What do I do if a boy obsesses over me?

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   Ramona Chattomposted 9 years ago

   What do I do if a boy obsesses over me?
   
   So a few weeks ago, this boy was obsessed with me and I tried to stop him. I need advice on how to get him to obsess over someone else. I'll take anything.

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   Jonathan J Millerposted 9 years ago

   I am a guy who really likes a girl, we live far apart, so the only contact we have is online or texting and I would try and contact her every day because of how much I like her or just to make sure she was still interested, and she asked me to stop nagging her.
   
   So I guess I'm a bit like the boy you are describing. So the best thing you can do is speak straight to him, tell him you do not like or want to be with him and leave no room for doubt. If he still obsesses over you do everything you can to block contact, eventually his obsession will fade away eventually.

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      Ramona Chattomposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      This boy doesn't talk online.

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   ChristinSposted 9 years ago

   You tell him flat out to stop and that you won't take harassment lightly.  I don't know how old you are - but if you are a young person in school and this boy is bothering you and will not stop then you need to bring it to the attention of administrators. 
   
   If he continues to harrass you to the point that you fear for your safety or he starts stalking you etc. then you need to report it to law enforcement. 
   
   Be very direct.  Some guys have the idea in their head that if they keep persisting, they'll wear you down.  They mean no harm they are just annoying.  In that instance, you may just have to be willing to let him down hard if he won't take a hint.  I know we tend to resist hurting feelings - but that could be sending mixed signals.  Tell him in no uncertain terms, "I'm sorry, but I am not interested in you and you need to stop pursuing me". 
   
   Never change your dress or how you act - that's ridiculous.  You are entitled to be who you are and you should not be expected to change yourself to "turn him off".  You are a human being and NO means NO.  If he cannot accept that and continues even after you have laid it all out for him, then seek help from outside sources. 
   
   Harassment is harassment and even if it isn't intended that doesn't change the fact that you, as a human being, have the right to say no and mean it.

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   chuckandus6posted 9 years ago

   after being bluntly honest with him .dont show him attention good or bad, and he will look other places.

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   TheBizWhizposted 9 years ago

   Let the hair on your legs and underarms grow. That should do the trick. Or maybe don't brush your teeth for a week and sit real close to him in the lunchroom and talk to him.

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      chuckandus6posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      this could be detrimental for your whole school dating life lol, this sounds like a dads point of view

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      TheBizWhizposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Lol. Maybe it is throwing the baby out with the bath water

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   Evaneposted 9 years ago

   Hahaha this is funny. Tell him straight if he has a chance or not.

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