Is there a 'right' age to get married? Why?

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   Shivani Galaposted 8 years ago

   Is there a 'right' age to get married? Why?
   
   We all grow up being told some day you will have to get married. However, each culture traditionally has a 'right' age to marry. Things have changed since and I wanted to know what are your opinions on this?

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   aliasisposted 8 years ago

   It's kind of a cultural question, isn't it? Even so, I don't think anyone ought to get married until they are an adult,  and I don't really consider teenagers adults. So at least age 20... but at least in most Western societies, it's pretty hard to get married until you've finished school and have started a career, because you never know where you'll have to move to do either. And I think it's also pretty typical for couples to want to save some money and be more financially stable before marrying, and hopefully able to afford moving into a house or at least nicer apartment when they marry. All those things considered, people tend to marry closer to age 30.
   
   I don't think you're ever too old to marry, of course. But late twenties seem like a good time to make serious choices about who you want your partner to be.

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      Shivani Galaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      It is cultural, but am like you pointed out current generation is slowly moving approaching it as a practical matter. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this

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   gmwilliamsposted 8 years ago

   
   
   In one mid-thirties when h/she is established educationally & career wise.  When h/she has experienced & experimented w/ varied relationship options before h/she elects to settle down with the right person.  In one's mid-thirties, one is emotionally, FINANCIALLY, & psychological prepared & mature enough to enter into marriage & perhaps, parenthood.

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      Shivani Galaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I wish you were here in India to share this with insight with my parents face-to-face. However, people end up bringing up topics like 'clock is ticking' or 'you would be too old when your kids are young'. Thanks for taking out time.

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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   
   
   It's not just about age. Some folks just aren't immature or financially equipped to provide for having a family which is still one of the top reasons why choose to get married.
   If a person hasn't completed their education or established a career path then getting married and possibly starting a family is just going to make it all the more difficult to complete those tasks under pressure.
   I believe there three reasons for high divorce rates in the U.S.
   1. Choosing the wrong mate.
   (Poor mate selection criteria, different values, deal breakers)
   2. Getting married for the wrong reasons
   (age goal, pregnancy, all their friends were married, an ultimatum)
   3. Fell out of love over time.
   (No longer share the same values and wants, romance/sex died)
   Generally speaking the older a person is the wiser they are. They also have a better idea of who (they are) along with what they want and need in a mate for life. Your "ideal mate" at age 20 most likely will not be the same traits you want in a mate at age 30. One should know what they want before pursuing marriage. 
   To do otherwise is the equivalent of going shopping without a list!
   You're likely to allow "impulsive connections" and "happenstance" to dictate your relationship choices. Too often couples commit to each other during the "infatuation phase" of a new relationship without knowing each other's "authentic selves". A hasty engagement begins a snowball effect as they become consumed with planning for the wedding. "Red flags" are dismissed as having "cold feet".
   What's the rush?
   There is nothing magical that happens the day after a wedding.
   The person you were dating or living with is not going to love you any more than they did the day before when you were their significant other or fiancé.
   Some people say marriage means commitment but truth be told the "commitment" comes {before the wedding}! No one in their right mind would choose to marry someone who has been cheating on them.
   No one would say "I do" to someone they've never talked about having a future together. If there is no belief of commitment in place people don't get married.
   Commitment is (how a couple behaves) not their marital status!
   Lots of married folks are not committed to one another.
   If someone still relies on their parents or the government for financial support  they have no business getting married at that time.
   Having said that wisdom and maturity level is much more important than age. Choosing the wrong spouse can ruin one's life!
   The wedding is just (one) day. Marriage is suppose to be for life.
   Life is a (personal) journey. Choose wisely!
   Don't let your age, friends & family dictate when and who you marry.

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   Faceless39posted 8 years ago

   There's right and wrong, but it's pretty subjective and varies with each person.
   
   It's the wrong time to get married if the only reason you're doing it is because you feel like you should, or you're supposed to.
   
   It's the right time to get married when you're in love, have taken your time, and don't feel any pressure at all.

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      "There's right and wrong, but it's pretty subjective and varies with each person." - If it's (pretty subjective and varies) then it's not something that is concrete. One is better off finding someone who (agrees) with what (they) consider right!

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