to get back into contact with you one of these days once they realize how horrible they were for doing that. It's up to you then to decide whether or not they're worth your time.

  7. ChristinS profile image95
    ChristinSposted 6 years ago

    I had this happen to me an old friend decided she was better than me and I was sad at first but then soon said "good riddance" - People who look down their noses at you are not worth your friendship now are they?  I have friends from all walks of life and enjoy the unique flavor they bring to my experience.

  8. lburmaster profile image83
    lburmasterposted 6 years ago

    If she is boring, then slowly fade away. It's not her job from what you are talking about. It's her reaction to her job. Talk to her less and less. But still a little at a time. Show her that there is not as much in common between you two any more. Slowly she will come to realize the same thing.

  9. Ramsa1 profile image61
    Ramsa1posted 6 years ago

    This is a very painful topic for me. I have never dropped a friend or family member. But I have become estranged from many members of my family including my brothers and sister. They changed. They seem to think that they are doing better than me, financially, and this seems to have caused a huge shift in their attitudes.

    I have always been loving and kind, remembering birthdays and holidays, and staying in touch, but this was not always reciprocated. So we grew apart and when our parents passed away it became worse.

    Sometimes I think think that I'm the problem, but when I meditate on it, I like who I am. I didn't move. I didn't change. They did.

  10. kkuma01 profile image59
    kkuma01posted 6 years ago

    Are you sure this is why she ended the relationship? If it truly is it just means the season for that relationship is over.

  11. YvetteParker profile image75
    YvetteParkerposted 6 years ago

    This 'friend' sounds like a very shallow person. True friendship should not be based on your status in life. If that were the case, all of my friends would have dumped me by now! Sounds like you are better off without this "friend".

  12. TIMETRAVELER2 profile image97
    TIMETRAVELER2posted 6 years ago

    No, and I never would.  Some of the neatest people I've ever met were people who really work hard for a living.  They were people from whom I could learn and who have helped me to grow.  Money doesn't matter, nor does career.  It is only the human spirit that counts.

  13. Georgie98 profile image74
    Georgie98posted 6 years ago

    I ditched all my friends in my last year of college because I wanted to pass my exams, I knew if I stayed friends with them I'd get no work done. As it turns out they're not very nice people now.
    One used me to get concert tickets for free, saying she had no money so I offered to get her a ticket for her birthday and xmas presents. I offered her an expensive corset because I didn't fit into it anymore. Then when we fell out (apparently I was bullying her =S) I asked for some money or the corset back...I got neither. She walked right over me. She is a liar, she said she doesn't have money, but she can still afford a mortgage, her boyfriend bought her a 10ft trampoline for her birthday, and when her laptop broke he just waltzed in from work handed her a new one he bought in his lunch hour. Yeah they're totally skint aren't they?! Whereas I have to rely on benefits for the rest of my life.
    I am never going to let anyone do that to me again.

  14. cleaner3 profile image75
    cleaner3posted 6 years ago

    My low paying job is my career, but... I have plans to become a snob once I gr=et a better paying job. Ahh... we have our dreams.
    I don't have a life so I don't have any friends

  15. Capedium profile image77
    Capediumposted 6 years ago

    Friendship is way much more. It is God given.. To leave a friend because He has a low paying job, simply means, He or She was never your friend.. It is not fair. And I have and don't hope to ever do that.

  16. wymyczak66 profile image92
    wymyczak66posted 6 years ago

    Not really but I've lost a couple of my best friends due to just the difference in our lifestyle. I moved away from home, went to college and got a job. They stayed at home, dropped out of college and did drugs. I know underneath it all they are the same person, but once you move on into the adult world those differences start to matter more and more. I miss them and I wish we could all hang out like old times, but we all live in different areas now and really just have different lives, and unfortunately it will never be the same again

 
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